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Sera Smiles
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   Posted 1/10/2009 2:27 AM (GMT -7)   
I've been reading many posts about health issues, symptoms, pains, professional and personal challenges; so many questions about learning to live with illness. I can relate to each post I read and even if I don't respond, I am sending hope. I would like to ask about something on the other side of this crazy health time bomb- how do we learn to live with wellness once we have achieved a certain level of it? 7 years ago my life was turned upside down with FM; I have carried on the best I could and now I can say I have overcome many issues that demanded a life altered. It's hard to express, but I think I am beginning to feel a new kind of fear- something to do with facing a reality that is truly unfamiliar. It was one thing to live sick, to find ways around little things, to get people to understand something mostly incomprehensible. Now, in a new city, trying to find work that I can handle, meeting new people, who know nothing about me, nothing about my FM or the day to day demands of maxing out limits without crashing, or tiptoeing around my own life. I guess the grit of it is that I am scared- I don't know what I am supposed to do now. I feel like I am trying to find a new identity- some kind of label that I can pin on so the world can understand me and accept me, while I am still trying to accept myself. You can see from my signature that I am not sure I can handle the transition I have to make.


"A butterfly is most vulnerable immediately after its metamorphosis."
 
Dx FM- 2003
Rx Meds- Ultram, Flexeril, Toprol, Cymbalta, Buspar 
OTC meds- Benadryl, Claritin, Melatonin, Valerian, B Complex, Multi Vitamin
 
 


patsie
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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted 1/10/2009 8:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning,

What a well written and well understood post!!! My circumstances are different, as with most of us on this forum. I am doing my very best to accept this diagnosis and am very frustrated that after the "official" diagnosis things seemed to get worse. With me I am certain I had FM long before, probably years, but being a major tennis player aches and pain were part of the territory.

To explain further, I am having a new fear also. Mine is if this progresses will I remain the independent person I have always been. I am getting older and this is freaking me. I never thought of myself as a worrier but to be self sufficient is everything to me. As we have all talked about this "unseen" side of FM makes it so difficult for others to get it.

I so wish you luck with what you are now facing. You sound like an intelligent, understanding person. It will work out for you and this too will pass.

Strength to us, Patsie

GamJill
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   Posted 1/10/2009 10:14 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Sera-

You have many years up on me, so I can't say I know what you are going through, but I know you will figure it out. This is a whole new adventure for you moving to the cities here and I give you many gentle pats on the back for what you are doing already.

Moving to a new city/state can be very stressful. You are meeting a whole new group of people and adapting to your new surroundings. It takes time to feel comfortable.

This is just another stage in your life you are going through, granted, with it is fibro but we adapt. You will get through this transition! And remember we are here to help with that!

GamJill


 
 
Fibromyalgia, Depression, Anxiety, TMJ, Arthritis/neck, SAD
 
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springfling
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   Posted 1/10/2009 10:57 AM (GMT -7)   

Sera,

You talk in your post about what you have achieved and the issues you overcame to get where you are today. You are a strong person & will get thru this next change. Take each day at a time. People will get to know you as each day goes on. You don't need a new identity, you are perfect as you are.

I understand that you fear starting over and finding something that you can handle, but I think it will all come together. You just need to stop worrying and do as you've always done. It is always so stressful to make a big move or change in your life, but in the end things always seem to work out.

Remember others have their own fears or issues they are dealing with. They are just like us, so there is no need to worry about meeting people and as time goes by they will learn of your issues.  That will just happen. I wish you luck and happiness in your new place and remember your fibro family will never move, we'll be right here when you need us.

Hugs!!   Margie


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Sera Smiles
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Date Joined Nov 2006
Total Posts : 671
   Posted 1/10/2009 5:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all for your comments and your wisdom. This has really been on my mind and it was beginning to paralyze me a little :) I will give some thought to your advices and take a deep breath and put my best toes forward. This week I am going get my resume out there with lots of non profits and see what pops up. Jill, you are right about the cities being a whole new adventure! Thank you all again and I'll let you know whats happening.
"A butterfly is most vulnerable immediately after its metamorphosis."
 
Dx FM- 2003
Rx Meds- Ultram, Flexeril, Toprol, Cymbalta, Buspar 
OTC meds- Benadryl, Claritin, Melatonin, Valerian, B Complex, Multi Vitamin
 
 

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