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Chickscleo
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   Posted 2/18/2009 10:50 AM (GMT -7)   
I am new here so if this has been discussed I apologize in advance.....

I have a problem with many of the people in my life...Friends and Family....Not all of them, but a large number act like I am faking because I "look fine". They have no idea what I deal with on a daily basis. I am very good at acting like nothing is wrong when they are around, when on the inside I am screaming in pain, just want to lay down etc...
I get comments all the time like, "get a job", "must be nice to get to stay home", "how were the Bon Bon's today", "We all hurt, it's called old age"...I am 46, I don't consider that old age!!!, and on and on. I see people looking at each other when they think I am not watching and see the eye roll's etc... I have even had a few people tell me that Fibro is not a real disease, that it is all in my head.

My mother was diagnosed after I finally got one. We were both searching for answers at the same time, because we had both been dealing with the symptoms for a very long time with no answers...9 doctors later just for me, I have two of the best Doctor ever now! My mom has dealt with the same types of comments. My Grandmother, who has passed, had all of the same issues and symptoms. She never did get a diagnosis back in the day. Instead she received electroshock therapy, huge amounts of drugs that did nothing except end up ruining her stomach, which they ended up removing part of, severe depression because no one believed her, including her doctors. (My mom and I did) Oh, and the term "hypochondriac" (Yeah, I have heard that one too)! The poor woman.....I believe she had Fibro.

So how do I handle these people? I have tried ignoring it, but it hurts me. I have even questioned myself at times, even knowing how terrible this can be, I am living it!!! I refuse to change what I do because of it. I love to garden, keep a clean house, bake, etc....I still do these things. Not as much of it and because I am home I can lay down or soak in the tub at will. When someone stops and see's me gardening I get, "If you can do that, you can get a job". They have no clue that I will pay for what I did for days! My husband has been wonderful a far as helping me with the "heavy" work and such. He sees what I go through, yet when the comments fly, he clams up and just lets it happen too.

Why do people feel the need to get involved in my personal business? It is none of there business if I have a job or not. I have told some of them this but they keep it up. Please tell me if any of you are or have dealt with this and how you handle(d) it. I could use some new ideas....short of telling them to F*#K OFF!....Sorry about that, but I get frustrated by this. On top of dealing with the Fibro, Who needs this crap?

Thank you
Julie

griffin
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   Posted 2/18/2009 11:28 AM (GMT -7)   
HI JULIE,
JUST HANG IN THERE AND IT IS NOT ALL IN YOUR HEAD. IT IS HARD TO DEAL WITH THE PEOPLE THAT ROLL THEIR EYES. THE COMMENTS CAN HURT WORSE THEN THE PAIN.

MY SISTER DID NOT REALLY BELIEVE ME TWO YEARS AGO AND NOW AFTER GIVING HER A FEW WEB SITES TO READ SHE NOW KNOWS THAT HER LITTLE SISTER IS SICK AND NOW YELLS AT ME FOR PUSHING MYSELF TO HARD.

I WENT THROUGH 5 DOCTORS ALOT OF TESTS AND 2 MAJOR SUGERYS BEFORE I HAD A DOCTOR TELL ME THAT IT IS NOT IN MY HEAD.

I AM 29 AND I GET THE COMMENTS about GETTING A JOB FROM ALOT OF PEOPLE SAYING THAT IT WOULD HELP ME. THE WAY I HANDLE THOSE PEOPLE DEPENDS ON THE DAY. I AM A UPFRONT PERSON AND HAVE NO PROBLEM TELLING PEOPLE WHERE TO GO ...HECK I WILL EVEN DRAW A MAP FOR THEM.
MY FAVORITE THING TO ASK THEM IS IF AT NIGHT DO THEY NEED HELP FROM SOMEONE TO STAND UP OFF THE POTTY BECAUSE YOU CAN MOVE WITHOUT SUPPORT....THEN YOU HAVE NO ROOM TO TALK about ME UNTIL YOU HAVE BEEN WHERE I HAVE.

