It shouldn't hurt to hold a 7 pound baby!!

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SleepyBug
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   Posted 7/22/2009 9:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi all,

Well, my sister, brother in law, and baby niece just left after a nice long 4 day visit. I loved having them here-my sis is my best friend, I adore my BIL and my little niece is just the cutest thing ever. However, because they were coming, I of course when wild with the house cleaning (I know we're supposed to take it easy and not care about the state of our homes, but I wanted it to be super clean for the little one since we do have dogs). I overdid it, big surprise, and spent the entire time they were here feeling awful. I pushed through it, though, and spent their whole visit up and active and positive because I didn't want to miss anything. One of the things that was hardest for me to do I found was hold the baby. She is just an itty bitty little thing, but holding her hurt my shoulders SO BAD I wanted to cry. But I wasn't going to miss my opportunity, so I spent a lot of time propped up on the couch with pillows so I could hold her without screaming.

They just went home this morning and I am absolutely exhausted and flaring terribly with burning shoulders, arms, wrist, and back, but I am glad I pushed through while they were here. It just makes me sooo mad though that simple things like holding a little newborn can make me feel so awful!! Grrrr!!!!

Just needed to vent a little there...thanks for listening:)

~Danielle
"The ideals which have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Kindness, Beauty, and Truth"~Albert Einstein


vestabula
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   Posted 7/22/2009 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   

I have been thinking the same thing for the past week, Danielle.  My grandchildren were here for over a week and the 9 month old weighs 22 pounds.  Even though I always had my son hand her to me, I am paying for the joyful moments still.  It is so depressing.  Like you, one of my twin sons is allergic to dog hair so I broke my back trying to eliminate it the best I could before they got here.  Actually, I found that I made it through the week just fine as I was so excited to see them.  But I know there is a price to pay and I am...I'm on fire.  Even my hair hurts.

It's not fair, but I guess that's just the way it is.  It bites big time.

Huggies

Donna

 

 


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AustenFan
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   Posted 7/22/2009 10:34 AM (GMT -7)   
One of the things that prompted me to finally seek a diagnosis was the excruciating arm pain I felt after holding my infant nephew.
 
My sister and her kids visited for 3-4 days, and I held the baby off and on the whole time (he was a newborn).  The night before they left, my left arm (the one I carried him around with) was in such intense pain that all I could do was take pain pills, cry, lie in bed, and try not to move it.  I ended up having to put my arm in a sling until the pain calmed down (a couple of days). 
 
To this day I still have to be really careful about over-using my muscles.  My arms seem to be especially susecptible.  I've had a baby, and I've passed about 30 kidney stones, but the arm pain I get if I over-use them ranks right up there.  mad
 
I worry sometimes how I will be able to interact with any future grandchildren if I'm blessed enough to have any.  Oh well, I shouldn't worry about tomorrow.  Goodness knows I have enough to worry about today!
 
Frustrating, frustrating fibro........
 
Hope you are feeling better soon.  :-)
 
Hugs - Austen
 
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Marlee2
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   Posted 7/22/2009 12:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Okay, lets put our brains together, which may total one between all of us, and figure out a way to make a baby holder for fibromites. turn I have the same problem with my chubby precious grandson, you notice I don't refer to him very often as my great grandson, can't deal with that yet. I do get to see him more often than a lot of you get to see the babies in your lives but holding him still makes my hands, arms and shoulders hurt so bad but I know this time when he is little is going by so fast and I want to hold him while he is still little and not squirming around to be put down. He is already 15 weeks old and getting to be a chunk.
 
They make these pillow things that goes around your waist for mothers nursing their babies maybe one of those would help us to support them. I know my granddaughter has one maybe I will suggest she bring it with her when they come to visit and try it out.
 
Perhaps some of our young mothers on here can give us some tips on how to hold them. 
 
There are just somethings that I'm not willing to give up in this fibro life and holding the baby is one of them.
 
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WhiteChocChip
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   Posted 7/22/2009 12:58 PM (GMT -7)   
This is the kind of issue that makes me scared to have kids.

SleepyBug
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   Posted 7/22/2009 1:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Marlee-those pillows are called Boppys and I had one with my youngest. I LOVED it! By the time he came along, my fibro was getting pretty bad, so that thing was a lifesaver for me. I gave mine to my sister when my niece was born, actually. Should have told her to bring it with her! Pillows on the couch did help, but it would have been so much easier with a Boppy...

WCC-I was thinking about that while my niece was here-how on earth did I make it through my youngest's infancy?? I really don't know how I did it..I think maybe when it's your own baby, you just do it and don't even think about the pain.
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Marlee2
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   Posted 7/23/2009 7:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I think when it is your own child you get use to the extra weight gradually as they grow and your muscles adapt. I know that is what happened with my puppies, they were only like a pound or so when I got them and Krissy is up to 10 lbs but my muscles have gotten use to the weight. Grandson on the other hand is probably up to about 15 lbs or more and I don't hold him on a daily bases to get use to it.
 
I might suggest that GD bring her Boppy when she visits.
 
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AustenFan
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   Posted 7/23/2009 11:33 AM (GMT -7)   
WCC, I'm sorry if my previous post added to any worries you might have about having your own children.  I agree with what Marlee says, you probably do adjust little by little to the weight.
 
I also had the problem with my nephew BEFORE I got my diagnosis, so I wasn't careful at all.  I carried him around 24/7 in one arm for 4 days. 
 
Since you know you have fibro, you can make adjustments.  Of course, only you know what is right for you, but I know many people with fibro raise children just fine.
 
I think raising kids when you have fibro is probably the same as it is if you have other diseases/conditions.  You just have to make adjustments, make accomodations, get whatever help you can, and pace yourself. 
 
Best Wishes and Hugs - Austen
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jadabell
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   Posted 7/24/2009 8:30 AM (GMT -7)   
SleepyBug I feel for you, I really do...  Its hard having pain when trying to hold a baby.  With a 1yr old and 3yr old it hurts on so many different levels when you think about how much it kills you to hold them.  But you gotta do it anyway, especially me lol I am a HUGE snuggler...
Marlee you are dead on about the Boppy!!!  It saved my life when my girls were babies, all I did was sit down and let the pillow do all the work, the only thing I had to do was make sure they did not roll off lol tongue
 
WCC, dont be afraid to have children.  Children make us do amazing things, we can even pick up a car if our child is in danger lol
Things wont be smooth and easy, but they will be worth it.  I was diagnosed a few years before I had my girls, and I want 2 boys too lol (hubby gave me a "trying time" as he called it last night, 10 months!!! I called him carzy becuase our littliest is just 13 months! lol)  I think pregnancies are harder, just because of our bodies, and my friend who also has fibro had some of the complications I did... High blood pressure (no meds needed just a reduction in how many hours I worked and stuff), the tingling we get was a little worse when we were farther along, the strees we are normally under made our moodswings a tad bit harder to handle.  From the outside were just like any other hormonal, fire breathing, heat flash having, crying, waddelling mother hens...
The hardest part for me was when my hubby started calling me his "Old Lady" becuase I walked like I was 80 lol
Oh, and birth was amazing, thanks to the epidural lol
Jada
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