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WhiteChocChip
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Date Joined Jun 2009
Total Posts : 439
   Posted 7/22/2009 7:51 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so mad!
 
I was told today that I shouldn't be "wasting talent" being a housewife.
I tried to explain that there are some days where I cann barely get out of bed and get around and that I cannot even sit on my bum at a desk for an extended period of time.   Then I was told, "you'll just sit on your bum without a job."
 
All this from a person who is supposed to be my friend!
grrrr!
 
I have already told this person what my plan is now that I am not going to have a job.
I plan to take care of my house and husband!  I'm sure that will be a job in and of itself!
I will NOT be sitting on my bum at home.  I will be cleaning, then resting on a comfy bed, cooking, then resting,  doing laundry, then resting some more.
 
I am also confused as to what "talents" this person thinks I will be wasting.  I can't think of anything that I do now that I can't do as a housewife.
 
I do hope that I can get my symptoms under better control, but until then, being a homemaker is just fine with me and my husband.  Why is someone who this decision will not affect trying to tell me what I should or shouldn't do?

SleepyBug
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Date Joined Nov 2008
Total Posts : 1097
   Posted 7/22/2009 7:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Well, you know what they say WCC-opinions are like you know what's-everybody's got one! Don't let what your friend said keep you from doing what is best for you. That said, I do know how frustrating it can be when people stick their noses in your business and say ridiculous things like that.

Also, I think it is a HUGE misunderstanding in modern Western culture that housewives do nothing and use no talents. I am a stay at home mom and wife myself (and college student, but only online) and let me tell you, I definitely do not spend my days sitting on my bum! My days are pretty much as you described yours would be-clean, rest, cooking, rest, laundry, rest, playing with kids, rest, taking care of pets, rest..and on and on. Yes, I take a lot of rests, but you have to when fibro is a part of your life. I get a lot done, though, too...In fact, just the other day I was thinking how on earth did we manage when both of us worked full time?? How did everything ever get done? Then I realized-things got done, but only at the expense of my sanity!

Anyway..you do what's best for you and your family and try not to the let the naysayers get you down.
"The ideals which have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Kindness, Beauty, and Truth"~Albert Einstein


Bella Scarlett
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Date Joined May 2009
Total Posts : 87
   Posted 7/22/2009 8:21 AM (GMT -7)   
I recently made the decision to leave a FT job to take better care of myself. It was a very good decision. I declared my a "Domestic Goddess." My hubby was quite happy having me home and taking care of things here, leaving him to concentrate on his own job. I started hanging my laundry outside, made soap, exercised better, did some volunteer work. But everything was my schedule and I could stop and rest when needed. I immediately improved.

You are doing what's right for you and really, it's nobody else's business. Your friend may be jealous because she doesn't have the same choice. So tell her next time that you are a Domestic Goddess, your hubby is happier than ever, and you are enjoying your life.

I hope you feel better, too.
"...All shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well."
Julian of Norwich


Sherrine
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Date Joined Apr 2005
Total Posts : 17094
   Posted 7/22/2009 8:35 AM (GMT -7)   
I was a teacher and worked extremely hard.... not only teaching but grading papers, doing lesson plans and making parent conference calls.  I easily worked 12 hours a day.  Then I left teaching to take care of and raise my family.  I NEVER worked as hard while I was a teacher!  It's the most important job you can do so just ignore ignorance.  You know in your heart what needs to be done in your life and it's YOUR life...not your friend's.
 
I applaud your decision.  It isn't an easy one to make.  Be sure to pace yourself and you will be fine.  I'm 62 now and am still taking care of my home and helping my adult children.  It was the best decision for me.
 
Sherrine
Forum Moderator/ Fibromyalgia
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Fibromyalgia, Crohn's Disease, Ostomy, Diabetes, Autoimmune Inner Ear Disease, Osteoporosis
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God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.    2 Timothy 1:7


Marlee2
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Date Joined Aug 2007
Total Posts : 6067
   Posted 7/22/2009 12:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Tell your so called friend to live her life her way and you will live your life your way. I have been a housewife, mother and grandmother most of my life and only working when I wanted to or needed to and I don't care what anyone thinks about my choices in life. I guess you could say "I did it my way" and I believe my way was the best way for my children and that was long before I had fibro.
 
luv and hugs
Marlee
Forum Moderator Fibromyalgia
 
Fibro,Sjogrens, Anxiety, Gastroparesis, IBS, Gastritis, Allergies, High Blood Pressure, Low Blood Sodium and Osteoarthritis
 
Amitriptyline, Celexa, Xanax, Synthroid, Zyrtec, Micardis, Spironalactone, Tylenol, Reglan, Lidoderm Patches and Tramadol
 
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Stari
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 235
   Posted 7/22/2009 5:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Sherrie,
Hi, what grade did you teach?
 


Sherrine
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Date Joined Apr 2005
Total Posts : 17094
   Posted 7/22/2009 6:36 PM (GMT -7)   
I taught fourth grade...9 and 10 year olds.  It's a fun age!
 
Sherrine
Forum Moderator/ Fibromyalgia
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Fibromyalgia, Crohn's Disease, Ostomy, Diabetes, Autoimmune Inner Ear Disease, Osteoporosis
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God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.    2 Timothy 1:7

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