Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, scoliosis, back problems, hypothyroidism.
Thanks to all of you who responded. All your responses made sense and made me feel a lot better about the situation.
I realize that I need diversion, and have picked up on my genealogy research again. But it is just for me. I was trying to push it to put together a book for my siblings and cousins. I don't need to do that, most of them are not that interested anyway. I will work at my own pace and if a book eventually comes out of it, that's okay. Mainly, I am interested in my ancestors and learning about some of them is fascinating. Like the Loyalists who went to Canada during the Revolutionary War, another on a prison ship in New York Harbor, and another ancestor killed by Indians. Who knows what will turn up.
Now that my apartment is pretty well organized, I can begin to take care of me. Getting back to some exercising and stretching, and getting out to walk more with my husband, which is also good for him. I am beginning to feel more positive, and your responses have certainly helped!
I will check in here two or three times a week, I know I need to keep in touch with those resources that are helpful, and you certainly have been helpful.
Good thoughts and prayers for all the fibros who are hurting.
Hi, Mohawk, and welcome! You have gotten some great advice. You probably are dealing with some depression, too. Watching your husband decline could surely do that. That can make you tired.
Try doing things for yourself. You spend all day helping your husband but take time to help yourself, too, or you could burn out. Also, try to keep moving, if you aren't already. Maybe get a walking in place video and do that and have your husband join you, if he is physically able to do that. It could be fun and something you are doing together. The exercise could help with your low feelings right now and you would be doing something to help you.
I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time. I took care of my mother after she had a stroke and it isn't easy. Dementia, I think, is a worse problem to take care of. It is physically and mentally draining. That's why you need to think of yourself, too.
Have you looked into visiting nurses? Mom's Medicare took care of that, if I remember correctly. They would come in and bathe her several times a week. I'd leave the room and have some time for myself. So, you might want to check to see what Medicare would cover that could give you a hand. There might be some community agencies, too. I never looked into that. Mom's mind was good...it was just her body that fell apart.
I am so glad that you found us and joined in. Please take care of yourself. I hope to hear more from you soon.