Sassy, you have gotten some really good advice here. I don't think you ever "get used" to fibro. I work around the fibro to do the things I want to do but it still isn't easy. A few weeks ago I dug out a shrub. Before fibro, that would have been easy. I thought this would be a cinch, too since we have really sandy soil here. But, it took me 1 1/2 hours to get that stupid shrub out of the ground! I was in tears because I remembered how easy it used to be for me.
I've had fibro for 22 years so sometimes those feelings do come back. But, you can't let them eat you alive, either. You have to look at all the things you CAN do! You will learn how to pace yourself to accomplish the things that are necessary. The other stuff can be pushed aside or your family can help out. Be sure to give yourself pats on the back for the things you accomplish because you should be proud of it. Life isn't easy with fibromyalgia but it still can have joy and sense of accomplishment. So try hard not to be so hard on yourself.
Sassy, thanks for posting this question. Everyone has some good answers. I am touched by what people are saying because I am feeling the exact same things.
I dug up a giant lily and divided it into 15 plants and replanted them on Saturday. That was the only thing I could do all day. Before, I could do that, plant a bunch of other plants, fertilize, mow, weed, sweep, etc. I did force myself to sort and start the laundry on Saturday afternoon. I had to because I babysat my daughter's puppy and there were a lot of smelly rags from cleaning up dog pee and because we were out of clothes.
That night I cried because I couldn't do what I used to do. Normally I can celebrate and be glad that I could do some stuff. But other days I feel the loss.