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SleepyBug
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   Posted 4/3/2009 1:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Everyone!

I posted here awhile ago that I was going to see a new Gyno because I've been having weird menopause-like symptoms and wanted to know what's going on. I wasn't sure if it was actually perimenopause, my thyroid, because I had my tubes tied, or "just fibro". (I haven't thought it was "just fibro" though because the symptoms are..different. You all know what I mean, I'm sure!) Well, my appointment was today and oh my gosh was it insane!

First of all, I HATE going to the Dr. Especially the Gyno for yearly exams (which I had done today), so I get very anxious beforehand. Well, I go in and they take my blood pressure and it was 170/98 (!!!) which was shocking because it has NEVER been that high. I told the nurse that I have never had blood pressure issues, except a few visits at my old Dr. where it was 130-140/70/80. A little high, yes, but not THAT high. Normally, though, it runs around 120-125/70-80. Well, the Gyno comes in and starts lecturing me about how I am way too fat (duh!) and my blood pressure is so high I need to get on medication ASAP so I don't drop dead at any moment. So she calls up to the regular Dr.'s office upstairs (this is a large clinic type place with multiple types of health care offices in one) because she's convinced I need meds TODAY. I of course am freaking out at this point, which I am sure isn't helping matters. I tried to tell the Gyno that my BP is NEVER that high, and she just rolled her eyes at me! She basically was acting like I was some sort of cow slowly killing myself and so she was really short with me.

Then she says, well, we might as well do your health history and your pap while we wait to hear back from the Dr. upstairs. So we get to talking about my health complaints and I tell her all about my symptoms-dry skin, dry personal area, hot flashes, mood swings, palpitations, inability to lose much weight no matter how hard I try (I will lose like 5-10 lbs and then just stop). These symptoms have been going on since I had my last child, and have gotten slowly worse over the years. Then she asks me if I've gained any weight this past year, and I explained to her that I have put on an average of 10 lbs a year for the past 7 years and I told her I don't pig out really, and I do get SOME exercise (I'm not completely sedentary) and I just don't understand why I'm gaining weight instead of losing it, especially since my appetite has gone DOWN over the past several years. She gets this look on her face and says "Are you losing hair at all?" and I told her that my hair has slowly gotten super dry over the years too. Then she gets super nice and says "I bet your thyroid is causing you problems!" Right then, once she realizes I am NOT just a lazy fat person slowly killing herself-that maybe there's something actually WRONG with me-her whole attitude changes. Then when she finds out that both my father, mother, 2 of my aunts, and grandmother all had thyroid issues, she was like "oh, I bet this is exactly what's going on. Your thyroid has been making you gain weight, and has also caused your blood pressure to rise" and I'm like-DUH!! See! lol So she says, well we will draw blood today and check your thyroid, and I'm pretty sure this is what's going on, but you still need to see the Dr. upstairs and get your blood pressure under control

Well, then the nurse from the Dr. upstairs comes in, she's like-yes, you need medication today. And I'm thinking..um-what? Meds? for ONE high reading? But I thought..let's just see what they say. Then the nurse says-how many times did they check it? And I told her just the once, so she's like-Oh! Well, they need to check it again. So yet another nurse comes in to take my blood pressure again, and in 45 minutes (under a TON of stress, mind you, because I think I'm about to die any minute) my BP dropped down to 145/70. Still on the high end, but not like life threatening immediately. So then everyone (by this point there's like two nurses plus the Gyno in there) is like-oh, well. You don't need meds right now, we just need to watch it. So, in the end it turned out my BP isn't dangerously high-I just probably have "white coat" syndrome (where your BP shoots up at the Dr.) So I have to monitor it myself over the next few days and keep track, then just call and make an appointment with the regular Dr. on Monday and take it from there. I am super relived at this point, but I am also thinking-why on earth didn't you go through my symptoms and health and family history BEFORE you act rude to me and scare me half to death???!!?? Jeez!

Anyway, after all that terrifying trauma it ended up that the Gyno is pretty much 100% sure my thyroid is out of whack, which is what is causing the weight gain and menopause type symptoms (AND the higher blood pressure!). She said that the tubal is probably what's caused my heavy periods, but that my symptoms sound exactly like thyroid and not just the fibro. Also, after they get me on thyroid meds, I can start seeing their dietician (sp?) to help get the weight I've gained off.

