Oh Marlee...I am so sorry about your rib (even more sorry that you didn't break it in a much more enjoyable fashion...tee hee) and know exactly what you mean about what Christmas has become in this day and age. I was happy my one son asked us not to spend more then ten dollars apiece on the girls this year. I mean, how many portable dvd players and v-techs does a child need? We sent gift certificates for Barnes and Noble to my husbands grandchildren because they have so much nothing is appreciated or even makes an impression. When they called on Christmas last year, they had to ask their mother what we gave them.
I am sorry to say that I have one DIL that thinks when she comes here to visit she is on vacation and doesn't even pick up a dish. That is really getting old...just like me. I would like to say something to my son, who was NEVER raised to go into someone's home and not pick up after himself, but don't want to start anything I'll regret.
Well...hope you are feeling better. No more cracked ribs and that's an order!
I have: Fibromyalgia, CFS, Holt-Oram Syndrome, nasal allergies, depression
Married to a wonderful supportive husband & between us we have 4 children & 7 grandchildren.
Awww ((((((((((Marlee)))))))))) for the rest of this holiday...it should be about You & Ken. You did your duty, and I know that sounds harsh, but seeing as they just treated your home like "The Holiday Inn" duty seemed fit to say...to me anyway.
Spoil each other...Take a long soak together...or give each other massages...whatever you chose, just be together and enjoy the rest of the holiday. I am so sorry you cracked a rib!!!! Do they not know anything about OA????? Sheesh...I dont know much about it...but I DO know about how little it takes to crack a bone...they have commercials for it here A delicate china tea cup that cracks after someone pouring hot tea into it. I have "the crowd" to deal with Christmas Eve, and I hope and pray that they show me some consideration. My sons are good, but their SO's seem to think that dinner at my house means...being waited on....and that is MY fault...I will make sure that I get help even if I have to ask for it.
Gentle hugs, and I hope you get your rib tended too ASAP
"Tragedy is a tool for the living to gain wisdom, not a guide by which to live." Robert F. Kennedy
And I thought "I" was a bad girl getting a "root canal" for Christmas! Ouch- that had to hurt!
Sorry to hear that the "fam" was unappreciative. Sure can make for a miserable weekend like you said. I have had many, many Christmases at my house and I understand the work involved! I have been very HAPPY to past the torch onto the grown son, and niece's. They all have homes now. It is so dang funny to watch them as they host/hostess for the first time. They are exhausted by the end (and they are young!) and then they realize how much work goes into having it at their homes.
And we ALL work together- no one lets anyone have the whole burden. We take turns holding the youngest babies, picking up, help with the table set up etc., etc. I even took my niece's dog out to go potty because her and her husband were so busy. Speaking of dogs, I also can relate about the shedding! The granddog is a huge yellow lab and he sheds year round and horribly! It can take me days to get his hair out of here after he goes home when I have had him for any length of time. My son and daughter-in-law do not take him to occasions because of this! The only reason I take him and am willing to go through what I do is because I love him dearly. Just say it's a "labor of love."
I hope your doing a little better today- I don't know about you, but I am still tired from last weekend!
Marlee! I'm so sorry that you hurt yourself! I'm also sorry that you're family is ungrateful (I'm beginning to wonder if that's a fibro thing ). I hate it when people just let their kids run wild like that. My parents weren't strict at all, but all it took was "the look" from them, and we knew that it was time to shut up and stop whatever we were doing. It drives me crazy when parents just let their kids go running through Wal-Mart, screaming and crying for a Wii or throwing a tantrum because they can't get some other expensive thing. And the parents just act oblivious to it!
Anyway, I've gotten off the point of you and your pain. My friend has pneumonia and she dislocated her rib and she says it's worse than childbirth (of course, she had an epidural and a c-section, LOL). I hope you have some pain meds to make you feel better. I'll keep you in my thoughts. BTW-thank you for thinking of my Grandma Toots. I don't know if y'all know just how much I appreciate it.
As soon as you feel better, please let me know how I can help with your geneaology. There's a rumor (but it's probably a trick ) that I may be getting my own apartment in a month or so.
Post Edited (kelly71) : 12/24/2008 6:19:27 PM (GMT-7)