Omggggggggggg it hurts!!!!!!

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QTKaren
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   Posted 2/25/2009 2:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Wellllllllllllll 3rd day into my stint taking care of my daughter and grandkids.  Day 1 was pretty mellow cause that was just getting adjusted out here and going over a long list from my obsesive compulsive daughter on how she wanted her house and kids run.  Barb and her hubby left 6 am Monday morning and I of course was up with them and Kirstens nurse(the special needs toddler)and not lone after the older kids too since they woke up to tell mommy bye bye.  I got the older kids ready and off to school and then the nurse,Patti,said since I had been up so late the night before helping Barb in the kitchen making meals ahead of time and washing dishes that I could lay back down for an hour and a half and she would also wath the 5 yr old olong with Kirsten.  Boy I tell ya that nap wasnt long but it sure counted cause I slept like a log and felt wayyy better.  And with feeling better I got busy and did wayyyyyyyy too much as usual sighhhhhhhh.  Did alot of laundry and just general picking up after the kids and taking care of them,getting dinner made and then home work and cleanup.  I got up this morning feeling pretty stiff but not too bad and figured hmmm this might be an easy week after all.  Sooooooooo today before Barb came home I got all the floors in theh whole house mopped and vacuumed the whole house and did more laundry and just tons of bending and reachingn to put things away.  I think I got carried away with wanted the house to look even better then before I came.  I even cleaned Barbs bedroom up to show Barb that I could handle it.  Tghen she came home and immediatly the comments came pertaining to I wasnt doing my job the right way and I have to say I even almost felt sorry for my SIL cause he was getting ragged on more then med and he actually was really trying and doing what I thought was a good job.  Barb had already left a ton of post it notes as reminders for me but after she got home omg eyes tons of smart assed notes.  Like ok we were going through way more toilet paper then we should and that was the nurses fault,my goodness that woman can go through a roll a day just in one bathroom,so Barb left post its right by the tiolet paper holder saying ppl could use 4 squares of paper to pee and 6 squres to poo!!! because it was ruining the septic system but that was harsh.  So I know my daughter is in alot of pain,they just totaly went through her chest wall to put the implants in(but they did a good job)she is alot more confident now and thet were able to make things even now and not really any different in size.  So I got to listen to more critism till she finally fell asleep.  The thing is that she cant do anything right now,she feels powerless and thats hard when your going all the time with ADHD.  So anyway I was so friggen tired tonight and coulndt wait to just sleep but all day long my ankles have been killing me with the arthritis and the pain was slowly creeping up my legs and into me butt and low back.  So I go to bed and start to fall asleep tonight and omggggggggggg get hit with the hardest and worst muscle spasms I have ever had my whole life!!!!!  Got up took more meds I mean I was searching hard for what I needed and then after a bit the spasms settled down and i went back to bed again.  And then bammmmmmmm!!! they hit again only harder I was yelling and jumped out of bed crying and rubbing my legs and butt.  So I took yet one extra dose of vicodin and now here I sit still in pain and so tired and just want to go to bed but cant cause then the spasms come bad again and all I can think about is how much sleep I am going to get so I can take care of these kids and Barb tomorrow sighhhhhhhhhhhhhh.  I just want to go home already but have 3 more days and I am so tire and sore.  Well my friends thanks for letting me vent yet againnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn.  I dont know what I would do without you guys and ya ya ya I know you were right I did too much but its for the kids.  Just tired and want to go home to a hot bath and my own bed.  Everyone take care.
 
Soft hugs,
Karen
                                                                                          
Karen
 
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pattipanda
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   Posted 2/25/2009 6:19 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Karen,

Welp, I guess the good news is your more than half way through all of this. 

It sounds like the special needs nurse and the SIL are somewhat willing to help.  If you're having a bad day today just try to take it easy.  I know that's easier said than done, but you know all too well how over doing it will create needless pain.  Just because your daughter is a bit OCD doesn't mean that you are and that you can maintain her level of perfection.. you HAVE to let her know that you're doing the absolute best that you can and if its not good enough for her it will only last a few more days.  Geez, at least she's got some help and she should be grateful for it.

I'm sorry you were spazing out last night.  I can't imagine doing all you did without having some major spasms, especially if your body isn't used to it.

I hope the next few days go by quickly for you, and you get a chance to take it easy when you can.  I'll send you some positive vibes.

