The big "O" as treatment?

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silverkz
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   Posted 1/8/2009 9:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello, I'm new and my wife has fibromyalgia. She has body aches constantly. However, when we make love and she orgasms, all her pain disappears. She is completely pain free for a while. Anyone have experience or an explanation for this? Thanks.

WyldOrchid5150
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   Posted 1/8/2009 10:22 AM (GMT -7)   
sure do!the big 'o' releases the bodys natural endorphins,our own pain killers,and for a short time the pain will go away.unfortunatly,it does come back.

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JCgurl
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   Posted 1/8/2009 3:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Hmm, yes, I have experienced that, just as Wyld said it releases endorphins - our body's natural pain killers! But also like she said, it can feel wonderful for a while, but the pain DOES always come back.
 
Also, in my experiences, I am only pain-free for 20 minutes to a half hour or so afterwards... then the pain comes back twice as bad as before we began.
 
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SleepyBug
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   Posted 1/8/2009 7:56 PM (GMT -7)   
hi and welcome!

yup-i've felt the same pain relief briefly after the "big o". gotta love those endorphins! 'course, my trouble is getting past the pain well enough to even want to get the ball rolling in the first place.... eyes
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silverkz
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   Posted 1/8/2009 8:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for your replies. I just wish there was something I could do (more than once in a while) wink Is there no research into this? I mean, those natural endorphins work better than any painkiller or anti-depression med. Frustrating!

SleepyBug
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   Posted 1/8/2009 8:34 PM (GMT -7)   
well, exercise in general has been shown to really help fibro pain. the trouble with that, though, is that there is a fine line between doing enough to kick the endorphins in and doing too much and ending up in a flare. i did read somewhere (i'm sorry, i can't remember where) that making love helps too, obviously, as does massage. my hubby has become quite a fibro massage expert and it helps so much-maybe you could learn some good massage techniques to use on your wife?
love and hugs
~danielle

this being human is a guest house.
every morning a new arrival-a joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awarenewss comes as an unexpected visitor.
welcome and entertain them all!
even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably
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for some new delight.
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silverkz
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   Posted 1/8/2009 8:40 PM (GMT -7)   
See, that's just it. I can't message my wife because it hurts her. I would love to rub her pain away but it only takes a few seconds and the messaging becomes unbearable to her. It's as if her whole nervous system is in hyperdrive, sending signals that overstate any stimulation.

Jeannie143
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   Posted 1/8/2009 8:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Danielle's hubby is doing the right thing with the massage. My hubby was ecstatic when my doctor prescribed sex for treatment of fibro pain. We start with gentle massage and it always helps. I have found that the pain is gone for up to an hour and often gives me a better sleep experience as well.

My favorite is when my guy gently massages my ribs all the way around to my back. I have costochondritis and this feels awesome! I have to say that hubby's massages aren't as effective as the professional ones I used to get but the feeling of being loved and cherished is beyond wonderful. The warmth from that can last for days. Sometimes it's not the pain that wears us down as much as how others understand our pain. Your caring is worth more than medicine or gold. You are a loving mate and very brave to fight her fibro dragons for her. Many guys just throw up their hands, roll over and go to sleep.
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SleepyBug
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   Posted 1/8/2009 8:49 PM (GMT -7)   
oh, i know that pain all too well! for me, though, i just have to tough it out because afterwards, i do feel so much better. during a massage, i am crying and screaming and punching pillows (my hubby's gotten used to this-he used to freak out, though), but then after it's like-ahhh! relief! i don't know why this is, and maybe this only happens to me. maybe she could try a professional massage therapist who has experience with fibro patients first? (the only note on that, though, would be no matter who does the massaging make sure she drinks LOTS of water afterwards! if she doesn't, all of the toxins that were broken up during the massage will start floating around in her system and she'll end up feeling like she was hit by a mac truck.)

not sure if that's something you and your wife would want to look into, but either way i do wish you both all the best as you learn to live with this stupid sucky disease! and kudos to you for coming here and wanting to help her!
love and hugs
~danielle

this being human is a guest house.
every morning a new arrival-a joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awarenewss comes as an unexpected visitor.
welcome and entertain them all!
even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably
he may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
~rumi

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