I am so sorry Chutz, it all came out the wrong way, just had so much thrown at me by do gooders over the years guess im a bit sensataive. You have always been good with your replies to my posts so im very sorry.
And Pamela im the one who also feels sorry for themselves always why me, Chutz that may also been behind it. Guess I will sit back now and wait for the flack. I really didnt mean for it to come across the way it did, sorry all
This should be a place where we can all share about our experience with Fibro - either positive or negative.
Just because I maintain a positive attitude does not mean that I don't have Fibro, am not in pain, exhausted, am not overwhelmed by all the trouble it causes me at work, at home, does not mean that I did not limp into work this morning. My natural inclination with any problem is to look at the positive. That is simply how I am built and I refuse to apologize for it.
I understand that others need to vent their frustrations - that is equally acceptable as sharing positive affirmations and messages of hope and strength.
I happen to like positive messages from others on this board. I hope people continue to post them.
Fibromyalgia since 2007
"Tragedy is a tool for the living to gain wisdom, not a guide by which to live." Robert F. Kennedy
I am a Martyr.
It is impossible to compare the level of effect that each of us endures from FM. We are so different in many ways. I, like Kerri, enjoy the positive "You can do anything" posts. I am a young, strong, man and realize that my level of resistance is still much higher than those who have endured for a longer period of time than I have. I salute you for your courage, but I will still push others to maximize their potential despite their pain and fatigue.
We Martyr's need to sound off just as much as those who are struggling. It is our way to encourage ourselves and each other.
When the fibro first hit me I literally could not function. I could not walk 10 ft. from the pain and fatigue because I got clobbered with depression too. I could not lift a dish, wash my hair, or do anything- I was so scared and could not imagine this was how my life was going to be. It has been a long journey from last March-
I could only read a little and get on the computer a little and that is when I found the group here. Everyone of them took my hand, and I will never, ever forget that. They still are helping me- and the one thing about it here is it does not matter if you are having a good, bad, horrible, wonderful day/week/month, they understand!
I still have pain and fatigue but I do have some quality of life now. Believe me I could come here and scream alot of days as the winter is making my pain so bad right now. Like Karen said, everyone is so unique and have different tolerances to pain - and different levels of fatigue. Just think if we all had the same levels of pain and fatigue, there would be no one to help lift up the person who is not having a good time of it and visa versa.
Hang in there Suez!
Post Edited (AustenFan) : 2/6/2009 9:55:21 AM (GMT-7)
Well, I guess the consensus here is that pain is subjective, both mentally and physically. I have been very fortunate to have had periods of time when the pain was nothing more than white noise, then times like now when I have had to crawl to a chair. It is very difficult to be positve when the pain is this bad, so I just isolate myself and don't even try to explain it to my friends who 'don't get it'.
The hubby had two teeth break off at the gum last week, went to the dentist and he sent him home with nothing but a phone number for a root canal specialist. He was pacing the floor in pain, and when he called for something, the dentist said..."It shouldn't hurt that much...take three Advil" Subjective. He had the root canal on one tooth the next day and was in tears when he came home. Again...'Take a couple of Motrin...the nerve is gone and it will just be 'sore". He finally took some percocet he had left over from a kidney stone. Everyone's pain threshold is different.
When I thought my dog was going to be put down on Tuesday, a friend called and of course asked why I was crying. I told her and I knew what her answer was going to be...just what it always is. "At least you have never lost a child like I have." This does not help me put things in perspective like I am sure she thinks it will...it makes me feel guilty for mourning the possible loss of an animal.
This forum is so wonderful because we can vent, complain, cry and laugh. Just having someone say..."I have that too and you'll be alright' is very comforting. The positive posts are inspiring and those of us who aren't quite there yet have something to look forward too. But it's okay to be frustrated also, and because so many of us have no where else to vent, it's a relief to know we can always come here.
Post Edited (Sherrine) : 2/6/2009 12:27:51 PM (GMT-7)