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   Posted 2/18/2009 3:42 AM (GMT -7)   
I have an idea, idea
 
Let's continue to keep this forum positive.  I know that we all can't keep ourselves feeling good all the time.  Sometimes we just can't feel good.  Sometimes we have to admit to our limitations.  And that makes us sad.  But there has been a lot of happy bashing lately and we have to admit that.  And it has been directed at Sherrine.  I don't think that is really fair.  She has kept this forum on a positive note for a long time.  She has been through just as much as the rest of us and I don't think she should be put down because she keeps a positive attitude and tries to share it.  There is a lot to be said about that.  In fact somebody quoted Confuscious (sp) the other day and said "He who says he can, and he who says he can't are usually both right".  So there is something to be said about the way we think and what we are able to do. 
 
I am in no way trying to make anyblody feel bad.  I know that we all have limitations.  And that some of us have more pain than others.  And that we can't always be happy.  But we are losing the positive attitude of the forum.
 
So I say let's have another party at Sherrine's house.  Only this time we wont mess the place up.  I will bring the chips, cause I am coming from a long distance and I am cheap.  LOL...  What are you going to bring?  She was so gratious last time even when we destroyed her home.  So I am sure she will welcome us with open arms if we promise not to mess up this time.
 
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   Posted 2/18/2009 4:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I'll bring the champagne.  We need something to go with all of that orange juice! devil
 
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   Posted 2/18/2009 4:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Austen,

Champagne sounds good. We can kick back in the pool with at glass of the bubbly. I really have a lot to work on if I want to get a tan. I am white as a ghost.

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Sherrine
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   Posted 2/18/2009 5:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Gee, Karen.  Now I have to clean my house.  mad    But it sounds good.  I'll send out the invitation right now!
 
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getting by
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   Posted 2/18/2009 5:42 AM (GMT -7)   
We don't mind what your house looks like, so just relax and we will help you when we get there. I bet that your messy house is cleaner than my clean house. Besides you said you have a sign that says if you come to see me, welcome, but if you come to see my house, you need an invitation, forgive me, I can't remember how that went. So no need for invitations, we will be there with bells on. I can't hardly wait.

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pattipanda
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   Posted 2/18/2009 6:28 AM (GMT -7)   

I can't agree MORE!!! 

I already posted on Sherrine's invitation, that I would bring meatballs, and some other stuff.. Oooops, I posted on Sherrine's invite. first... Hope its OK that I called the excavator to bring over some sand for Sherrine's back yard for that beach effect .. Don't worry Sherrine and Karen, we'll wipe our feet before we go into the house to use the potty smilewinkgrin

I can't wait to go someplace warm... even if it IS just virtually.

Big hugs and good thinkin' Karen!!!


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getting by
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   Posted 2/18/2009 6:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Sherrine,

I promised that we wouldn't cause a mess, and here comes Patti with the beach sand already. I guess we could spread it neatly around the pool. Hey do you still have that pool guy? He was awesome at applying my suntan oil. I forgot all about him. Looking forward to the party. I am glad that you are letting us stay the whole weekend. I will bring an extra bag of chips. lol..

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KerriH
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   Posted 2/18/2009 7:54 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Karen,

I loved reading your post and I agree with you completely.

Many of us enjoy positive "you can do it!" posts. In fact, I tend to avoid reading the posts that are less than positive. I love when Sherrine responds to any posts, as I find her positive attitude refreshing.

I am getting tired of the positive people bashing too. So, to celebrate positive thoughts, I am sharing some of my favorite quotes:

"Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they're yours."

- Richard Bach

"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty."

- Winston Churchill

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."

- Aristotle

"A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort."

- Herm Albright

"Don't let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do."

- John Wooden

"You are what you think about all day long."

- Dr. Robert Schuller

"Don't bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself."  (a great quote for this forum)

-William Faulkner

I would love to hear some other favorite quotes too, if anyone would like to share. :)

Kerri


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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 2/18/2009 8:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Kerri, I LOVE those quotes!

Come on guys, we should try to be positive people. We are all very understanding and no one is trying to bash anyone else. We are only trying to be here for one another and try to cheer each other up! I hope we can get through this rough patch and get back to supporting each other.

A party is a great idea. I think we all deserve a vacation. I could use some relaxation time at the beach!!! So, Im trying to be positive, it isnt easy though....but I'm trying my best. Please excuse me if I seem at all negative or bashing sometimes, I would never mean to be. My apologies.

So, lets relax and have a good time at Sherrine's house, aye! (btw, its not possible for us to go and NOT destroy the house!) Its too much fun! =]
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   Posted 2/18/2009 8:42 AM (GMT -7)   

Well now, this post is right up my alley.....it is in my wheelhouse....it is my cup of tea even....... :)

I too tend to only read positive posts or questions I feel I can contribute to. We are all wired differently and I am wired that the cup is always half full and there is more diet coke in the fridge!! :)

Quotes! I love quotes!

