Dear Corrie; Were you were diagnosed as having Fibromyalgia? By PCP, a Rheumatologist, or another type of doctor. Please take this as well meaning as it is meant to be. I used to "take on the woes of the world". I had some very painful experiences when I was younger, a dysfunctional homelife, BiPolar Mom, alcohol abuse, all aroung, for a while myself also. I had to go to Detox several times. There were horrors lying close to my heart. Being "Date Raped," and many other things. I had to learn to focus inward, to my own self and try to deal with my inner demons. I will be doing that for the rest of my life. I suffered horribly from co-dependency. My loved ones and the men I dated and the friends I chose all had a lot of problems. I was always trying to "fix"them. It made them more miserable, and nearly killed me. I also went to a group (AL Anon), to learn to stop taking on the woes of the world. I also attended a group called co-dependents anonymous. I learned we all have to walk our own paths in this life. We cannot walk other's paths for them, as much as we would like to take their burden away, as much as we love them. Those trials of others, we can surely offer them consolation, listen to their woes, but they are on the path they are meant to be on, and although it is very hard for them right now, and that hurts you, if you take on their troubles, you internalize the pain, and let's face it, don't you have enough pain of your own? I know I sound like I'm ninety and "think I know it all", I don't mean to tell you what to do, but I discovered I was hidng from my own demons by adopting other's demons. We never know while experiencing life's trials and tribulations, while we are in the midst of them, why they're happening. Later you will have a moment of clarity, through which you will see why some things happen, as we are being prepared for something greater. We are being tested to see if we are strong enough to weather our storms. Unfortunately, while some may pace the floors for hours, or even days, others may pay large ammts. of money to psychics to try to find out what is going to happen and why something is happening to us, keep in mind, we Fibromites tend to internalize the pain and consternation, and it actually takes up residence in our bodies. I hope that things work out for your friends, but even more so, I hope you can find a miracle solution for yourself to deal with your pain. I'm still waiting for a miracle.
Stress is at the very centre if Fibromyalgia for me. If I can carve out a period of time and stay focused on myself and my well being and what I need, and try to avoid outside stress, as much as possible, I can actually get my body (Fibro) settled down and have some good days, some very good days. I cherish those. I know they won't last. But each bump in the road has taught me an invaluable lesson, well worth learning, unfortunately, It comes at a price, pain.