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ladybug44r
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   Posted 7/12/2009 7:22 PM (GMT -7)   
feel like you get angry over nothing?
 
4th of July my day wasn't going so well, I got the wrong meat out of the frezzer and then I had run out of propane and even though Mitch had gotten more and it was easy for him to transfer it I got angry with him and said somethings I shouldn't have.
 
Sometimes I wonder if it's from the Fibro.
 
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Carnissa
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   Posted 7/12/2009 7:36 PM (GMT -7)   
i always get angry over the little things...i feel so bad after especially when the bf is trying to do something nice
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Chutz
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   Posted 7/12/2009 8:59 PM (GMT -7)   
This is an interesting questions...glad you asked it. I personally think that when someone lives in a constant state of discomfort and/or pain it can't help but get to you once ina while. Over time I've learned when I get angry or upset with those I love I shut my mouth and walk the other direction until I calm down. And I cna't remember even one of those 'important' things I was mad about...lol

The other thing I've learned is to be generous with the words 'I'm sorry". What does it hurt to say that??? Just say....I'm sorry I spoke when I shouldn't have....or, I'm sorry I said that. I truly don't mean it. Or...whatever... but I never wait for someone else to apologize because I'd be waiting my entire life. Hubby is a sweetheart but he has a terrible time apologizing and almost never does. Sometimes it really irks me but how important is it in the grand scheme of things?? Really?? I walk away until both of us are calm...but in our case most people would laugh to see how we operate...lol We don't fight...never have. We may disagree on something but arguing and fighting are just not in us.

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Irish Babe
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   Posted 7/13/2009 6:31 AM (GMT -7)   
There are times I get mad over nothing, sometimes just grumpy, other times I misunderstood something. I grew up in a house where the words, 'I'm sorry' were not said. That was one of the biggest things I had to adjust to being married. Those are two of the most important words in our language. My DH and I say them and we give each other the confidence to know it will be accepted in a loving attitude. Then we seal it w/ a kiss. A win-win situation in my book. yeah
 
We are still learning about each other and we have been married a long time. Sometimes it is what you say, sometimes it is just the day of the wk you say it. lol Everybody has moods. Try to fix things b/f they fester. I also do like Chutz, sometimes I just walk away till I'm calmer and can talk about something instead of getting mad. I need to be in control of my emotions to be rational, sometimes when I stop and think about it, I can work it out in my own head.
 
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Marlee2
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   Posted 7/13/2009 6:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Now that I'm no longer hormonal I rarely snap at anyone like I use to when I had raging hormones. I did lose it with one of my DILs this winter when we were going through so much stuff with DH. Stress brings the worst out in me more than the pain does. I did tell DH Sat that if he didn't get the garage cleaned I was going to make the garbage men very happy when I start throwing stuff away out there.
 
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ladybug44r
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   Posted 7/13/2009 8:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all.

I did tell him I'm sorry that night but he really didn't believe me. The next day he was riding the lawn mower and I got him to stop and told him how sorry I was for being upset with im and I explained how nothing was going right that day and how my hands hurt which didn't help matters. I also told him how I had planned thei wonderful 4th of July dinner for us and since there is just the 2 of us most nights when I'm not watching children that I was even going to set across from him in a nighty for dinner. I know TMI but I'm no longer a small woman so for me to do that it means alot to me.

He acceptd my I'm sorry" but I feel like I just blowup sometimes for little things and let the big things go.

Veronica
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jadabell
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   Posted 7/13/2009 5:13 PM (GMT -7)   

I blow up ALL the time it seems like...  I hate it, it makes my husband feel bad and sometimes I blow up in front of my girls...  The world is just too much sometimes!  Between having kids working full time and going to school full time I have nothing for myself, becuase even when I try to relax I get consumed with pain... My family keeps telling me I need to get on some meds, something to stop the anxiety, the depression and especially the pain. But its hard to get a day off, not to mention getting the money I need lol!  We are fixing to start counseling, so hopefully that helps... I think the main reason we clash is because he downplays how I feel with nasty little comments a lot of the time... He just does not understand...

So I am with you, and sometimes it does suck! 

 


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