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Lefty85
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Date Joined Apr 2009
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   Posted 6/18/2009 11:25 AM (GMT -7)   
This week has been such a stressful one for me.  First of all, my boyfriend has been struggling with horrible back pain for about three weeks now, and his doctors have finally concluded that it must be his MS.  He lays on the floor in agony all the time and there is nothing that helps him.  I can hardly stand seeing him in such misery and not being able to do anything to help.  He is a forklift driver for the factory where we both work, but obviously he can't drive right now, so he was doing work in the office of his department, because his doctor wrote a note restricting him from driving.  But, after a week, human resources caught wind of it (from an angry co-worker who decided to run her mouth) and they said that if he can't perform his full work duties then he's not allowed to work at all.  So now he's out of work until he gets better, and who knows how long that will take. 
As for me, I've been working full time, doing all the housework, all the cooking, all the laundry, and taking care of his daughter.  My pain was a little better for about a week or two, but needless to say I've been running myself to the point of exhaustion every single day, and today it finally caught up to me.  I felt absolutely horrible, and had to take a day off of work, which will be devastating to us financially.  We're already behind on car payments, credit card payments and, of course, medical bills.  My phone got shut off because I couldn't afford to pay the full bill.  I payed as much as I could afford but I guess it wasn't enough.  We don't have a landline phone, so it's frustrating, and it will be almost a month until I might be able to afford to get it back.  It's my week to buy groceries, and I can't afford more than about $60 dollars at the most.  Back when it was just me at my apartment, I'd just go hungry if I couldn't afford anything, but here there are three other people counting on me, and it's humiliating. 
What's worse is I just found out that work has been cancelled for me tomorrow, because business has been so slow.  Now I will lose two days of pay instead of one, which is an absolute disaster.  I don't know what we're going to do.  I can't support everyone financially and be the only person to do all the housework.  It's too much.  I am so stressed out, and it is making everything worse.  No matter how hard I try, I just can't calm down.  My pain won't stop, it just gets worse and worse.  I cannot sleep, no matter what medications I take to help me.  I just toss and turn all night.  I wish I knew what to do... how to make this better.  But I just feel helpless.
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vestabula
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   Posted 6/18/2009 12:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Lefty, that is such a load of work to do even for a healthy person, so don't think you are incompetent or not doing enough.  The economy just sucks.  There are so many people out of work or laid off.  I'm wondering if you can apply for temorpary help somewhere.  I know there are food banks where I live that are free for low income and the unemployed.  Also, I would tell the phone company that you have a disabled person and a child in your house.  They cannot turn off the phone under those circumstances...at least where I live...or the power.  I am sure you and your husband have paid taxes for all your working lives that go to assist those in need and you are one of them now so I would investigate all the possibilities available, and not feel embarrassed to do so.
Maybe WIC for your child?
 
So sorry for all the pain you are having...it's bad enough when nothing stressful  is going on in our lives.  I hope you find some relief soon.
 
huggies
Donna
fibro, menieres disease, RLS, anxiety disorder, disc compression, scoliosis, spinal stenosis TMJ  Meds: Lexapro and valium


Sherrine
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   Posted 6/18/2009 1:58 PM (GMT -7)   
There are a lot of us feeling helpless these days.  I'm so sorry you are going through this.  You have been given great advice from Donna.  Look into having the phone put back on.  Trust me, you aren't the only ones having financial trouble these days. 
 
If your income is really low, apply for food stamps.  I understand you can do that on line.  Also, try shopping in the discount groceries.  We had an Aldi's open near us and I really like that store.  They have some great items and it will help stretch that money.  I've never spent more than $30 there and have walked out with five huge bags of groceries!
 
Meanwhile, take it a day at a time and don't try to think too far in the future.  None of us knows what the future holds.
 
Sherrine
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Hara
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   Posted 6/18/2009 3:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Someone said something about Anxiety. I think that's what mine pain was in my chest last night and when I ended up in the ER the other week. It hurt so badly right in the middle of my chest you would not believe it, maybe you would. 
 
