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SharonGL
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Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 31
   Posted 5/18/2009 10:02 PM (GMT -7)   
I have had my 1st appoinment with my psycologist and I haven't stopped crying yet, I feel so guilty for not seeing what my ex was doing to my Daughter, She is getting further and further away in a bid to cope, how can I save her, I love her so very much, this will all come back to bite her if she doesn't deal with it but she just won't, I didn't save her.
Sharon.


Shash13
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Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 179
   Posted 5/18/2009 10:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Sharon, please learn to stop beating yourself up.... One of the hardest lessons I had to learn was that you can't see everything and you can't save everyone, even your children.... You can only do the best you can at the time you need to do it..... Remember, hindsight is always 20/20..... And, guilt is unproductive and can literally eat you alive.... I have to remind myself about these same things often, but I'm finally actually understanding and believing.
You're not alone. There are lots of us out here that care about you, and yes, you do deserve that love and support.... My arms are around you giving you very gentle (((hugs))).... Really.... And I'm sure that there are many more as well. You are not crying by yourself, either.... Please know that there are lots of loving thoughts coming your way.
Please post again soon and let us know how you are doing. You can get through this and so can your daughter when she is ready. She has to do it for herself -- you can't do it for her -- you must take care of yourself first anyway or you can't help anyone.
Shash
Dx: FMS,OA,depression,anxiety,DDD with 7 herniations so far,HTN,IBS,cardiac
stent,failing aortic valve,angina,migraines with aura,many surgeries,+misc.
Rx: Nifedipine,Atenolol,Enalapril,Simvastatin,Levothyroxine,Cymbalta,Bupropion,
Dicyclomine,Lorazepam,Darvocet,Percocet,albuteral inhaler,nitroglycerin,+
( novice with computer - patience, please!)


SharonGL
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Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 31
   Posted 5/18/2009 11:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much Shash for your reply of compassion and support.  There is so so much more to our story and I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel, as we are all trying to deal with this without the support of my parents and Brothers.
Sharon.

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