My daughter is 16 and was fine until she met this guy a couple years older. We always talked and close. But basically hours ect same aas what you were saying she ended out all night. We were starting to come down on her buy making her clock in regularly by texting us so at least we knew, but her tafe studies were suffering ect, then thank goodness he found someone else and gave her the flick by texting. She moped around for couple weeks but now I have my old daughter back as what is installed as young I think always returns. All you can do is try keep track of the now and try put some rules even semi useless ones as it still gives some sort of control. luck with it. sue2z
We have 2 daughters & kept the same rules for both.We told them we would appreciate it if they could be home by midnight. If not, just to give us a call & let us know that they would be late or not home at all, so we didn't worry all night. We also let them know to call us if they got to drinking, no matter what time, or where, and we would come and get them. We told them we would rather have them safe then have to lie to us and try to drive home.
It worked with both of them. We were very lucky. Yes, we had a few phone calls to go pick them up because they had been drinking, but instead of getting upset, I was actually proud and happy that they trusted us enough to call. It really brought me closer with my girls. I know they didn't tell me everything, but there were many times that they would ask me if they could talk without me getting angry. I always told them the truth...that I would try to not get angry and think before I said anything.
It is so hard to keep your cool when they go out at all hours and you have to sit home and worry. I think that just magnifies everything and when we are scared, we get angry. Maybe if you talk to her and let her know that the reason you try and make rules is because you love her and want her to stay safe. Like the person earlier said, keep communicating & let her know that she can come to you with anything. Try to set a curfew that both of you can be happy with. (we didn't really set one with our daughter's when they turned 18, just told them we would like them to be home at midnight. I think later somehow it got changed to 2:00 a.m.)
Oh well, sorry to ramble on like this. I wish you luck with your daughter and hope you guys can settle your differences so everyone is happy!
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