THAT IS NOT THE BEST ADVICE BUT SOMETIMES ENOUGH IS ENOUGH AND I CANT TAKE IT ANY MORE.
BEST OF LUCK AND YOU WILL FIND WHAT WORKS FOR YOU...
I smile through fibro


Sherrine
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   Posted 2/18/2009 11:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi, Julie, and welcome!  Oh, yes, I think we have all had some of those comments.  But, it's no one's business whether or not you work. I"ve never had anyone say that to me.  I think I'd say it was none of their business and that you do not want them to bring that up again.  If they continue, I'd find other friends.  If you want to be funny about it, tell them that, unbeknownst to them, you are independently wealthy and don't need to work.  Smile and then change the subject.
 
I was having dinner with my best friend last month.  She was telling me something that I didn't know...at least I thought I didn't know.  She pointed out to me that she had already told me and went on to say that I needed to start exercising my brain because I was forgetting a lot.  Oh, was I ever ticked off!  I told her that I have cognitive memory problems due to fibromyalgia and I have no control over it.  She got very quiet and hasn't brought it up again.  If you didn't want to mention fibro, just say you have an illness that causes the cognitive memory problems. 
 
Be sure to check out the Fibro 101 thread...the second thread on the forum.  There are great links to good information there.  One of the links is called The Spoon Theory.  This helps explain fibromyalgia.  Another good link that might help is Doctors Respond to New York Times Article.  You could print these off and pass them around to your clueless friends. 
 
Meanwhile, we are here to help you.  We do understand because we all are going through the same things.  I'm so glad you found us!  Read back post and ask questions and we will try to answer them. You have come to a good place and I hope to hear more from you soon.
 
Sherrine
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carney
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   Posted 2/18/2009 11:56 AM (GMT -7)   

Julie welcome!!!!

We can all relate to what you are saying. No one knows what Fibromyalgia is like unless they have it or deal with someone who has it on a daily basis. Let what people say go in one ear and OUT the other. They are clueless and unable to understand.


pattipanda
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   Posted 2/18/2009 12:04 PM (GMT -7)   

Welcome Julie... Oh and I see you too over there Carney!!  Glad you found us and I'm sure you will learn a lot from this forum.  I know I have. 

Here's something that might help you.. it was cirrulating around here last week.  Its call A Letter to Normals (click below):

http://fmscommunity.org/lettertonormals.htm

Please keep posting.. we're a family of folks from all over the place that shares your pain, questions and concerns.  We support each other as best as we can and really understand the trials of this thing called Fibromyalgia.

Warm welcoming hugs, 


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chrisherry
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   Posted 2/18/2009 12:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Julie,
I too know exactly where you are coming from. This is what I would like to do. Take a baseball bat to some of the people who tell me it's all in my head,, and then after giving them a good whoopin' telling them "What's the matter, I dont see it, so it must not be real, "quit your whining" "it's all in your head". Of course I know that isnt an option, but it makes me feel better!

And as far as working, I would love to work. I would love to do anything to get out of this house and only having my English Bulldog to talk to. But the thought of getting a job scares the bejesus out of me. By the time I get out of bed, take a shower and get ready, it's time to get back in the bed. PLUS the fact, what in the world could I do? I can hardly remember why I went into another room in the first place. Nursing is not an option and the only other thing I did before that is wait tables which is also out of the question. What else could I do that involved no physical or mental activity.
I have applied for disability 3 times now and been denied each time. I was told that I was too young, looked healthy, and was once told I was too pretty to be disabled (I dont think thats why I was denied tho). It all seems hopeless. If it werent for my wonderful husband, I would be homeless.
I try to stay positive but this is getting ridiculous!!
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getting by
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   Posted 2/18/2009 12:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Julie,
 
You don't have to tell anybody anything about your fibromyalgia if you don't want to.  It is none of their business.  But as Sherrine has posted, knowlege is the best answer.  That is if the people are worth educating. 
 
I know that the looks and the comments hurt, but it almost sounds as if they are jealous.  If they only knew, right?
 
I hope that you can over look it and take it with a grain of salt.  I hope that you feel better soon.
 
