I am sorry this is happening. It is tough to be with someone when you are not happy. Do you think he would go to counseling with you? Breathing is always helpful when you get stressed. I don't believe in divorce either (but sometimes it is necessary). I hope that you can solve this problem with your husband.
I have offered for him to go with me to my Rhumy appointments, but he "can't" for one reason or another. But I go with him to any/all dr appointments he has.
I don't know...some days are good and some just stink.
We have tried counseling, but never really tackled the subject of my fibro. I stopped going because all we ever taled about was his issues (not mine).
Things are a little better today. He never actually apologizes, he just acts nicer.
I don't know what the answer is, but when I am in pain like that I just can't deal with him.
It is so strange that you suggest a letter, I just sent a huge email to him. I do walk daily (it has helped me lose over 30 lbs . I agree, it is excellent for my fibro but sometimes I still have a flare.
I went to my dr today (hubby knew I had an appointment this morning...too early for him to go with me of course) and when I got home...not a word about how my appointment went or anything. If he has to go to the dr, I am expected to go with him, but I guess that his health is the only important one (because HE works & I don't).
I just don't know........