Off topic: My grandfather's anniversary.

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SassyMyKitty
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   Posted 7/4/2009 7:23 AM (GMT -7)   
On this day, eight years ago, I watched my grandfather die. A lot of people celebrate the 4th of July, and I used to as well. But now, I celebrate differently. Every year, on this day, I remember my grandfather. When I can, I go out to his grave and I light sparklers. They were his favorite. Tonight, my grandmother, my sister, and my family are going to have dinner and go through pictures and tell some of our favorite stories about him. He was a wonderful man, and he died too young. It's a traumatic thing for a young girl to witness. I was only 13 years old when I stood right next to his bed and watched him take his last breath. Right before he died, he lifted his hands in the air and said, "I see Jesus." I miss him all the time, but, on this day, all those memories come flooding back to me. If it's all right, I would like to ask for a very brief moment of silence for a man who loved me very much and was one of the most wonderful people I knew.
 
Sorry if this is off-topic, but you guys are like my family, and this weighs on me every year. I just needed to talk about it.
'Cause when push comes to shove
you taste what you're made of.
You might bend til you break
'cause it's all you can take.
On your knees you look up
decide you've had enough.
You get mad.
You get strong.
Wipe your hands
shake it off.
Then you stand.
 
-"Stand" by Rascal Flatts
 
 


Sherrine
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   Posted 7/4/2009 8:18 AM (GMT -7)   

Sassy, grandparents are so special to us, aren't they!  I loved mine a lot, too.  I, actually, am celebrating the birth of my great grandmother.  She was born 132 years ago today.  She lived to be 104 and was so special and such a lady.  So, I'm having lots of memories today, too. 

It's nice what your family does in your grandfather's honor.  At least you know he is happy and waiting for a reunion!  Hey, maybe he's met my great grandmother!

Sherrine


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Marlee2
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   Posted 7/4/2009 8:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Sassy, that had to be traumatic for a 13 yr old girl but remember what he said, "I see Jesus", he is happy where he is. It's only us that are still here that are not happy when our loved ones leave. I have to remind myself of that quite often to deal with death. I think it is great that you light sparklers at his grave.
 
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SassyMyKitty
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   Posted 7/4/2009 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   
I just always hope that if grandpa is looking down on me from Heaven that he is proud of me. He was so special to me. He was a truck driver, and, sometimes, I would go with him on some of his trips. He would let me talk to other people on the CB. We used to eat Grape Nuts together some mornings. When he passed, I wrote a song and sang it at his funeral.
I just really hope that he is proud of me.
'Cause when push comes to shove
you taste what you're made of.
You might bend til you break
'cause it's all you can take.
On your knees you look up
decide you've had enough.
You get mad.
You get strong.
Wipe your hands
shake it off.
Then you stand.
 
-"Stand" by Rascal Flatts
 
 


SleepyBug
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   Posted 7/4/2009 11:06 AM (GMT -7)   
{{{{Sassy}}}} I am so sorry that you had to go through that at such a young age, but it is wonderful that you and your family remember your grandpa so fondly and honor his memory like that.

I was very very close with my grandparents also (today would have been their 73 wedding anniversary, actually!) and so know how much it can hurt when they go...so I am happy to have a moment of silence and say a prayer for your grandpa. I am sure he is so happy in heaven looking down on you and loving you and being proud of you every single day.
love and hugs
~danielle


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Irish Babe
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   Posted 7/4/2009 2:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Sassy, I well understand your feelings about this day. 30 yrs ago today I lost my father. The 4th of July used to be my favorite holiday. We always celebrated BBQ, fireworks, all our family and friends coming to our house, swimming down the beach. It was wonderful. That all changed 30 yrs ago. My father died and took the 4th w/ him. I prefer to quietly celebrate his life, w/o a lot of others around. My younger sister is having a BBQ at her house, invited all of us. I said , no thanks. She wanted all the siblings to gather and I just can't deal w/ those fireworks. My two sisters are two much alike, very explosive. They each want to be center stage, it isn't pretty.
 
I like the way you are celebrating your GP's special life. What a great idea. Enjoy the wonderful memories w/ your loved ones.
 
My thoughts are w/ you tonight.
 
God bless.   Alice.
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