Hugs, Karen
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patsie
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   Posted 2/18/2009 2:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Julie and welcome to our group. I also understand what you are facing. People have not said things to me, probably scared to death to, but Oh yes I have seen the looks. I had a fairly dynamic social group formed out of our love for tennis. WEll at first everyone kept up with me, continuing to invite me to the social aspects but gradually they disappeared. It hurt b/c I was still me and more than ever needed support of my "so-called" friends. At last I took a long hard look at my life and accepted this for what it is. I now just say it is what it is and give no other explanation. I have several strong friends that keep in touch and a new friend that really understands b/c she too has fibro. Oh we will never be pity party friends, that is not our make-up. But I hope we forge a bond and just know we are there to listen and not question. People have no right to question us, no right.

You will find great help here.

Patsie

Sherrine
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   Posted 2/18/2009 3:15 PM (GMT -7)   

Fibromyalgia separates the wheat from the chaff.  For those that aren't familiar with that terminology, chaff is the seed covering and other debris that is separated from the seed during threshing.  The chaff is useless and is discarded.  The seed is kept and is either kept to grow new plants or it is made into something important to us...food.  So, fibromyalgia gets rid of the acquaintances that were not true friends and allows us to zero in on the really important relationships in our lives.  It's hard, at first, to lose those we thought were friends but we can spend our energy on those that REALLY count.

By the way, last October I lost, what I thought was a friend, to fibro.  She said I had "changed".  We had been "friends" for 34 years.  I was surprised and hurt but I got over it.  And  you know what?  God has given me some more true friends...people that do accept me with my illness.  Besides, I have all of you on this forum so I am rich with friendships.

Sherrine


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Sera Smiles
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   Posted 2/18/2009 4:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Julie, you have posed a universally understood challenge for people who suffer from one of many, many "silent" health disorders. You have gotten some great suggestions! I am going to try some of them :) I am a social worker and have been for over 20 years. You can not imagine how many people have tried to tell me how "simple" the problem of poverty is to solve; they have all the suggestions I could ever need to set people on the right track and work myself right out of a job. I have friends and family members who work in many industries. I would never presume that I had any solutions to the problems they deal with each day, much less force my ideas on them. Yet folks think poverty and its causes and effects are easy to solve with nothing more than opinions that are based on nothing real. I finally politely tell people who are too pushy that I am happy to talk with them about the topic, but they should educate themselves and I can even suggest some reading materials that will help. I am usually snarled at by this p;oint :) I think its how polite I am that really sets them off. But I am trying to make a point that information is power; and there is a huge difference between knowledge and noise. Take it easy on yourself- and educate when you can, smile when you can't, and wave goodbye when necessary. We believe in you and are always here to listen without judgment.
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Meggie
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   Posted 2/18/2009 5:27 PM (GMT -7)   

It is so disappointing and hurtful when friends and family shrug off our pain and confusion.  I have thought about this so much and if I am truly honest with myself I think that I may have the same doubts as all those people if I were not living with this disorder.  The reason I say this is because my mother, who is now gone, used to complain of pain and fatigue all the time.  She would visit and then fall asleep on my couch and she used to forget things that we told her or repeat something that she had just said.  She seemed completely confused at times.  Well, both me and my brother would get irritated with her for seeming so self absorbed.  On the outside she looked just fine.  I am convinced that my mother had FM and I wish I could turn back time so that I could show her the understanding and kindness she deserved.  So because of all of this, I try really hard to understand when others just don't get it.  My new answer to them is "Ignorance is Bliss", smile and then walk away.  I don't have the time or energy to worry about what others think of me.

This forum has given me confidence, acceptance, and a place to go when I need someone to talk to.  Everyone here understands and cares, we are here for each other.

Welcome to all of our new family members, you have found a wonderful place.  I have not been feeling well for the past few weeks and have been to tired to do much more than read the posts.   


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julieleaps
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   Posted 2/18/2009 5:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh, Jules, I hear ya! I too am a Julie that's 46 years old, and have been unable to work since October and not sure how or when I'll ever be able to go back. My husband is a pastor, and as a pastor's wife, there are "expectations" of me whenever I show up at a church function. If I'm not in the kitchen helping with the dishes when the 80 plus crowd (literally!) are in there, I get looks and comments. If I say anything about hurting or being tired, boy do I get the riot act from them! They know that I'm not well - I have missed more Sunday mornings than I've made because mornings are just so hard. And, yet, they keep right on with the, "oh, you're too young to be so tired", or, "if you think you hurt you should have "blank"(whatever is ailing them).

