Hi Karen...did you see my post today about the hubby giving up on me...sounds like we are both on the same page. My husband has been working at least a 60 hour week teaching on line...he has a class that is so consuming he swore he wouldn't ever teach it again, but lo and behold he announced he was teaching it this summer. There are so many things that have to be done around here too that he promised WE would get to...not gonna happen. He has always loved teaching, especially since many of his students are in the military and in war zones and he cuts them a lot of slack and they appreciate that. Today he said he hates what he does. He's burned out and I feel guilty because with all my illnesses I can't help financially anymore. He wants to know why I don't finish the book I started to write months ago as I already have an interested publisher. BECAUSE my eyes blur looking at the computer and THE FOG interfers with constructing a coherent sentence! I feel like you do...I can't do anything right and I'm afraid he is sick and tired of ME being sick and tired.
All I can say is that I'm with you all the way, girl. I know how you feel...I understand how you feel and I wish I had an answer that would help us not think we are so useless. I mowed the lawn on Mother's Day with my son as he was working and he has no idea what that did to my legs and back. (it's 3/4 of an acre with hills) I try to help in any way I can, and I know you do too. We can only do what we can do. This too shall pass, I am sure, for both of us. I try to understand what it must feel like for him to be living with someone who just can't move on some days.
Take care and I am thinking of you. YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON and don't ever forget that!
It is so nice to see your post! And how far you have come since the stroke! Sounds like you are doing everything possible that your body can do, so please be kind to yourself- you are making great progress. Hubby sounds stressed being impatient, wishy washy, saying hurtful things. Women operate on emotion, men are factual and his emotions are probably coming out sideways. I hope this changes, and if it does not, you need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him.
If Jayson is tired from working, by all means have daughter help paint- not sure why you have to pay her? Your her mom and you need help with this project. As far as being right or wrong- there is no right or wrong recovering from a stroke and having fibro! It is a day to day thing and go by what your body is telling you to do or not do.
Hang on to what brings you joy- like your flowers. If it is getting out of control, maybe downsize a bit, so it can be more manageable for you right now and when your able to do more, have flowers galore- Your not alone Karen- we are but a couple taps away on the keyboard, so stay in touch and let us know how you are doing!