the doctor said.....now i could explode

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boo32
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   Posted 7/20/2009 12:23 PM (GMT -7)   
hi all,
After the doctor messed up some very important hormone tests (we're struggling to concieve for nearly 2 years) that led to a major melt down last night on my part i feel like i need to change doctors AGAIN.
 
He also told me, fibro is just aches and pains.....''it's not like you have cancer' nono
 
I could just scream, if i change doctors again am i going to look like some kind of nut job just looking for strong pain killers. The pain in my neck and shoulder have been getting sso bad i was wondering about lidnocane patches.
My life is not my own anymore.
 
I also was shot down for suggesting a link between my high cholesterol and lack of reproductive hormones.
 
I had hormone tabs to boost my ovulation for 6 months and they drove the fibro wild.
blush  Oh god, i'm worn out and so is my husband. Not to mention, blush the last thing on my mind(and very painful) blush is the most important thing i need to be doing to get the elusive positive pregnancy test i'm desparate for. blush   If you know what i mean....Ladies blush
 
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH devil
Where do i go from here, i just want to accept that maybe i'm not meant to have kids and stop using drugs to help us. Not only are they not working but they're tearing us apart. Also, many i'm not destined to have kids as i may not be able to care for one.
Now, if i could just shut myself up.... smilewinkgrin
I'm sad, happy, disillusioned and annoyed.........but i'm feeling bettter than yesterday wink
boo
BikeBoo, biking with my boo since 1999
Of all the things i've lost, i miss my mind the most! But it has its advantages!
Fibro, spinal arthritis and all that goes with it.
GAD


Jhemi
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   Posted 7/20/2009 1:21 PM (GMT -7)   
If you're young enough to wait a bit, that's what I would do. Give your body a chance to calm down. It sounds like you've been putting too much stress on it. Rest up a few months and put all of the baby stuff out of your mind for a while.

It's like a catch 22. The more stress you put on yourself the more your fibro acts up...the more it acts up the more stressed you get. That vacation idea post is a good one! Get away from your own environment, maybe find a hotel with a hot tub and pool. Whatever works for you then come home and find a new doctor who is well versed in fibromyalgia. Unfortunately my patience with any doctor who acts ignorant is at an end so I'll not speak on that subject ;)

I wish you well hon and being childless myself I also wish you children :)

Jokat
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   Posted 7/20/2009 1:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Clearly your doctor does not have a firm grasp on all of the wonderful nuances of FM. My has been very understanding, I just do not visit him for Fibro very often because I have found it futile. Ultimately there is little if anything our GP doctors can do to help with FM. He may be as frustrated with your treatment as you are and not able to understand why none of the treatments work. We know why....because it is FM.
 
I do not know what meds you are currently taking, but some of them effect our sexual funtions either individually or combined with other drugs....check to make sure that you are not taking something that is counterproductive to  your attempt to get pregnant.
In the mean time keep trying; It may hurt and be exhausting, but it sure is fun!! :)
JoKat
 
Our attitude towards life determines life's attitude towards us. {Earl Nightingale} 
Fibro since 2005


boo32
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   Posted 7/20/2009 3:26 PM (GMT -7)   
hi,
Currently i do not take any prescription pain meds and apart from the occasional xanax/calmax for really bad days. I'm 32 and while that is not too old....it's not very young either...in terms of starting a family.
I try to avoid anti inflamatories(not conducive to conception) but that's hard as i have arthritis. I can't go without some kind of pain meds as i have to work.
I know the stress is a major factor and we can't all have what we want in life but i can't understand why everything has to be so hard ALL the time. I'm trying to be philosophical about the whole thing but sometimes it's hard to keep it all going.
I know there are people much worse off but i am me not them. Now i'm just waffling.
It is probably just time for me to forget about having my own family and focus on what i have.
boo
BikeBoo, biking with my boo since 1999
Of all the things i've lost, i miss my mind the most! But it has its advantages!
Fibro, spinal arthritis and all that goes with it.
GAD


Jhemi
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   Posted 7/21/2009 12:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Boo..just read this article and thought you might be interested in it. http://men.webmd.com/news/20090630/daily-sex-may-help-mens-fertility?ecd=wnl_men_072109

Littlesrebel
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   Posted 7/22/2009 8:52 PM (GMT -7)   
I am pissed at my Dr. too.  mad  I had 50 count muscle relaxers that I have to take 2x's a day or I can't walk or get out of bed and the new Dr. I switched to gave me 30 count no refills. I'm like "Do I have to go to Urgent Care and duke it out with the health insurance people?" It's so stupid. First my primary I fired would not even give me a diagnosis just 20 symtoms or so. I got fed up with that one. Now this new one is not giving med's. I need it to go to work and drive. I say I would not wish this illness on my worst enemy, but the Dr's we deal with should feel it for just 15 mins. Then they would know what pain is. cry My old Dr. kept blaming my illness on me being female and stressed. That I think is was really set me off and didn't want to deal with a male Dr. mad

Littlesrebel
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   Posted 7/22/2009 9:02 PM (GMT -7)   

You can get through this illness and get pregnant. Keep a positive outlook.

I had thought how would I be if I got pregnant with this illness? Not able to take the med's. I would be in a bad mood everyday.

I want to have kids later in life too. I was told I would need hormone shots and have to go in a yr ahead of time just to get preped to get pregnant. It's a big deal for us women.

I think about the days when I'm so fatigued I can't stay awake or days when it hurts to be touched. How would that affect me if I were prenant or raising kids? I don't know.

We are not supposed to know everything. Just take it as it comes. Set goals too. I hope you do get pregnant and when you do spoil that child. A child is really a blessing. Best of Luck.

Don't stress, b/c it will affect your hormones. Worry doesn't do anyone any good. It gets us no where. smilewinkgrin


Littlesrebel
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   Posted 7/22/2009 9:05 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't know if you are religious, but I heard if you pray to St. Anthony daily he can interced and help women get pregnant or married or engaged. It doens't hurt to try it.
blush  

Littlesrebel
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   Posted 7/22/2009 9:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Fish oil is really good. I heard. Please try to de-stress. I'm rooting for you. You'll do fine. :-)

noklu
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   Posted 7/23/2009 9:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Just hang in there.  I went through all the hoopla to get pregnant, for 2 years.  It is very stressfull and it puts a lot of pressure on you to perform as well.  I thought the same thing, I'm not meant to have children.  I had all the test done over and over, and then my only tube was going to nowhere since I had no ovary there.  We couldn't afford the surgery to fix it, and my husband wanted to just stop everything.  Now I why, he left me a year later, and the worst of all was because I couldnt have kids.  What a Jerk!!
 
But good things happen to those that wait - I found my husband and have to wonderfull step-children that are like my own.
 
I send you hugs and good feelings!!
Maggi
 
fibromyalgia, chronic pain, chronic fatigue syndrome, anxiety, depression, hypothyroidism, avascular necrosis, costochondritis, GERD
cra (can't remember anything)
 
in trying times, don't quit trying          
 

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