No, you are not being unreasonable. Most of us are tired and ready to hit the couch by 6:00 p.m. My son and I eat at 6 pm. sharp. Do you think my husband could join us.........No, because he is on a diet and wants to eat at 7:00 p.m. So by the time I am out of the kitchen it is nearly 8:00 p.m. He says too bad, because I dont do anything anyways. Well I was up at 6:15 this morning, made his breakfast, threw in a load of laundry, went to the grocery store and came home and unpacked 16 bags. They are being selfish, and if they could feel our pain for just ONE hour, it might be different. I wish I had the answer for you, but I cant even talk about fibro in this house. They dont believe I have it. I hope you feel better hon, and you have every right to feel the way you do.
Post Edited (Sherrine) : 2/9/2009 8:36:26 AM (GMT-7)
I don't envy all of you with husbands, young children etc. and all the demands it puts on you. My 17 yr. son and I are pretty relaxed when it comes to supper. We usually eat around 5 or 6, and if he is not hungry then, he warms up what I made or fends for himself. And no, I don't think you are being unreasonable. I am tired from early evening on and get little accomplished. Sherrine has some great suggestions, and hopefully that will help-
I have: Fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, Holt-Oram Syndrome, nasal allergies, depression, TMJ,
Married to a wonderful supportive husband & between us we have 4 children & 7 grandchildren
As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it. Prov. 25:11
Thank you for the message su2z. You are not unreasonable. I have wondered the same thing. Sometimes we need to bounce our feelings around in here to make sense of them. I really like Sherrine's advice and have done this in the past. These last few weekends, I have been clearing space everywhere in my house because my daughter and son in law moved back home. So I have not had the energy to cook a bunch of meals on the weekend. But someone posted that she puts frozen meat in the slow cooker . . . what a good idea! I did not know you could do that! I will not get home from work tonight until after 7 pm, so I will try sticking something in tonight for tomorrow.
A couple of days ago, I was feeling pretty awful and walking slowly through the stores and I wondered if I was just "making it up." So I tried walking faster and "ouch!" I am still kind of new to this and am sometimes bewildered by the fact that I have so much less stamina that before. Self checks like these help me keep my feelings of self blame and denial at bay. Soon I expect to accept things as they are without so much questioning.
Thanks again for posting, it helps to know others have the same questions.
I said I didn't have anything to add, but what Stacy said about cooking ahead of time got me thinking. I make large pots of chili and soup, and freeze them in quart size freezer bags. It's really easy to pull a couple of those out of the freezer, thaw them in cold water in the sink, and reheat in the microwave. I too fry up hamburger and freeze it to use later for tacos, spaghetti sauce, etc.
I also buy refrigerated tortellini and ravioli and freeze it. You can just take it out (without thawing), dump it in boiling water, and serve it with premade spaghetti sauce.
We also eat lots of cereal.
Hugs - Austen