I'm afraid that there is no such thing as the "average" flare. These things seem to vary from person to person as widely as there are numbers of stars in the universe. I know exactly where you're coming from.....I'm in a major flare myself that I'm almost positive is driven by my CEBV since I'm feeling mono/flu like symptoms as well. I'd take Sherrine's and Marlee's advice like gold.....I'm about to order some of that malic acid/magnesium stuff myself from that Puritan site as I've found their price the best so far. I also find the hot bath, especially if you have a whirlpool tub, works wonders for a pretty sustained period for me!
Gentlest of hugs,