STRESS!!! AHHHHH!!!!

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honeyprincess21
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   Posted 11/17/2008 10:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Okay, so stress makes FM worse, right? I always hear the docs saying "Reduce your stress, reduce your stress!" My question is, how do you REALISTICALLY do that??? I have no money, I'm past due on most bills, I'm constantly harassed by co-workers regarding my health and my live-in boyfriend is currently unemployed, depressed and very stressed out as well. I don't understand how to realistically cut out stress. My co-workers won't care if I explain to them about stress. The bill collectors sure won't care. The manager of the apartment I live in won't care. My boyfriend and family care, but there's always inevitable stressors that come from those areas, even when they don't mean to. I can only talk to people and try to inform them so much. Are there any kind of stress reducers anyone can recommend? I'm particularly looking for something that won't make me look like a Fruit Loop if I do it at my desk at work or something that won't be noticeable if I have to do it in front of my family, friends or boyfriend. I've tried breathing exercises and it doesn't seem to really work for me. Top it off with the anxiety that I have and there's no way I can get my mind to stop harping on things once I get stressed. Then my whole body tenses up and my muscles ache. PLEASE help!!! cry
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Sherrine
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   Posted 11/17/2008 10:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Honeyprincess, the best thing that I know of is the breathing technique where you breathe in through your nose and blow out through your mouth...like you are blowing through a straw or blowing out candles.  Also a hot cup of tea seems to work wonders for me.
 
Have you tried those stretching exercises in the Fibro 101 thread?  They do help relax you and you can do them on a break.  They aren't that noticable.  If someone were to ask what you were doing you could just tell them your muscles ache and this helps them feel better.  Besides, so what what they think!!!  Concentrate on feeling better and don't worry about what others may think.  They are not walking in your shoes.
 
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leemadd
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   Posted 11/17/2008 11:13 AM (GMT -7)   
I know that right now is a very stressful time for a lot of people financially. To top it off christmas is coming. We have agreed to only buy for our children and neice and nephew. No one else. It is very hard to go to work some days but I have to. I we get harassing phone calls from debt collectors as well
I try to span things out so everybody gets a little one credit card company called and offered to settle for a lower amount hello if I had 1200.00 dont ya think I could afford to pay the minimum each month.
Any way the best thing I have found is deep breathing and sometimes when I am some where in public I chew gum for some reason it seems to help. At home a nice long hot bath dim lights and a candle burning seem to help.

Green Grove
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   Posted 11/17/2008 1:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Honeyprincess. . . I wish you the best of luck with everything. The only thing that is helping me right now with stress and anxiety is walking and doing a little yoga everyday, eating better, relaxation and meditation tapes and music. . . Try any one of those and you will feel better. All of them together is wonderful for your mind and body :)
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donnaeil
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   Posted 11/17/2008 11:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Get one of those under the desk stationary bicycle type thing like. All day long you can ride your bike while you work.

This is a joke but it can be considered.

I too do not know how people can say reduce your stress. When I worried about caring for my three kids while ill it was impossible to take my mind off of stressful situations.

I only de-stressed when I had less to worry about.

However, I do swim and that is better than meditating (it's a scientific fact).

Donnaeil

julieleaps
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   Posted 11/18/2008 3:40 AM (GMT -7)   
When I was at work, I set up a recurring event in my calendar to pop up every hour. It was my reminder to get up and stretch, and/or make a concious decision to relax my body, drop my shoulders, drink my water (stress is a dehydrator). I also keep a rice bag at work, pop it in the micro whenever I was having a particularly stressful day: I store alot of my stress in my neck and shoulders, so not only did this give me comfort, it was a great nonverbal signal to my coworkers that I was having a bad day.

Maybe when you are feeling emotionally stressed you could try the same thing.

Try to take care of yourself first and remember what they tell you on the airplane: put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then reach out to help others.
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   Posted 11/18/2008 4:47 AM (GMT -7)   
This is a hard time for everybody. Especially hard this year.

I would recommend the breathing, concentrate really hard on it when you do that. Also meditation. That relieves stress for me. Works everytime. But breathing plays into that too. When you focus on your breathing, your mind isn't anywhere else. Live in the now.

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Marlee2
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   Posted 11/18/2008 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   
This has always been hard for me too. No matter how much I talk to myself and try not to react my body still does. Xanax does help me a lot with slowing the brain down but it doesn't fix problems. Right now we are able to hold our heads above water financially but who knows how long that is going to last. My DH is a small business owner and the state of the economy will hit us soon.
 
We will not be spending what we normally do this Christmas but you know it's not about how much money you have to spend for Christmas it's about spending time with loved ones. As long as the grandchildren have gifts in Santa's bag that's all that matters. Grandpa is Santa and hopefully by Christmas he will be feeling like a new man.
 
My heart does go out to all that have families and are having a hard time with rent or mortgage and utilities.
 
All we can do is put it in God's hands and hope things turn around soon.
 
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honeyprincess21
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   Posted 11/18/2008 12:06 PM (GMT -7)   
julieleaps said...
When I was at work, I set up a recurring event in my calendar to pop up every hour. It was my reminder to get up and stretch, and/or make a concious decision to relax my body, drop my shoulders, drink my water (stress is a dehydrator). I also keep a rice bag at work, pop it in the micro whenever I was having a particularly stressful day: I store alot of my stress in my neck and shoulders, so not only did this give me comfort, it was a great nonverbal signal to my coworkers that I was having a bad day.

Maybe when you are feeling emotionally stressed you could try the same thing.

Try to take care of yourself first and remember what they tell you on the airplane: put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then reach out to help others.
That's where the majority of my stress seems to go as well - neck, shoulders and my back. That reminder thing is a really good idea. I'm on the phones constantly at work and sometimes won't get up for a good 3 -4 hours. When I finally do, I sound like a bowl full of cereal -- snap, crackle and pop lol.
 
Does anyone know of any not-obvious breathing techniques? My boyfriend, bless his heart, is younger then me and sometimes can completely frustrate me. When those times arise, I need to have something that I can do to relieve stress that he won't notice and take offense to lol
 
Thank you everyone for your awesome responses! :-)
Endometriosis since 2002 diagnosis via laparoscopy
5 laparoscopies for Endometriosis from 2002 - present
Anxiety since 2004
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder since 2005
GERD since 2008
Fibromyalgia since 2008
Colonoscopy - 2008
Endoscopy (EGD) - 2008
 
Currently in Physical Therapy for Pelvic Floor spasms. Also for lower back, hip & thigh muscular problems.
 
* Baclofen
* Xanax for Anxiety
* Fish Oil Capsules
* Iron Pills
 
!!! At my wit's end with being "broken" !!!
 


Corrie_1
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   Posted 11/18/2008 5:55 PM (GMT -7)   
I use to count back from 100 whenever my anxiety got bad... but lately I've started breathing backwards from 100 while counting (Not actually "breathing backwards" but counting backwards in my head at the same pace of as I breathe... trying to slow down and breathe deeply as I can as I count down) I find this works the best for me... also having a glass of cold water :)
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