Have I lost what little brain power I had left???

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   Posted 3/26/2009 11:09 AM (GMT -6)   
I went for my massage yesterday with the male massage therapist. I told him what I needed, a light massage and don't go too deep. He didn't start off too bad but then I had to keep telling him to lighten up, I guess men don't have a light touch. A smart person would have stopped him after a half hour but noooo not me, I let him continue the full hour. I knew on the way home I had made a big mistake and kept asking myself "are you really that dumb that you can't learn from previous mistakes"??? I really do question my mentality sometimes, the intelligent part of me was saying "stop this" but the dumb part of me was stronger and won. So I'm sitting here this morning so sore I don't want to move a muscle in my body cause they all feel like they have been beaten with a ball bat but it is my own fault.
Just wanted to share my latest dumb mistake before I hobble off to a nice warm shower. shakehead
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   Posted 3/26/2009 11:15 AM (GMT -6)   

Yep - been there, done that. LONG before I knew the fibro was my problem. It was the LAST time I went for a massage. The therapist (female) kept telling me it's good if it hurts cuz it means the toxins are being released. Days later when I was still so sore I decided I'd keep my toxins from then on. ;-)
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   Posted 3/26/2009 12:44 PM (GMT -6)   

Aww, Marlee, sorry you got beaten up and had to pay for it!!!

You're about the same age as me and we suffer from what I call the "good girl syndrome" Being; good girls don't complain - good girls don't tell someone they're doing something wrong (even if it's to ourselves), good girls don't question authority, good girls don't firmly say NO, they say welllllll maybe, good girls don't ask for extras -even if they deserve it - good girls will let anyone treat them like a door mat.  Well, Dear Sweet Marlee, You can still tell someone to stop what they are doing if its hurting you or taking advantage of you and still be GOOD. 

It took me forever to realize that.  I still have a hard time saying NO or telling people to that what they're saying or doing is wrong.  But now that I have found the innerstrength to do it, its very liberating!!! 

Why don't you call that guy and tell him you want your money back.. if not that then let him know he hurt you and you won't be returning.  Repeat business is everything to them and they need to know when the have disappointed a client and why!!   He hurt YOU!! YOU!! OUR MARLEE!!!  He deserves to be a little uncomfortable too.  I know its hard to say something to someone that's upset you or hurt you, but .. really they NEED to know.  I wish I could call him myself and let him know that he didn't do a very good job.  If calling him would make you too uncomfortable then send him a letter of complaint!!

I sure hope you feel better soon, there's nothing worse that doing something "special" for yourself and being hurt or disappointed.

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   Posted 3/26/2009 1:22 PM (GMT -6)   
The key is to find a good massage therapist...one that has to continue with their massage education.  My therapist belongs to the American Massage Therapy Association and has to take courses every year in order to stay in good standing.  She does know how to massage people with fibromyalgia.  She never does the deep massage.  I am not in pain when she gives me a massage.  Some times I have mild discomfort, but that's it. 
Always make sure you drink a ton of water all day after a massage.  That does help get the toxins out of your system.  I'm usually a little sorer the following day but then I feel much much better.
Here is a link to find a good massage therapist near you.  Make sure they treat clients with fibromyalgia.
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   Posted 3/26/2009 1:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Ok so it was not a nnice massage, but was it uncomfortable that he was man. Remember I told you there was no way i could see a man massage therapist.. No way not me.

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   Posted 3/26/2009 2:32 PM (GMT -6)   
I've had deep massage and it hurts, but I happen to stumble upon a water massage machine at my local hair and tanning salon.  I used it and awwwh, they even had a setting for fibro people. It was a dollar a minute, but after ten minutes i felt so much better so I go once a week.

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   Posted 3/26/2009 10:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Marlee, I have never had a massage so I have nothing to share in that respect but I just wanted to say I hope you feel better tomorrow. Sleep well, Hugs, Denise

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   Posted 3/26/2009 11:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Well Marlee,

Sometimes when my massages are that painful, I end up feeling wonderful about three days later.

I hope this happens to you.

Hey, how come you can keep us in line and let a male person do what he wanted to you? lol

I guess you know you can trust us.


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   Posted 3/27/2009 10:53 AM (GMT -6)   
My shoulders and shoulder blades are still quite sore, that's where most of my stress is, but the one thing that didn't happen that has happened in the past is I didn't get the sick feeling from too much toxin being released.
I don't have a problem with telling people what I think when it comes to fibro Patti so I should have stopped him between 30 and 45 minutes and I think I would have been fine. I think my my mentality was "maybe this will do me good" since I hadn't had a massage in a long time.
I did feel uncomfortable having a man doing the massage LeeAnn and won't be going back to him for that reason and the fact he doesn't have a light enough touch.
They do have the perfect little girl where I go but she only works part time and was booked til the end of May. Guess I better get on her schedule if I want another one in a couple of months.
Donnaeil, I'm brave and mentally incompetent, not a good mixture.
Thanks for all the replies.
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   Posted 3/28/2009 8:44 AM (GMT -6)   

No, you still have a brain- just see the gal that usually does your massages like you said next time!



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   Posted 3/28/2009 10:26 AM (GMT -6)   
    Hello Marlee ,
  Well hey , at least you talked to yourself , and I have also been there,
done that , it's like heyyyy I know I'm supposed to get a massage so  Please /
 be Very gentle and barelly touch me , I want to be touched like a feather./
 So they are the experts about " knowing how to do  massages " .  I bet they don't know how we all feel when they rub harder, dangg it all , when we hurt so bad i think we do loose our brains to a point..Like stupid here will lift something a little heavy ,
 or bend  over when i KNow it will hurt me.. Hang in there and next time you go,
 talk to whomever is in charge and let them know to go " e a s y " .
    Hang in there Marlee and go - s l o w  , take it easy awhile . I leave you Very
 Gentle Huggss , and keep talking to yourself , it does help .
  Have a wonderfull weekend. smilewinkgrin
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