It's been blizzarding..Owwy times ten...had an accident

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   Posted 12/20/2008 7:06 PM (GMT -6)   
I went to the store today, in a snow storm, with the sole intent on just picking up my prescription.  I got a parking spot ALMOST in the front of the store....I was shocked.  I grabbed a cart just so I could lean on something, got the prescription and decided I didn't feel that bad...started to shop for other things.  I ended up with amost $80 worth of food so I accomplished something I had been putting off for nearly a week.
It was really coming down when I got outside and pushing that cart to the van which was in eye sight, was like pushing a bus up a hill.  The slush clogged up the wheels, the stupid thing almost tipped over a half dozen times and I finally got in front of it and dragged it.  Loaded the groceries into the back.  Started the van, backed up...the wheels were spinning on the ice...then THUMP.  I thought I hit a grocery cart. Wrong...I hit another van that was trying to pull in next to me. So...I jumped out to look at the damage...I had a hair line crack in my rear bumper.  The entire side of her passenger door was caved in.  In the van she has her mother and a small child.  The mother starts asking me for all of my info...the girl calls her husband and he wants the police called.  Now this vehicle she is driving is so banged up I had a hard time distinguishing where I had done the damage.  Turns out it is a 1996 Caravan and has a "Fred's Towing Company' Logo on the so called door.  Anyway, the mother is getting impatient because she 'has things to do today' and is shaking her head in disgust.  I am freezing half to death.  I told the girl I had to sit in my van and wait for the police.  Three police cars show up and again, I am standing out in this blizzard  giving them all the info.  She is saying I didn't see her.  I am saying I was half out of the parking spot when I hit her and she was trying to get the spot next to me before the car in the other direction got to it first and tried to swerve around me.  One hour standing in the snow with no hat or gloves or boots.  I was in so much pain I finally told the cop I had to get back in my van while he processed everything.  For this little incident, they had to run my license through DMV which took an eternity.  I called my husband and told him to meet me muscles in my back and legs had seized up.  No way could I stand out in this blizzard another minute.  The police cars are clogging up the lane and people are honking, thinking they would move, plus they have blocked in other customers.
Finally, one of the cops comes to my window and tells me he isn't going to issue me a ticket because the fault was 'iffy' but in NY state the fault technically lies with the person backing out, no matter what she
was doing...blah, blah blah, but I could take it to trial.  My husband is standing there telling him to  look at her damage and where it was located and obviously it was due to her not wanting to wait for me to back out.  He agreed yet...
Oh, I'm rambling.  This had been grinding on me all day because I was in so much pain I didn't want to take it to court and just admitted to it being my fault to 'get it over with'.  My insurance company will probably end up paying for damage that I didn't commit...a new sliding door that was rotted with rust.  I am disgusted with myself for not standing my ground.  The pain got in the way of good judgement and determination and now my premiums will probably soar...or they will drop us.
I am just venting.  Thanks for listening..this isn't anything like leaving the stove on or wearing my shoes on the wrong feet.
I am really starting to doubt that I have any kind of rational judgement anymore.

I know it's stupid to not wear a hat, gloves or boots in a blizzard but I thought I was going on a five minute excursion!

fibro, menieres disease, RLS, anxiety disorder, disc compression, scoliosis, spinal stenosis TMJ  Meds: Lexapro and valium

Post Edited (vestabula) : 12/20/2008 5:13:58 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 12/20/2008 7:15 PM (GMT -6)   


And I thought I was having a bad day! So sorry that you had such a stressful day.  I don't blame you for wanting to get it over with and hurting so bad that you just wanted to go home, but I sure wish the stupid cop had issued them a ticket!

People are in such a big hurry anymore, they don't care who is in the way. I hope you get to feeling better and everything turns out o.k. with your insurance co.

We are getting sleet and ice here. Sounds like you guys are having more fun! Take care!

Hugs!!   Margie

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   Posted 12/20/2008 7:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh, I feel so bad for you.  That sounds like a nightmare.  It would be a good idea if you kept an extra pair of socks, a blanket and a coat in your car at all times, just in case...especially in the weather you guys experience.  Sorry for your day.

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   Posted 12/20/2008 7:52 PM (GMT -6)   

I thought I was going through something today. I'm so sorry for your misfortune. I sure hope you don't flare up from this.

Take care.
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   Posted 12/20/2008 10:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Donna,

I can understand how the pain could get in the way. Too bad that cop didn't see things your way. I hope that you are feeling better now. The cold can really effect our muscles and cause a lot of pain. I went through that the other night driving home in the cold from a friends house.

I hope that you are feeling better soon.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 12/21/2008 9:35 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh Donna,
I had a very very close situation happen to me, not in a snow storm, but in a parking lot of a grocery store and here in Illinois, the police will not issue tickets, no matter how obvious, in a private parking lot. I was backing out, or should I say I had already backed out, car was now in drive to move forward, when a woman on the other side of my lane backed out right into the back door of the passenger side of my car. It was clear and obvious it was her fault. She ran out of the car and apologized over and over. I called the police because I had a huge dent, the entire back door. He wrote up the report but wouldn't issue a ticket, gave us both a copy. I called my insurance company and the next day they called me back stating that woman denied the whole thing, said it was MY fault. Bottom line, we would have to take it to court and our insurance companies also would fight it out, what % was my fault and what hers, etc. Like you, Donna, I did n't have the energy to put up with all this. Thankfully, my car is drivable and it is also old. I've always taken pride in my cars, but since it is 8+ years old, I let it be. But I tell you, it once again made me realize what dishonest people there are in this world. And, might I add, this happened in a very upscale neighborhood, not that makes any bit of difference.

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   Posted 12/21/2008 6:35 PM (GMT -6)   
did i read this wrong?
everyone is so mad with the cop but what i was reading is that he understood you weren't in the wrong but the laws tied his hands up? thats why he said take it to court?
sorry, cop's daughter here. hehe

anyways i know how stressful that must have been! and i know its soooo hard to wind down after something like that, and that cold! oh i can't imagine standing out in the cold like that! you are in my thoughts and prayers!

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   Posted 12/22/2008 7:17 AM (GMT -6)   

No Sunshine...wasn't blaming the cop.  I was just blaming the blizzard that no one wanted to stand in to search for questionable damage due to the condition of her vehicle, and the woman who wouldn't take any responsiblity for racing around me to get the spot...and the fibro pain that forced me to 'just get if over with before I collapse."  I plan to call the insurance company today and explain what happened and see what happens.  Pretty sure it's my fault no matter what she was doing...I was backing up!  The cop, by the way, was extemely good looking!


fibro, menieres disease, RLS, anxiety disorder, disc compression, scoliosis, spinal stenosis TMJ  Meds: Lexapro and valium

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   Posted 12/23/2008 9:49 AM (GMT -6)   

Well the good looking cop had to make a very unpleasant situation a little more pleasant!

Sorry to hear about this though. Our weather is horrible too here in MN- it is so cold that the salt and chemicals they put down on the roads is not helping alot and so it is so slippery driving out there! I have been in numerous close calls the last few weeks! People drive me crazy! H-E-L-L-O!!!! Slow down people!!!! On the way to my niece's last Saturday we drove in a storm and saw at least 6 people in the ditch and a bad accident. Everyone is in such a hurry and do not take the weather elements into consideration. I don't think I got over 40 mph on the freeway and I did not care what anyone thought. Go around me!

Nothing wrong with venting Donna- this was truly unfortunate.


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