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   Posted 10/20/2008 9:28 AM (GMT -6)   
I have a part time job that I am hanging onto by a single thread. I work with some really nice people and If it weren't for that I would not have a job to go to. However, I have to call in at least once a week and when i do go I can't stay long and am usually grumpy or drugged up.
My problem is this....I HATE calling in. I never get yelled at or anything but its more like I feel like a loser. I have such a hard time accepting what this SYNDROME does to me even though I've had it for more than 20 years. I always stress about calling and when I do I get off the phone and I feel like crawling under a rock. Its all me I'm sure. Just wondering if anyone has similar feelings if you have a job and how you get over it. I just want to be normal and work like I am supposed to and not feel like a slug. I guess I can't do that huh?

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   Posted 10/20/2008 10:32 AM (GMT -6)   

Telula, if you had cancer would you feel like a slug calling in when you were sick?  How about if you had MS, or Lupus, or many other illnesses?  Of course you wouldn't!  So you shouldn't feel that way because you have fibromyalgia. 

I think, because we have to try to prove our illness, that we do feel guilty because we don't look sick.  If the people in your office are really nice and they already know that you have fibromyalgia, maybe print out some good explanations about this syndrome.  Really educate them and then thank them for their understanding.  Let them know that you are actively searching for something that will help with the pain so you are not missing so much work.  You enjoy your job and are doing everything you can to pull your weight in the office.  This is the only thing I can think of.

But, don't feel guilty.  You wouldn't call in sick if you weren't sick.  You know that and, obviously, your boss does too or you wouldn't have a job at all!  Just do the best you can.  No one can expect more than that.


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   Posted 10/20/2008 10:44 AM (GMT -6)   
thanks sherrine. I know you are right. I just needed a little kick.

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   Posted 10/20/2008 12:09 PM (GMT -6)   
I have not worked since having fibro but I do understand what you are saying about wanting to be normal. I'm sure every time you call in or have to leave work it is another reminder that you have this DD. We all want to be hard working normal people and pull our weight. I applaud you for hanging in there and trying to work as much as you can. There are many of us that try to live as normal as possible but we have to know our limits too. I would love to go buy the paint and paint my family room but I know with my shoulders and neck there is no way I can paint the ceiling and I can't get on ladders cause of my balance. I could try it but I may end up with worse problems than I already have.
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   Posted 10/20/2008 5:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Telula,

These guys are right, as long as your boss isn't getting upset because of you missing work, you shouldn't worry about it. By worrying about it, you are stressing yoursself out. When you should be resting, you are burning up your fuel by worrying.

You might end up not being able to work, but you will deal with that when the time comes. There is so many things that I can't do anymore. I know that it is frustrating, but it is also fibromyalgia. And fibromyalgia is a very frustrating disorder. A lot of us can't do what we use to. We have to learn to deal with that and move on.

I think it is wonderful that you can work as much as you do. If it gets to where you aren't able to work, or if you have to work less, I am sure that it will work out the way that it is suppose to.

Have a wonderful day,
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   Posted 10/20/2008 9:41 PM (GMT -6)   
I told my boss that I am getting treatment at a chronic pain center for some joint, muscle and autoimmune difficulties; that I am in a lot of pain, but I expect to be getting better soon. Now when I call in either for pain or doctor's appts., I do not feel guilty because I have explained. Fortunately, I am a graduate student/graduate assistant and I can do most of my work whenever and wherever I want (except teaching classes) as long as I get it done.
Hope you feel better,
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