Hi Patsie...I think that all of us on the forum would agree that stress certainly increases our pain level. I know it does for me. I used to love company but now I dread it. It has been my turn for bridge for over a month. Thankfully, the weather has been so horrible it has been cancelled. Thankfully for bad weather??? Isn't that pitiful???
The hubby isn't the slightest bit embarrassed of how our house looks when I'm in a flare and will invite people to 'stop in' on their way home from work etc. We don't live like pigs but I have two dogs and like to get the hair up before someone 'pops' in.
You aren't weak emotionally. You are just in pain. We are having some friends over for the super bowl also. I am not going to worry about it. I think our perceptions of what close friends expect from us are over-thought which only adds to the pain.
Oh yes, increased stress causes more pain for me! It also could be the cold weather mixed in with it. I am having more fatigue and pain with this god awful winter we are having. Who wants company over when your in alot of pain and don't feel good, not me. Maybe it does not work for you to have this Super Bowl get together anymore. Next year maybe it could be at someone else's house?
Awww Patsie Girl!!! I know the feeling WAY too well. Yes - Yes - Yes, stress always causes me increased pain. I would be exactly like you are right now. Geez, I like to see my friends, just wish it didn't have to be such a PIA (pain in the *** & and every where else in my body) to have them over. Do you have a deal with the friends to bring a dish?? That always helps me. I don't have company very often in the winter, our house is very small, and I don't feel like cleaning top to bottom for them. But I do like to have folks over in the summer, big back yard and very little cleaning needed. (It would take a "normal person" 1/2 a day to clean this place.. it takes me about a week, because of pain and fatigue)
Anyway, I hope you can take it easy and enjoy your friends & the Super Bowl. ... hehehe, glad you didn't invite me, cause I can't stay interested or awake till half time !! (Not a big sports fan)
I used to have get togethers at my house quite often yrs ago. I also would host Super Bowl parties at my house. Work all wk, clean each night after work, cook like crazy on Friday night and all day Saturday. Have ppl come early, stay late on Sunday, clean up the mess ( I was the dishwasher) b/f I could go to bed that night and get everything ready for me to go back to work early Mon morning. What the heck was I thinking, I don't even like football. Finally, I realized it was too much for me and I couldn't do it anymore. Several ppl called in mid-January to find out what time they should come over. I said I wasn't doing that anymore, I was greeted by stunned silence. They thought it was a joke!! Kept asking what time. I said I just couldn't do it anymore, too draining. I haven't been invited to anyone's S B party in the yrs that followed. My DH really doesn't follow football too much, loves the Giants, but couldn't tell you anyone on the team - WHAT?
I have brought the party thing down to Christmas Eve. I make dinner for my family, my DM, my sister and her children. We have them over but they never get here on time, usually several hrs after dinner is served. I'm not trying to be rude, but my DH and I need to eat by a certain time, due to medical conditions, my children couldn't hold out that long - I would have to start throwing them raw meat.lol
I did it for many yrs, I will continue to do Christmas Eve for as long as I can, maybe catered from this wonderful Italian place or the like, but I'm thru w/ all that stuff. I just end up paying for it for wks after.
Marlee, doesn't your DIL have a home to use for the baby shower? I think that would be a great place for the party, or a friend's house. Did she drop from another planet, unaware of the health issues you and Ken are having? You should be going to the party as the grandmother/great grandmother guest, not as the maid in charge.
God bless. Alice.