Karen, Here is a word I have learned in the past few years that has helped me immensely: NO!!!!
I am sorry but I can't even imagine them asking you knowing your medical history. If this was a life saving surgery then I probably would have a whole different answer. Not that you should do it all but help. But this is cosmetic, elective, not necessary surgery. If they can't afford to pay someone to come in & help, then she shouldn't be doing it.
You are living in your own home & have your own necessary things that need done. Your lazy SIL needs to take care of his own responsibilities, this is his wife, his kids & his home. All his responsibilities. Please don't be guilted into doing this. Please think of yourself. They can afford to pay someone to do even part of the stuff that needs to be done. I say for $20.00 you should say you will get the kids off to each of their schools & then go home for the day. When you daughter is home then they can hire someone to care for her & the children if your Lazy SIL won't do it. Yes the 20.00 was an insult, no one else would do it for that so lets get "Mom". No way & if you need me to I will be there in a flash to back you up. Please, please, please say No & think of yourself because believe me, they are not thinking of you, just themselves. Very Selfish people. I know she is your daughter & you love her, I love each of my children dearly, but I have laid down the law & have quit being the fill in & the free or cheap helper. Let me know if you need some help with this. I will write them a letter telling them "NO". I am so good at it now. Many, many gentle hugs, Denise
I have: Fibromyalgia, CFS, Holt-Oram Syndrome, nasal allergies, depression, TMJ
Meds: Ibuprofen 600mg every 4-6 hours, Cyclobenzaprine 10 mg, Simvastatin 20mg, Citaloram 20mg Melatonin 5mg Sublingual, B12 sublingual, B Complex, Folic Acid, Omega 3
Married to a wonderful supportive husband & between us we have 4 children & 7 grandchildren
As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it. Prov. 25:11
I'm with the rest on this. Just tell her that you are in no shape yourself to handle everything that they are asking. (they should already know this) You may feel bad and they may make you feel bad, but it will pass and they'll get over it.
If this was an emergency and they had no time to line anyone up, then it would be different, but even then I would say to find others to come in and take turns on helping out.
They still have time to line someone up. Maybe a cleaning service to come in when they want & someone for the kids and meals. Don't let yourself feel like you have to do it. With all of the worrying you are doing over this, you're going to end up in a flare!
Please call your daughter and explain to her that you are in no way able to do it all and that they will have to get someone else. You can always go over and visit with your daughter when she gets home and maybe help your grandkids do homework or something, or just go over and visit. Just do what you feel like doing and then you can go home and rest in your own bed.
I sure hope it all works out for you. Don't let anyone make you feel like this is something you should do!
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hey patsie...No it wasn't Emory.it was a rhemy in Lawrenceville and she was awsome,i belive i have some hope.she was very interested in my illnesses and seems very willing to help.she did not give me any pain meds but she did give me Restoril for sleep.She wants to see if maybe getting my sleep patterns on track might help.I was all for that,at least its a start.No one else has even attempted anything.So we will start there,and she ordered a bunch of labs.I felt a real connection with this lady and she Hugged me!omg I couldn't belive it,no doc has ever been this....genuine.maybe the tide is turning.
oh yea..and the boob thing... does this mean after she gets hers,does he get a penis enlargement and pec implants for her?
Your last post was better then the first post, there is no way you could have done all that! It sounds like things are covered a little better.
Let us know what the rheumy says-