It's just easier for me to stay home and deal with any of them, no matter how I'm feeling.

I'm glad you have a great husband. My children are grown and my husband is the only person I have to talk to on a day by day basis - unless of course you count the telemarketers! Oh, and being able to come here, too!
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kellywashere
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   Posted 2/18/2009 10:23 PM (GMT -7)   
I can relate to what you're saying (except that I'm only 15, so no one tells me it's old age and that it's only my friends that don't care). Every doctor I go to tells me my life sucks, they feel so bad for me, I'm too young/pretty (like being pretty has anything to do with it?) and yet my friends really don't care much. It's hard to not have the support of the people closest to you, so I can definitely sympathize with you.

I complained to everyone about how other people weren't paying attention, which only made them more attentive. But since I don't really suggest passive-aggressiveness, maybe you should just talk to your family and friends so they understand how hard fibro is.

Best of luck
Fifteen years old. Fibromyalgia, chronic myofascial pain, chronic headaches, chronic migraines, costochondritis, TMJ, patella femoral syndrome, insomnia, depression, anxiety.


Marlee2
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   Posted 2/19/2009 4:33 PM (GMT 0)   
Welcome to the family newbies. It is frustrating when those closest to you refuse to educate themselves on fibro but still make snide remarks to you about it. One of my DILs told me last week that I use fibro as an excuse for not doing things and that I'm suppose to put my health issues aside when it comes to dealing with my DH's problems. It did hurt my feelings cause God only knows I would love to tell fibro to take a hike when there is something going on in the family I need to do. But I do go back to before I got fibro and I would have never understood this whacky disorder and all that comes with it. If someone would have told me that stress could make your whole body hurt in a matter of minutes I might have thought them a little crazy myself. This is hard for those of us that have it to understand and it is forever changing so I do try to give the normals a little slack when it comes to understanding fibro. I still wish I had the magic power to give my DIL fibro for a day, I bet she would be on the internet researching everything there is on fibro then. devil
 
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Chickscleo
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   Posted 2/19/2009 9:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for all of the great tips and suggestions. I have tried some of them, but I am going to give others a try! Sometimes I think I should stop putting on the "happy face" when unexpected visitors drop in and just keep laying down, icing this or that, etc... Let them see how awful this can be. However, I know me too well. I will keep making sure everyone else is happy. I was taught growing up to "suffer in silence"......Thanks mom and dad... What a load of crap!.....LOL

GamJill
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   Posted 2/20/2009 7:46 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Julie and Carney- Welcome!

Julie- You have had some doozies for comments! Most people in my life are pretty good. But I do get- well you look good! And I just respond with "yes, on the outside." I tell them this is an invisible disease- they don't "see" it, but I "feel" it! I have had no comments on getting a job- they know me and know I would be working if I could!  

It is hard for people to understand what we go through unless they have this. And I thank God for the support group here as we all know what it is like and understand!

Nice to meet you and any others I missed on this post!

GamJill

 

 

 

 


 
 
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ashphobiax
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   Posted 2/21/2009 8:24 AM (GMT -7)   
hello i am new to this as well!

but i know what you mean when people say you look fine, i am a 20 year old girl with a very active job ( that i shouldn't be doing ) and everyone expects me to work wonders and do things i can not do and i get comments like "you're too young it's not possible for you to have that" no one really understands, except for a few. it's just a thing that i have to go on with regardless of what people think. such a pain :P

littlebit279
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   Posted 3/23/2009 8:09 PM (GMT -7)   
If I hear one more person tell me that they think they might have it b/c they've been feeling bad a few days, their back bothers them, they don't fell like doing anything sometime, etc. I'm gonna scream! Are they kidding me?! My mom in particular drives me nuts. Everytime I see her, she has a new suggestion. She has never been to a Dr. to see if she has a problem, but she's convinced she has it. She has told me that I'll never get better unless I suck it up and go on despite my pain. What does she think I'm trying to do?! If I just get up and get moving, I'll feel better b/c it works for her. she has told me that the reason that I feel so bad is b/c I take so many meds. I've been taking Zoloft for 6 yrs, just started taking Lyrica last week. That's it. I take very few otc meds b/c they don't help. If I take 2 hot showers a day, I would be healed, it never ends! in fact, when I saw my dr last wk, she told me that if I don't stop stressing about mom and her issues, it's gonna kill me. I give up! smhair smhair
 