Earl Nightingale
Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us.

Dr. Robert Anthony
Forget about all the reasons why something may not work. You only need to find one good reason why it will.

Thomas Edison
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

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Always look at what you have left. Never look at what you have lost.

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   Posted 2/18/2009 8:55 AM (GMT -7)   
I really like your attitude Jokat,

Thank you for the wonderful post.

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kelly71
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   Posted 2/18/2009 9:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Karen,

I'll bring the Adderall! smilewinkgrin JUST KIDDING! This is just my lame attempt at breaking the tension, and I have a warped sense of humor. Please forgive me if I offend.

Anyway, I will bring some of my homemade mac & cheese. It's one of the few things I cook, and I think it is SOOOOOO yummy. yeah
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getting by
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   Posted 2/18/2009 10:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Okay miss warped sense of humor,
 
Luckily I love homemade macaroni and cheese.  So bring it on, I will eat it all. lol...  I have the warped sense of humor too so no offense taken.
 
I would like to mention that it has been almost six months since you had a cigarette, that is so awesome.!!!
 
I bet you are reaking the benefits of clear lungs by now.  I am very happy for you.
 
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Ginny
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   Posted 2/18/2009 10:25 AM (GMT -7)   
I think it's our warped humors that keep this forum light and cheerful, and helps us to not take ourselves so seriously!  I mean, come on!  We have enough crap to deal with everyday.  We need an escape where we can just love and laugh and find the positives in each day.
 
Okay, I'm bringing the flamingos.  They were such a hit at Sherrine's last house party. I'll also arrange to have a pressure washer guy come and clean up after them...... No work for Sherrine or anyone else to have to do!
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   Posted 2/18/2009 11:46 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Karen,

Since tone of voice does not come through on the internet and I see no emoticon to express my feelings, I am saying this with the intention of much kindness and respect.  (just read my post below and it sounded kind of snotty, which is not what I meant!)

I hope that you don't feel that my questions for Sherrine were happy bashing.  I am guessing that you are talking about my post, but maybe not.   My intention was not meant to bash her, but to clarify the meaning of some things that I did not understand. 

Also, I believe that is is healthy to have "conversations" and ask others what they mean when we don't understand them.  In terms of Sherrine's post, I kept thinking, I must be understanding this wrong.  So I decided to ask.   We actually had a nice "talk" (if you can call it that since we are online) and I understand her better and I don't think she is offended.  (I really hope not.)

There are times when we can't always agree and that is ok. It is actually good.  And it is good to discuss things with one another.  The trouble with using the internet is that emotions and true feelings do not always come through and what we write sounds different from what we intended to say.  Sherrine said that too in a way. 

Anyway, hope this makes sense.  and I hope any broken fences are mended.

Sue


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   Posted 2/18/2009 12:05 PM (GMT -7)   
You are absolutely correct, Sue.  Because our emotions aren't displayed it is easy to be misunderstood in written word.  We are not authors but we are trying to communicate the very best we know how.  So, just come and have a great time at my party.  If anyone upsets me, I will hold their head under water in the pool.   skull    I think people will be on their best behavior!  devil
 
By the way, my favorite inspirational quote is "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength."
 
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Post Edited (Sherrine) : 2/18/2009 12:09:56 PM (GMT-7)


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   Posted 2/18/2009 12:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sue,
 
Your post was one of the ones, I have just been noticing that it seems like Sherrine has been getting picked on lately.  Whether it was intentional or not.  Maybe she doesn't even feel that way, but it is the feeling that I got.  It wasn't just your post, but there have been others, and honestly I dont' remember who it was.  But that is becoming besides the point.  I want to bring the fun back to the forum.  So I thought about having another party at Sherrines.  That is all.  I like her positive attitude and I don't think that she should be afraid to tell somebody to think positive.  It really does help. 
 
I know that we all have different pain levels.  I know that we don't always feel good.  I am glad that we have a right to have a difference of opinion.  And I understand your point.  You didn't understand what she was trying to say.  You wanted it clarified.  So be it as it may.  We all are going to disagree at one point or another. 
 
But just as others have the right to feel crappy, some have a right to feel good.  Perky if you will.  It once was said, if you don't like a situation, change your attitude.  That is all I can think of to say at this moment.  Please doon't think I am pointing any fingers, who am I to do that anyway.  I just miss the happiness to stay.  Maybe I am reading into something that wasn't even there, like I say I just want the upbeat atmosphere to stay and for everybody to support eachother.
 
I can't think of anything else to say.  If I offended you, I am sorry.  I didn't mean to.
 
