Hi...our grand daughter came to visit last summer for three days with her father. While she was here, she ate three french fries, several pieces of cheese and two bites of a hot dog. That's it. I was so upset but her father didn't seemed concerned at all. He said he had talked to the doctor about it and as long as she drank fluids, not to worry about it. One of my sons would only eat spaghettio's and pork and beans for over a year when he was about two. I guess many children go through these phases. Just offer as many fluids as you can.
I agree with Chutzie that he is trying to be the controlling person. I always had nice meals for the kids. I'm sure you do too. But, they knew that if they didn't eat their breakfast, there would be nothing offered, but juices, milk, water, etc. until the next meal. Period. End of discussion. If your son is hungry, he will eat. I would eliminate junk foods altogether. At his age they just put on weight and are not good for a growing child. When he does eat, offer fresh fruits and veggies for his snacks.
He will not allow himself to starve. If he gets hungry, he'll eat the good foods you offer him. Also, I remember times when my children weren't in a growing spurt. They picked at their food. But, when they were really growing, they ate so much more.
Post Edited (Sherrine) : 6/29/2009 6:52:59 PM (GMT-6)
The behavioral psychology approach: Ignore him when he refuses to eat and give him lots of praise when he does. This will work if it is an attention maintained behavior. It is not that he is necessarily doing it on purpose for attention. But if he has discovered that you get excited, upset, whatever when he does not eat, he may continue not eating because of this extra attention. If he stops getting the extra attention, not eating will cease to be rewarding.
He may increase his efforts to not eat, for awhile. It is extremely important that you do not give in at this time because he will then have learned that this increased effort is what it takes to get the attention and he will start at the new more intense level.
Good luck. Kids are smart. Parents are smarter.
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