Yesterday's chain of events goes like this. I went to Physical Therapy, went and got the mail and found out in my state my son missed passing the WASL by 2 freaking points, then come to find out that the little dog that was being cared for by my nextdoor neighbors is going to Port Orchard, WA to live with a family there instead of staying in the complex where I live and my neighbor. I guess that's what I get for getting attached to this little Mini Pincher. Well at least now my neighbors' house won't smell so bad after she (dog) is gone. I really wanted visitation rights. But Port Orchard is too far away for me to drive. Then I came into my appartment and the worst chest pain hit my right in the middle of my chest. I cried it hurt so bad.
 
HARA- FMS, DIABETES 2, MDD, ANXIETY, SLEEP APNEA, GERD, TENDONITIS, CARPAL TUNNEL SYNDROM, ASTHMA

Lefty85
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Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 87
   Posted 6/18/2009 3:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for the advice, everyone. I think I will at least have to get in contact with the phone company about shutting my phone off. I even paid them part of the bill, so it's not like they didn't get anything. As for groceries, I think I'll just try to bargain shop for now, but if things continue this way much longer we'll have to see about getting some assistance. Right at the moment I don't have anything too pressing to do, so I'm trying just to relax and calm down. My boyfriend got back from the doctor and found out that it's not his MS causing his pain. The doctor thinks it's a slipped disc, so he has to have an MRI to be sure... but I'm so glad it's not the MS!! I'm relieved for that. I'm sorry to hear about your bad day and your chest pain, Hara. I had something similar to that happen to me one time. My chest got so tight and it was so painful I had to just lay there and cry until it let up. I also think mine was anxiety, but it scared me. I hope that you are feeling better now. Thanks again everyone.
Fibromyalgia, Depression, Anxiety
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Amytriptiline, Flexeril (PRN), Percocet (PRN), Ambien (PRN at bedtime), B12
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Be not afraid of going s l o w l y, be afraid only of standing still.
 
 
 
 
 
                                                                                  


SleepyBug
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   Posted 6/18/2009 3:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I definitely second Aldi's! We shop there all of the time. Thanks to their fabulous prices, we are able to feed a family of 5, including a teenager and two little boys with big appetites, for under $100 a week. I LOVE that store!

Definitely look into getting your phone back on. If your boyfriend has MS, that should qualify you for help.

Also..don't forget to breath and try to relax as much as possible. And be sure to take small breaks-even if it's just 5 minutes here and there-during the day. I know how hard it is when you are responsible for taking care of everybody else, but you have to take care of you, too.

And come here anytime and vent to us!!! We are here for you.

I do hope things get better for you very soon. {{{{gentle hugs}}}}
love and hugs
~danielle


fibromyalgia, ibs, gerd, anxiety

We either make ourselves happy or miserable. The amount of work is the same.~Carlos Castaneda

I wish you all the joy that you can wish.~William Shakespeare

Housework, if you do it right, will kill you.~Erma Bombeck


Hara
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   Posted 6/18/2009 3:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Lefty85 said...
Thank you for the advice, everyone. I think I will at least have to get in contact with the phone company about shutting my phone off. I even paid them part of the bill, so it's not like they didn't get anything. As for groceries, I think I'll just try to bargain shop for now, but if things continue this way much longer we'll have to see about getting some assistance. Right at the moment I don't have anything too pressing to do, so I'm trying just to relax and calm down. My boyfriend got back from the doctor and found out that it's not his MS causing his pain. The doctor thinks it's a slipped disc, so he has to have an MRI to be sure... but I'm so glad it's not the MS!! I'm relieved for that. I'm sorry to hear about your bad day and your chest pain, Hara. I had something similar to that happen to me one time. My chest got so tight and it was so painful I had to just lay there and cry until it let up. I also think mine was anxiety, but it scared me. I hope that you are feeling better now. Thanks again everyone.

The last few days have been an emotional roller-coaster ride. It has not been fun.
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