By Jove, I think she's got it! Yes, yes, yes! You set a goal, make a plan on how you will do it with fibro, and accomplish it! Oh, how great you feel when you do!
This is a wonderful site about maintaining a positive attitude with fibromyalgia.
Thanks for sharing you class information! We do need to hear that.
Thank you so much for sharing that! I never got it either, but now I think I can use that. I've always been an all or nothing person. When we have company coming up to stay with us I try to do all the cleaning and preparation in one day and it is impossible for me. When I do somehow get it done I am exhausted, sore and sometimes in tears. I will be sure to use this.
Dear Stargeek, and all: Stargeek, if I needed a disability placard, and had one, and some places were taken by people w/o either a placard or a wheelchair embossed on license plate, I wouldn't let it go. I'd either inform store manager, even if I had to call them from my cell outside the store, or I'd take license plate and report them. Let the police wrangle with them. I get infuriated with inconsiderate "self entitled'' people.
This "pace yourself " is a new concept for me. I set about a task full of vim and vigor (not), but set about something with an attitude of "ït's got to be done and nobody else seems to be stepping up", kinda mad like, you know. I look out across the yard as the snow is rapidly melting and see at least two days worth of putting things to rights. I look around the house and see it hasn't been vacuumed in two months. I look at the entire cluttered set-up and want to go back to bed. It feels hopeless. It's sooooo hard to let it go. I like a nice clean tidy environment, and if I get my laundry done, that's a two day job. frustrating as all get out. My 21 year old son has been essentially living here since Christmas. I ask, he says, "ok ma", and still it doesn't get done. I love my son but it takes more energy than I have to motivate him. Yuck.
I'm a firm believer in the power of positive thinking. In my old job I would put together our county's annual Leadership Program.. a six week course.. I always included lots of positive thinking portions in the program. Its true that if you imagine yourself as getting things that you want you CAN achieve a lot!! Clear thinking is a key ingredient of positive thinking. However we have to be realistic about the process. And sometimes when you have some physical limitations its hard to accomplish those things.. but its always worth a try. Think of those folks who suffer from amputations that go on to become successful athletes!! As I would mention in my programs, confidence is a major component in getting ahead and being a positive thinker.
All that being said, many fibro-mites have to limit ourselves because of fatigue and pain... BUT, we have to remember when we pace ourselves we should be proud of the accomplishments we make. Even if it means doing things alittle at a time and building ourselves up to being able to do a little more next time.
One thing we can think about when it comes to positive thinking is, we are fortunate to be living in this time.. when we know what this crazy illness is. Years ago nobody knew what fibromyalgia was..we would have suffered without proper medical care, granted we're still in the babystep process of learning about and curing fibro.. but at least we have some understanding of it. We live in a time that we have the internet and an opportunity to have a great forum to share our feelings and get support. So when you're feeling down about being "sick" remind yourself that if you have to have this syndrome at least its becoming something that the medical industry is starting to grasp and we may someday have a cure. Its better than sulking about it.
Good topic Sue.. I wish we had a program like yours here. Thanks for sharing what you've been learning!!
Hugs and Happiness!!!