Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, scoliosis, back problems, hypothyroidism.
I am new to this board as of today, but not to fibromyalgia. I am 99 percent sure that is what I have. I cannot for the life of me find a doctor who will diagnose me though. They just keep saying it is all in my head. But anywho, I know EXACTLY what you are going through Danielle. Here is my familiar story. Hubby and I married right after i graduated high school. We had a son right away. We did not plan this though. He resented me for this. All my life I had severe allergies to things such as grass and animals. about 10 years ago it turned into asthma problems. This made me less active and I developed GERD due to gaining excess weight. about 10 years ago I found where a girl I went to school had for some reason started calling him on his cell phone. (Thank God for reverse phone number look up services). I knew he had no good reasons for calling her. He didn't know her from school. She has started working with him and he did not tell me. Well, I confronted him and he acted like he had no idea why her # was on his cell phone recent calls list. I prayed for God to lead me to the truth. A few days later her husband called me and told me he wanted to know what was going on also. Well, the crap hit the fan here. I let him have it. I'm pretty sure nothing happened between them other than expressing their desires to be together, since me and her husband treated them so awful as each had told the other. I threatened to leave with full intent to do so but decided to give it a chance for our son's sake. Things improved about 75 percent but I developed IBS and anxiety on top of the asthma and GERD problems. The last five years or so I have what I'm almost sure is fibromyalgia. It is so hard for me to do just the simpliset day to day chores. Well, a couple of years ago, here we go again. I found text messages on his cell phone to another girl he comes in contact with at work. He said I had become so lazy and did not seem to care for him anymore he had to have a new *friend* to talk to. LAZY is what he calls me for having fibro pain where I cannot do anything some days. Well, I took my share of our money and opened a checking account/savings account in another bank. I started looking for a job and an apartment for me and my son. He cired and begged me not to go. So here I sit. How do you ever trust them again? You don't really. You just have to decide to play dumb until things fall into your lap again I guess then decide do I want to stay or leave again? Is it really worth it? To me I guess so far it has been. Or been the easiet choice so far. I am in too much pain constantly to do much more than just lie here. Can someone out there tell what it takes for a doctor to find out for sure you do have fibro? I have go to have some pain relief here. I have found Lortab helps me alot, but gives me worsened GERD symptoms. Please send me advice before I decide to never get out of bed again.
Hi, Danielle, I'm so glad you and your husband are talking and listening. I had a lot of the same thing going on in my house growing up, ppl didn't discuss things. Things were allowed to fester till they blew up. When I was first married, we had a tough time trying to communicate. I would stew in my own juices and so would my husband. We were married less than a yr and wondering if we made a mistake. I called a priest in our church who said he could squeeze us in in about 3 months. Mercifully, that jerk left our parish. I then called a woman we knew who ran the Pre Cana meetings before we got married. She and her husband invited us over to help us sort things out and help us to learn how to talk to each other. They suggested we go to a Marriage Encounter weekend. We did and they also helped us w/ some techniques to talk to each other w/o blaming or confrontational attitude.
Our friends didn't charge us anything and the ME weekend only asks a donation of what you can afford. It is hard to 'un'learn a lifetime of non communicating, but the rewards are tremendous.