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leemadd
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   Posted 4/20/2009 1:30 PM (GMT -7)   
I am exhausted, Tennessee was not the trip I dreamed it would be. I did alot of running visiting Sick aunt whoms care has been put into hospice.. Another aunt who had a stroke a couple weeks ago she is 79 and needs to go into assisted living. She refuses because she will not sale her home for the money she should get She does not understand that she will still make money because
her house is old enough that she has tons of equity in it she paid 70,000 and it just appraised at 170,000.. She does not need the money by any means she has alot and I mean alot of stocks in exxon.. she lives off the interest each month.. she is able to mantain a balance of 50000.00 in her checking and I can not convince her to put some into cds...She never had to deal with money my uncle always did that and he passed away 2 years ago. he had a 500000.00 life insurance policy. I dont know how to convince her that she is ok financially I am her benefactor and she will be ok...My 12 year old neice is now living with my parents,court appointed..She is a spoiled rotten  little brat..My brother is trying to get full custody of her.. Her mother is a drug addicted drunk and a physical abuser to both daughter and my brother...
My family expects me to swoop in and take care of everything even though I technically live 500 miles away from them. I want to visit and not have to take care of every thing..My mom is not physically able to take care of my neice. She has been handed everything because Mom trys to make up for her mistakes by buying her stuff. My brother does the same.
 I am tired of it I can not take care of there problems for them anymore. My momrefuses to let her go to foster care even though she has Ms and a multitude of health problems worse than mine.
    I am sorry for my ccomplaining but Jeez they all need to grow up.
LeeAnn

Sherrine
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   Posted 4/20/2009 1:37 PM (GMT -7)   

I'm sorry your trip to Tennessee didn't go well for you.  It's hard to travel and it sounds like you didn't get any rest either!  I wish you could have had some fun time thrown in there.  But this is what happens as family ages.  I've been there and done that!

You know, LeeAnn, your Mom sounds so special!  Here, it is difficult for her to take care of her grandchild but is willing to give it a shot.  I know I wouldn't put her in foster care either.  That is pretty rough on kids..especially at that age.  I only hope that  your niece will come to appreciate all that your Mom is doing, once she matures some.  I think your Mom is amazing!
 
Sherrine


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leemadd
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   Posted 4/20/2009 1:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Sherrine, My Mom is amazing she has put off Knee surgery for 15 years because she is always caring for someone, She had grams in house for 4 years she passed away then my uncle moved in for 1 year until he passed she took in her uncle and aunt for 5 months and my brother for 6months during his divorce. My sister and kids have lived there off and on for the last 20 years. I just need My Mom to take care of her self. I do not want neice to go into foster care either I have been a foster parent and it is very hard on kids.. My mom is in a wheele chair and still does it all.. She needs to take care of her health she is having a lot of health issues she has scorosis of liver never drank a day in her life it is from all the meds she has taken.. I am sorry i vented, As you know I am usually the positive poster(hehe) I did get a few hours to take hubby through mountains we had a whole 4 hours with just the 4 of us.
Lee Ann

Sherrine
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   Posted 4/20/2009 2:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes, she does need to take care of herself.  And, yes, she is amazing but this is what she wants to do, too.  It would be wonderful if her granddaughter starts realizing the sacrifices your Mom is making and maybe starts to help your Mom some.  It could be a win-win situation!  I really hope so.  But, yes, your Mom has to take care of herself, too, or she can't help the ones she wants to help.  I hope it all works out wonderfully for all people involved...including you!
 
Oh, and I knew you were venting.  I just had to tell you how wonderful your Mom must be, but I'm sure I didn't have to tell you that!
 
Sherrine
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pattipanda
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   Posted 4/20/2009 2:31 PM (GMT -7)   

OoooO!!  Sounds like a rough trip.  But glad you're back.  We missed you!!! :-)

Try to get some rest in your own bed, that always feels wonderful when you've been away on a stressful trip.

BTW... your mom sounds like an amazing woman!!!  God bless her!!

Hugs for now...


Patti
 
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GamJill
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   Posted 4/21/2009 7:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Sorry to hear the trip was not very pleasant- and Yay, for the four hours you did squeeze in!
 
I am watching my BIL go through some similar things with his parents right now. His parents (both 85) live in an assisted living apartment and his dad is getting worse and his mom cannot take care of him anymore, it is affecting her health. They think he will be going in a nursing home once he has his evaluation. I know this has not been easy on him and all his brothers. 
 
I feel for you and hope your getting a little bit of rest-
 
Jill 
 
 
  
 
 
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