Warm hugs,


Patti
 
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Chartreux
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   Posted 2/25/2009 7:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Awe Karen, your working on being a miracle worker, try to take it easy when you can...
Hope you'll be able to rest and relax soon!!
So sorry you had a rough night, don't forget about using a heating pad, hope today is better...
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GamJill
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   Posted 2/25/2009 7:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Karen-
 
It's in your make-up to give, give, give, and do, do, do for others and then you ending paying the price for it. I just would hate to see you go into a major flare for a month after this is overwith with all you are doing. So, please no more vacuuming and mopping floors at least! nono
 
Just taking care of the kids is plenty and the dang carpet and floors can be done by someone else. I watched my GDs over Valentine weekend and just taking care of them I was in so much pain afterwards. I know also the kids are so worth it! But all this other stuff is going to do you in.
 
Like Patti said, the good news is you are halfway through and then you can get home to your own bed!
 
Hang in there!
 
GamJill
 
 
 
 
 
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getting by
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   Posted 2/25/2009 7:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Karen,

I am praying for you to have the strength to get through this and sending ((((hugs)))) and positive energetic vibes your way. So do take it easy and only do what you have to. You are doing a lot by helping like you are and that should mean the world to her.

Best wishes for a relaxing day.

Hugs, Karen
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Sera Smiles
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   Posted 2/25/2009 12:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Karen, and I hope you are doing better today with the pain and especially the spasms. Please take seriously the words that have been written for you here on this topic- there are just some things that you can not do right now, and GamJill is right, the floors aren't going to roll up and out of the house if you don't break your back on them :) So what if the kitchen floor could grow corn in the crud that collects under the cabinet- isn't that a good thing in the summer? LOL really limit yourself so that you can live your life once you are home, not just endure it. Take it easy and be nicer to yourself.
"A butterfly is most vulnerable immediately after its metamorphosis."
 
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Rx Meds- Ultram, Flexeril, Toprol, Cymbalta, Buspar 
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jewelrylady
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   Posted 2/25/2009 2:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Karen, you are such a giver & I know you want to be able to so all you can for your daughter.  It sounds like your SIL has stepped up to the plate but she wanted a different plate.  Sounds like she needs a little reality check.  Just because she has OCD does not give her the right to impose her standards on others.  Her standards are her standards & not the point from which we all need to measure ourselves.  You need to do the best you can within your limits & she needs to say thanks.  I think you are so caring & kind & she needs to appreciate that, so please take care of yourself.  Pace yourself for the next few days so you can make it through without a huge flare.  I hope it all goes well with you.  Many soft & gentle hugs, Denise

 I have:  Fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, Holt-Oram Syndrome, nasal allergies, food allergies, depression, TMJ, anxiety

Married to a wonderful supportive husband & between us we have 4 children & 7 grandchildren

As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it.    Prov. 25:11


leemadd
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   Posted 2/25/2009 2:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Karen, I give you a lot of credit because the toilet paper thing would have had me annoyed.
You should be enjoying the kids and let someone else take care of the other stuff. I will be sending you some positive thoughts that you get through this with no problems and no flare.
((((((((((HUGS))))))))))
LeeAnn

tyno3
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   Posted 2/25/2009 4:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Karen: Personally, I find your daughter's approach reprehensible. I raised two boys single handedly, deadbeat dad was untraceable, worked two or more jobs and never did in one day what you have done to live up to someone else's expectations. My mom occasionally came  and helped, but all I asked was diaper changes, regular feedings and she enjoy her grandkids. The place looked like a bomb went off, when I got home, but it stayed like that until i had the time and energy to clean up. I was ever so grateful just for the help. Please don't let people make you feel "less than" by their high standards. And definitely, I would hide all post it notes in a trunk, somewhere. Unbelievable. Hugs and I hope you pamper yourself tomorrow.

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leemadd
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   Posted 2/26/2009 2:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Karen ,
Its thursday hope you are doing ok..Was thinking about how lucky your daughter is that you are still there for her.
Leeann

Sera Smiles
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   Posted 2/26/2009 3:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Karen- I hope you are doing better today. I think we are popping on here to check on you and make sure you aren't trying to re-paint :) You are a great mom and grandma with a huge heart, and we are proud of you for helping. Just remember that if you do too much, you will be left paying the bill [so to speak] we're thinking about you!

PS: I hope you took that little bathroom sign of hers and flushed it. ha!


"A butterfly is most vulnerable immediately after its metamorphosis."
 
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Rx Meds- Ultram, Flexeril, Toprol, Cymbalta, Buspar 
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jewelrylady
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   Posted 2/27/2009 12:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Karen, I sure hope you are doing well.  let us know, please.  Hugs, Denise

 I have:  Fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, Holt-Oram Syndrome, nasal allergies, food allergies, depression, TMJ, anxiety

Married to a wonderful supportive husband & between us we have 4 children & 7 grandchildren

As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it.    Prov. 25:11

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