One of my least favorite subjects, the infamous M I L, run away, save yourself!! I got along w/ all my friends parents, I got along w/ previous BF's parents, then came her. The woman was unbelievable, the first night I met her, she was deep into her cups and feeling no pain. That was to be my job. She had the mouth of a sailor and wasn't afraid to use it. I was shocked, my mother never spoke that way. She just laughed at my discomfort. When we went to tell her we were getting married, she asked if I was pregnant. I was PO'ed, then she said her son would have a problem w/ the 'Ice Princess'. She didn't like the date we picked for the wedding, said we needed to change it, as she wouldn't be able to get off for it. I said that is the date, I was not changing it. She then wanted to set up what the dress should be for the mothers'. That was my mother's previlege. It was a fight to the end. She told me what I should name my children, I explained what their names would be, she didn't like that, it should be this way.
She challenged everything I did w/ my children. I asked if her mother or MIL did that, she said that she wouldn't allow it. I said, Same here. I invited her to our house, she would visit if it concerned my DH, not my children. She didn't want to come for their baptisms', or any other special days. She made so many remarks about me and my children, I'm getting mad all over again.
Yrs ago my SIL (a carbon copy of MIL) called me to let me know MIL was in hosp w/ stroke. My DH was at work, I called to let him know. We went over to visit many times. The last time I spoke w/ her, she told me I was the best thing that ever happened to her son, held my hand, acted like a mom. I thought "All the wasted yrs!" She went into a coma that night, died a wk later.
The most important thing is your DH has backbone and sees what she is like. Since your children went w/ the GPs and they are in safe hands, enjoy. YOU don't have to spend quality time w/ MIL/FIL. Those idiots are missing out on sharing your life and letting another loving person into their lives. It is their loss. I personally use that experience to help me be more open w/ my children's friends and dates. My parents were always nice w/ our dates, loved all the inlaws. My DH was/is treated w/ love and respect. As it should be, IMHO.
You can't change anyone else, all you can change is how you react to them and their nonsense. You just wonder what do they gain by acting like that, so much anger - WOW.
Try to relax and enjoy the rest of this beautiful day.
God bless. Alice.