Something interesting I learned.

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SassyMyKitty
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   Posted 6/24/2009 5:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey all I have started reading a book I got years ago. It's called "The Velveteen Principles" by Toni Raiten-D'Antonio. This woman wrote this book about all these different things that she has learned from the children's book "The Velveteen Rabbit". I'd like to share a small passage with you from the book. She is talking about being real. Being your true self, and not the self that other people expect of you.
 
"Understanding the importance of being Real gave me a new perspective, that I would call a more Realistic point of view, which slowly changed me. I started by trying to quiet that endlessly self-critical part of myself, the part that dwells on supposed flaws. After all, no one is perfect in a mechanical sort of way, and it's self-destructive to pick on yourself for being human. I also began to embrace the quirky pieces of myself-my interest in art and my sense of humor, for example-and realized that I could be loved just as I am."
 
This book is pretty amazing because a lot of the time, we fibromites lose ourselves because of our illness. We have to readjust the way we live just because of our limitations. And our limitations are really hard to accept. But, in the course of dealing with this illness, we sometimes lose sense of who we are. Just because we have an illness that changes the way we live doesn't mean that it should completely change us as people.
Anyways. I found this interesting and thought I would share it with you all.


'Cause when push comes to shove
you taste what you're made of.
You might bend til you break
'cause it's all you can take.
On your knees you look up
decide you've had enough.
You get mad.
You get strong.
Wipe your hands
shake it off.
Then you stand.
 
-"Stand" by Rascal Flatts
 
 


Sherrine
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   Posted 6/24/2009 5:55 AM (GMT -7)   

Thanks for sharing!  Yes, fibro can change you, if you let it.  You have to remember who you are.  I'm Sherrine, who happens to have fibromyalgia.  I'm NOT a fibromite named Sherrine.  I'm much more than that!

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God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.    2 Timothy 1:7


Marlee2
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   Posted 6/24/2009 6:31 AM (GMT -7)   
That is so true Sassy. I've always been very self critical, set the bar so high for myself that's it's next to impossible to reach. Since having fibro I'm learning to let go of a lot of things and not be defined by them.
 
Thanks for sharing.
 
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noklu
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   Posted 6/24/2009 7:13 AM (GMT -7)   
That is so poignant. Thanks for sharing
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SassyMyKitty
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   Posted 6/24/2009 8:08 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm really learning a lot from this book. I will share other things that I have learned when I find the really good points. I've always been very self-critical. I feel like I can never be good enough. I always set the bar so high. With fibro, I am trying to learn how to be ok with my limitations. It isn't easy, but it's something that has to be done if I ever want to be happy while dealing with this illness.
'Cause when push comes to shove
you taste what you're made of.
You might bend til you break
'cause it's all you can take.
On your knees you look up
decide you've had enough.
You get mad.
You get strong.
Wipe your hands
shake it off.
Then you stand.
 
-"Stand" by Rascal Flatts
 
 


Statgeek
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   Posted 6/24/2009 10:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sassy, Sounds like a really good book. For a long time I hung around with people in church and business who weren't real. They would say things like, "I never have a bad day." Don't get me wrong, I am happy most of the time and practice being grateful for the little things because it helps my attitude. I usually have a positive attitude and think there is a way to get something done. But no one is happy 24 7 and these people would not like you if you weren't happy all the time. They would say things like, "go to a burn unit . . ." I'd end up feeling guilty for being sad, which just makes it worse!

Sherrine, when we are first diagnosed, it consumes us because we have so much to learn. I like you way of putting it. I think I am getting closer to where you are now. A couple of weeks ago we went to the baseball game. The person at the gate let us in at a closer place. At first I didn't realize he was opening the door for us, then I realized, Oh, I have the cane and he is saving me from walking so far, how nice.

Rambling . . . oh well . .. thanks for the post, Sassy.
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