So thankfully I AM ok and NOT about to have a stroke! So that's really good news! It's also good news that these weird symptoms are caused by something-it's not just all in my head! The other good news that came out of today is that this particular health complex has a special program for the uninsured and low income, and I was approved for the program!!! My $250 appointment only cost me $10!! I was also able to get my blood work done there, and that will cost about $20, plus they have dental services and I should be able to get my teeth all fixed for about $40! Oh, and they also have a pharmacy, so any meds I need to take will cost me between $10-$30! After not having insurance for ages and being turned down for medicaid over and over, this made me VERY happy!!! Oh, and if I need to see a specialist, I can go to the hospital they are connected to and pay the same kind of prices! Hooray!!!

Well-that's my crazy story! Good news in the end, thank God. I will keep you posted on my lab results and stuff, too.
love and hugs
~danielle


fibromyalgia, ibs, gerd, anxiety

We either make ourselves happy or miserable. The amount of work is the same.~Carlos Castaneda

I wish you all the joy that you can wish.~William Shakespeare

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Sherrine
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   Posted 4/3/2009 1:34 PM (GMT -7)   

I sure would like to find one of those clinics.  Try to get more information about it and post it.  There are several members that don't have health insurance on this forum.

I'm so glad you are fine.  My blood pressure elevated when I gained weight and they only put me on a diuretic and it came right down.  Try and watch  your salt intake and see what it does.

I've had weight problems most of my life and, yes, you are treated rudely.  They act like you sit all day eating bon bons!  One doctor had me so irritated that I refused to be weighed when I went to his office.  He didn't like it but, oh well!  redface

Let us know what you find out when the blood work gets back. 

Sherrine


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vestabula
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   Posted 4/3/2009 2:44 PM (GMT -7)   

Danielle...you probably have 'white coat syndrome' like I do when I get in a doctor's office.  My BP is unusally high and starts to go down by the time I am ready to leave.  In my opinion, putting you on meds for one high reading is ridiculous.  Like all meds, they have side effects.  145/70 is not  high enough to get excited over, especially the bottom number.  I have had mine go up to 190/100 in a doc's office but they are aware I am anxious and have never put me on medication.  Take it at home or in a drug store where you are more relaxed and see how it is.  Mine was 100/78 the last time I took it at home.  Disclaimer:  I am not a doctor so my two cents is only a suggestion and not a diagnosis!  Obviously a doc would know more about your situation than me. (but I still think one single reading is not enough to justify meds..so there!)

I'm glad you found a place that will treat you for a reasonable fee.  I wish we had something like that here because I don't have health insurance either.  I hope they figure your symptoms out and if it's thyroid, it will be treatable. 

Feel better

Huggies

Donna


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K9
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   Posted 4/3/2009 3:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Wow - that sounds like quite an ordeal. I hate how one can feel so victimized at a doctor's appointment. You feel so helpless...
I'm glad you've had some good luck with your health insurance, at least. Makes me glad I live in Canada...
I have Fibromyalgia, and nothing else!
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Statgeek
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   Posted 4/3/2009 4:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Geeze girl - sounds like an ordeal!  I have heard of doctors treating overweight people like every problem they have is because of the weight.  Just lose weight and miraculously, your blood pressure will drop, your headaches will stop, you will think more clearly, your teeth will grow straight and you child will be potty trained.  I think it is extremely rude when people, especially doctors act like overweight people cannot have legitimate health problems - they are just fat.  I do research on body image and have read about this attitude in the journals - they call it anti-fat attitude: that the person who is overweight is personally responsible and is lazy and horrible.  And that attitude is just wrong!!!
 
Phew!  off my soapbox!  I'm glad you got help.  Your doc should have taken a second reading before freaking you out.  But glad they got it all figured out and she actually listened to you.  Hope you are feeling better soon and they get you the right thyroid meds and all that.
Best,
Sue

SleepyBug
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   Posted 4/4/2009 7:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Donna,

Yeah, they thought it was white coat syndrome, too. Fortunately, my dad has a home blood pressure monitor, so I'm going to use for a few days here at home and take the readings to the Dr. with me so that they can calm the heck down!

I did think it was a bit ridiculous that she was so rude at first just about my weight. Yes, I know I'm overweight but it's not like I'm one of those 400-500 lb people you see on tv sometimes. I guess I do understand why she acted like that. I had never seen her before and didn't have my health records with me, so she really had no idea about my health. To her, I just seemed like an overweight person with dangerous blood pressure. She could have been a little less snippy about it, but I do understand. Like I said, she did get a lot nicer and seemed way more relieved once she found out more info and they rechecked it.