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   Posted 2/18/2009 12:28 PM (GMT -7)   

Nah, you did not offend me.  :-)

My favorite inspirations are scriptures like the one Sherrine posted, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me"

Also, Bob Marley's "Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds."  from his redemption song.

The desiderata is also cool.  Thanks to someone on this site for sharing it.  I never heard of it before coming here.

Sue


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   Posted 2/18/2009 12:38 PM (GMT -7)   
I am glad that you like Desiderata and I am happy that we can be friends. That means more to me than anything.

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   Posted 2/18/2009 3:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Count me in for my famous chicken and dumplin's.  I always try to keep a positive attitude.  Sherrine is right about our outlook on life.  It does make a difference.
 
I'm looking forward to the party!
 
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   Posted 2/18/2009 7:03 PM (GMT -7)   

A couple of yrs ago we finally got the internet and I tried to find info on FMS. One of the things I came across were 'support groups', I was interested b/c there aren't any 'live' groups in my area. I even called the local hospital which had a listing in the paper for a group. Nope, they didn't have one. Anyway, some of the places I saw online were extremely 'tense', so I just backed away. I lurked on this site for a couple of wks to see what ppl were like. I decided to join and I have not been sorry. I have found the ppl here to be very kind, welcoming and helpful. I knew there was something(s) wrong w/ me, but it took awhile to get some answers. Many ppl in my life didn't understand what was going on and were not exactly helpful. Here ppl got what I spoke of, saying, 'Yeah, me too!'

I have experienced only kindness from the good ppl here. We don't all have to see eye to eye, but we all understand the pain and problems we live with. I know sometimes I will reread a post (my own included, LOL) b/c we can't insert tone to the words. At that pt. I assume I am not getting it, not putting the emphasis on the right word, etc. I give the benefit of the doubt. I have messed up words which may have thrown off the meaning of my sentences. We are like any other group of friends/family trying to learn each others sense of humor or tender places. The difference is we only meet online. We never see the faces or 'hear' the voice of our friends. We come from all walks of life, different backgrounds, etc.

I have tremendous respect for the ppl here, we are all just trying to find our way thru this maze of FMS, and of course, anything else we have in addition to that DD, so we can live our lives.

When I have asked questions, ppl have responded. One of those ppl was Sherrine, and she always took the time to find answers for my ????. I'm not always in an up mood, but I read her posts knowing she will have a positive spin, something to grab hold of. There are times I need that till I find level ground. I also enjoy her sense of humor. I also enjoy that we have always tried to support each other, especially when someone is down. We also rejoice when someone is up. We all want the best for each other. That's what family/friends do for each other. Just my feelings.

God bless.  Alice.


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   Posted 2/18/2009 9:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with everyone! LOL But, seriously, I've looked at and even joined a few different fibro sites, and I just couldn't deal with the infighting. This was and is the only place where I feel comfortable. Obviously we are gonna have to agree to disagree on issues. I know that I am a very sensitive person, so some of those who are not may think that I (and other sensitive people here) are just too touchy. Speaking only for myself, yes, sometimes I am too touchy and fly off the handle. You know why? Because I am a 37 year old woman who is in horrible pain 24/7. cry And, at the moment, nothing is being done to relieve that pain. So, yes, I'm a little sensitive, LOL. But, this is the ONLY group that I trust enough to share that with. I hate to be stereotypical, but most of us are women and I think it's in our nature to bicker now & then. Things would be so much easier if the world was made of chocolate. LOL-wow, that was deep!smilewinkgrin

OK, now THAT is some crazy babbling right there. And Karen (getting by), you are right. On the 29th of this month, it will be 6 months since I last smoked. Do you believe in miracles? smhair
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   Posted 2/18/2009 10:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Congratulations Kelly! six months is a very long time. It's a horrible habit to kick. I quit 2 years and four months' ago and it wasn't easy, so yes, I know what you have been going through. I am actually at a point now where I do not even think about it any more, unless someone else brings it up. There was a time that it was constantly on my mind, so that is huge.
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KerriH
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   Posted 2/20/2009 7:41 AM (GMT -7)   
I love the quotes, Jokat!  Thanks for sharing.  I really like the one you wrote (Climb higher on the mountain so that if you fall you will not be at the bottom and it is easier to climb back to the top).  Very good, I will use it!
 
I also love these ones that you shared:
 

Unknown author
Everyone has the power to make others happy. Some do it by entering the room, others by leaving it.

Lena Horne
It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.

I'm thrilled to hear how good your life is, including your marriage. It sounds like you have been blessed tremendously.

I must say, my husband is my best friend too. :)

Kerri

 

 


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Jokat
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   Posted 2/20/2009 7:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Kerri!
 
It is good to hear that you also married your best friend. It sure makes life that more exciting!!
JoKat
 
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