It's difficult to deal with family and friends when you have so much pain. Why don't they understand and support us? That is so frustrating. Before I joined all of the wonderful people here, I felt the same way as you. Everyone here has given me so much support and wonderful advice and I feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I am happier and dealing with the pain better. I recently started taking the Malic Acid/Magnesium supplements that Sherrine talks about and feel they are making a difference. My head feels clearer, not so fuzzy all the time. I am also learning how to handle things better with my family and friends, although I have a long way to go, I have made progress. I give 110 percent when I am able and I think that makes up for the days I under the weather. The guilt is still there but I'm dealing with it better. Stick around with these wonderful people and I think you will feel better too. It just helps to talk to people who experience the same things you are.
Dealing with friends and family can be the worst. i got a book by Dr. Devon Starlyndl (sp?), read it and the passed it around to family. It may sound awful, but I took advantage whenever one of them had a bad case of the flu and said "Try to imagine feeling like that 24/7, well that's a lot like it feels to have fibro" Usually they just groaned and wanted to know how I kept going.
Flares are not uncommon with the change of seasons. Keep busy with your walking and exercising, but maybe a little more gently until the flare passes. Pamper yourself, soak in a hot bubble bath with a scented candle and some soothing music. Go to the salon and get your hair and nails done. Get your hubby to take you out for a nice dinner. Curl up with a warm blanket and watch a romatic movie.
You might want to try a supplement that will raise your level of seratonin, something we all lack with fibro. I like 5-HTP, but there are others out there.