Here's the link to the website for the place. Obviously it won't help those of you not in SE Michigan, but maybe you could call and see if they are part of a group of places all over, or if they know of a similar place in your area or something. Worth a try, anyway!

www.centerforfamilyhealth.org/

Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts! Hope you all have a wonderful, pain free day :-)
love and hugs
~danielle


fibromyalgia, ibs, gerd, anxiety

We either make ourselves happy or miserable. The amount of work is the same.~Carlos Castaneda

I wish you all the joy that you can wish.~William Shakespeare

Housework, if you do it right, will kill you.~Erma Bombeck


pattipanda
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   Posted 4/4/2009 9:18 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Danielle!

Wow!!!! What a crazy ordeal!!! I've been anxious to know how this appt was going to go for you.  Geeez, weight bias people shouldn't be in the "people business".  Personally I feel like this is an form of discrimination.  And I agree with you that such behavior wasn't necessary at your first visit.  I'm glad that things worked themselves out in the long run.  But the doctors need to know that they can scar us forever by the way they behave when we go to them for care.  Hopefully you can get the thyroid problem under control soon.  I'm glad you're going to see a GP next week.  I know lossing your old doctor was really tramatic for you.  Hopefully these new docs will work out.. the price sure is right, eh?

Yes.. please let us know how things turn out with the blood test and the next appt.  I'll be thinking about you and hope this all works out well.

Hugs 4 now..


Patti
 
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Dagger
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   Posted 4/4/2009 5:38 PM (GMT -7)   
I know a few people that won't go to a doctor because they are overweight and have been treated rudely in the past. Extra weight should always be addressed but never at the expense of dignity. I know I am overweight and expect my doctors to bring it up. I also expect to be treated professionally during this discussion.

When a new cardiologist failed to mention my weight and suggested meds instead, I asked him why. He said that most people get deeply offended when a doctor mentions weight. He said that in his experience, most patients would rather take another blood pressure pill than change their diet and exercise so he rarely mentions it anymore. He was polite and professional when we did talk about my weight but it annoyed me that I had to bring it up.

My sister once went to a new gyn for a minor problem unrelated to weight or diet. She had just lost over 50lbs and still had about 30 extra lbs but she felt happy and confident about it. This new doc never asked her anything about her weight - he just blasted her about being lazy and overeating. Just one visit with this doc changed her from being happy about her weight loss to depression about the extra weight she still carried. She put on 20 lbs in a few weeks and ended up needing antidepressants for a while. One visit with a thoughtless doctor did this to her.

You are so lucky that you found an affordable clinic. I hope they can help you.

donnaeil
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   Posted 4/4/2009 6:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Ihad an appointment with a physicians assistant who was down right rude about my wieght. It is a form of discrimination. It remids me of when I was a child and people would get that certain look when they saw me in places where few black people were.

I remember folks thinking I was not intelligent enough or could not possibly qualify to be in a certain class. today overweight people get to experience this in their doctor's offices, at work and even when out doing things like eating in restaurants and food shopping.

Being overweight is now the equivalent of being out of control or stupid.

We have to work against these attitudes. I wrote a letter that i will soon send to the hospital the physicians assistant works at. It has taken me three months to work up the nerve.

I am sorry this happened to you. Instead of the medical profession being of help, they chose to degrade us.

Donnaeil

pattipanda
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   Posted 4/5/2009 8:09 AM (GMT -7)   

PS... Go for it Donnaeil!!  Medical professionals need to know that overweight people have just as many rights as those who don't have weight issues.  The same is true as any form of discrimination.. there's no room for it in the doctor's office nono    Doctors have to realize that they can be sued for discrimination just as easily as they can for doing a botched surgery.

And, Danielle, I meant to mention.. one of the reasons I like my doctor is.. he's a rather LARGE man.  He deals with weight issues too.  He has never made me feel bad about my weight and no one in his office has made me feel bad about my weight.  I HAVE put on a lot of extra weight over the past year.. about 20 lbs.  I'm not happy about it, but I'm the same person I was before I gained the weight and I know part of the reason I put on so much weight is, my meds and its just too painful to get as much exercise as I should.  I hope that when I'm feeling a little better I'll be able to knock off some of this extra weight.  But I thank God my doctor is the way he is.


Patti
 
Fibormyalgia, 4x Lyme Disease Survivor, Depression, Anxiety Disorder, Dyslexia, 2 Lumbar Disk Herniations, Allergies, Bi-lateral Carpal Tunnel, Psoriasis. 
Meds = Elavil, Tramadol, Xanax, Lipitor
"Shoot for the moon, even if you miss, you'll land among the stars" - author unknown

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