Aww, Marlee, sorry you got beaten up and had to pay for it!!!
You're about the same age as me and we suffer from what I call the "good girl syndrome" Being; good girls don't complain - good girls don't tell someone they're doing something wrong (even if it's to ourselves), good girls don't question authority, good girls don't firmly say NO, they say welllllll maybe, good girls don't ask for extras -even if they deserve it - good girls will let anyone treat them like a door mat. Well, Dear Sweet Marlee, You can still tell someone to stop what they are doing if its hurting you or taking advantage of you and still be GOOD.
It took me forever to realize that. I still have a hard time saying NO or telling people to that what they're saying or doing is wrong. But now that I have found the innerstrength to do it, its very liberating!!!
Why don't you call that guy and tell him you want your money back.. if not that then let him know he hurt you and you won't be returning. Repeat business is everything to them and they need to know when the have disappointed a client and why!! He hurt YOU!! YOU!! OUR MARLEE!!! He deserves to be a little uncomfortable too. I know its hard to say something to someone that's upset you or hurt you, but .. really they NEED to know. I wish I could call him myself and let him know that he didn't do a very good job. If calling him would make you too uncomfortable then send him a letter of complaint!!
I sure hope you feel better soon, there's nothing worse that doing something "special" for yourself and being hurt or disappointed.
BIG gentle hugs,
I have: Fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, Holt-Oram Syndrome, nasal allergies, food allergies, depression, TMJ, anxiety Married to a wonderful supportive husband & between us we have 4 children & 7 grandchildren As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it. Prov. 25:11
No, you still have a brain- just see the gal that usually does your massages like you said next time!