Baloo
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   Posted 3/24/2009 6:29 AM (GMT -7)   
I totally understand. And Julieleaps... I really relate to you.  My husband and I are worship leaders and youth group leaders.  I have really hard days especially getting up for early morning service, then I play for 3 hours altogether with both services.  Then in the evening we lead the junior high group. There are days we have had to cancel youth group or not able to do worship all the time.  I don't need to explain, other than the pain and fatigue.  I have people in church saying you can be healed you just don't want to.  You don't have enough faith.. All those comments including you don't look sick.  I have grown alot thru this in the Lord and just hold my head up but alot of days it is hard.  I know Gods people are to be compassionate and sometimes there are more wolves in their then when you walk out the door.  It must be really hard being a pastor's wife.  Expectations and demands on both of you can be so exhausting in itself.  I just try to remember Paul, perhaps he had fibro.. anyway its nice to know even though others around us don't understand we do have Christ who knows all are suffering.  Somedays it's just hard to remember that and believe too.  much love everyone Denise

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moonmatrix
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   Posted 3/24/2009 6:35 AM (GMT -7)   
MY suggestion to people who say the pain can not be too bad or go to a gym or walk more or whatever is "put your finger in a clothes pin for as long as possible. Hurts like hell huh? Well that is my whole body, every day all day" Also if anyone comments on my messy house I tell them they can clean it, leave or ignore it. I already ran the gamment of hurtful comments with my bipolar like "you don't look bipolar" from a doctor no less, also when I complained about weight gain from meds, another doctor said "don't put food in your mouth" No offer of a food change plan or anything. The comments hurt but be armed with info to throw back. Truly informed have no excuse for ignorance. My fave comment to stupidity of any kind is "stupid people should feel a pang in there heads every time they say or do something stupid so learn to stop"
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Realest
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   Posted 3/24/2009 11:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Julie
This I'd say is one of the biggest hurdles with having Fibro. and I think it's safe to say we've all been through it, and continue to go through it. I'm only 26 years old myself and male ..... It wasn't until I had a brutal flare up that was so bad I couldn't get out bed, yet didn't sleep for 4 days that mom really believed what I was telling her. It wasn't until after who knows how many tests, xrays, cts, mri's, and a diagnosis from a Rheumatologist that my family doctor actually believed me and what I had been telling him for years and prescribed some actual pain killers.
Sometimes It's not till you actually find something helps you to start feeling better that people start to realize, there was a problem for a long time. I know it's frustrating when even family or doctors don't seem to believe you. "Hang in There" ... that's the sound advice I was given by my doctor for years .......... hahaha thanks.
Maybe the best way to deal with things is just to laugh them off, of course that's easier said than done. Like I said I'm 26 and friends of mine now call me " gramps " (because I say I feel like I'm 80), and or " grey rocks " (I'll leave that one to interpretation)


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AustenFan
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   Posted 3/25/2009 6:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Julie, and welcome.  I agree that we've all probably been through this to one extent or another.  It can be so hard to deal with these people. 
 
I've learned (only recently) that I don't have to justify myself to anyone.  I know what I go through every day just to try to function somewhat normally.  I know what happens when I over-do "normal" things and the consequences I have to pay. My husband and my daughter know and understand.  That is all that matters to me. If I get a rude comment from someone, I now just stare him/her down, lol.  It makes the offender really uncomfortable with a long, piercing stare, and he or she usually breaks the silence and changes the subject or back-pedals and tries to negate the comment. 
 
One thing I've learned in dealing with fibro is to never judge others by their appearance.  I just wish everyone could learn that lesson.  Not to mention the whole "it's really NONE of their business" argument.
 
I'm really glad that your husband and mother are supportive.  It really makes such a huge difference, I think.
 
Moonmatrix - The whole pang in the head thing is hilarious.  I'm so with you on that one. devil
 
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