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donnaeil
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   Posted 7/24/2009 7:07 PM (GMT -7)   
My home is filled with stuff that I do not use. Moreover, my children are young adults now and they really do not need a lot of the stuff they collected over the years. Since I am at home mending my shoulders, I am throwing out, donating and reorganizing.

This does not mean I am working tirelessly. Ha! I am lucky if I get in a couple of hours work total, every other day. I have to remind myself to work, rest, work, rest, you know the drill.

I must own thousands of books, they are going to charity or my son can sell them at a used book store. Honestly, I read too much. I am keeping the books that I am willing to read again, those needed for my research and the classics that we enjoy (this means sci fi lol).

I am tired of living with all the things that make this place feel cluttered and messy. However, not matter how hard I work, it gets messier. I guess I will see light at the end of the tunnel when half of this stuff is gone.

While working I realized, we Americans have too much stuff. I could probably set up a home for a family of five with all of these extras.

Another reason for clearing this place is we will purchase a home over the next two years. We plan to move into it with as little as possible because we are experts at refilling quickly.

I hope I last until the job is completed.

Donnaeil

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   Posted 7/24/2009 7:11 PM (GMT -7)   
LOL, so am I!

Remember, do it in baby steps. Don't burn yourself out.

Good luck with it,

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   Posted 7/24/2009 8:33 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm having surgery next week so I am trying to make declutter the bedroom. I'm not making much progress. I think it would be easier to stay on the couch until I feel better.

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   Posted 7/24/2009 8:35 PM (GMT -7)   
You GO Girl!!!

I started a similar project in May or June...whenever..and I'm still working my way to the finish line. We too needed to de-clutter like you wouldn't believe. Mostly mine is stuff I have no room for...yet! Plus things that should be put away where they belong. Like there is an eating bar in the kitchen...you do know that no one could ever eat there because it's always covered with JUNK! Newspapers, junk mail, lunch buckets, and other miscellaneous JUNK, none of which needs to be there. I had a talk with hubby and grandson ( who lives here...18 y/o) and both know better than to leave stuff laying around. So now that you get the condition...a lot of other areas are the same way.

My plan of attack was...take one room..only one and don't worry about the rest. I started with the laundry room because it was small and more manageable...and wouldn't be so depressing. I think I took a long 2 weeks to do one tiny room that is home to a washer, dryer, upright freezer and a 4' set of shelving plus the dog's dishes...that's it! and those are wall to wall. I would empty one area/shelf/drawer at a time, take care of everything that needed to be done there, wash and replace in good condition. I even had the old toothbrush ane q-tips out..lol Before I was done I had put a fresh coat of paint on the walls and painted a scene on one wall with the window in it. Did some birch trees with chickadees on a couple of the branches. Wow, that room looks good.

Then the 1st of April I began taking care of my grandson 4 or 5 days a week and everything stopped! Arrggggg.... I'd one with the baby sitting so it's time to return to the project. Now, what I need from you, Donnaeil, is some enthusiasm and encouragement to get back to it!

OK, I've babbled way too long and bored you all to tears...
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   Posted 7/24/2009 8:51 PM (GMT -7)   

Good luck.  The hubby is the one around here that can't throw out a five year old magazine.  I actually have gotten up in the middle of the night and put them in the recycle bin.  His eyeballs should be examined by the National Eyeball Institute because he can tell when the pile is an inch shorter and he goes out and gets them.  There is always something in them that he might need to know about someday.  There are 67 magazines in a basket in our bathroom...I counted them thinking when I told him he would realize that was ridiculous.  He pulled out three 2003 Orvis issues and left the rest.

He reminds me of my grandfather who would save hunks of string, used twist ties and cool whip containers.

I have started to throw all his Very Important Must Have's in his office.  BTW...he had over 5000 books in there including text books from high school.  Oh...I can't even think of this anymore.  The veins in my neck are sticking out.

Have fun...and remember.  If you haven't used it in a year...toss it!

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DonniesGirl
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   Posted 7/24/2009 9:16 PM (GMT -7)   
I would love to do this, and need to do it!  The things I've accumulated drive me crazy, but I always think I'll "need" it later!  I used to watch a tv show called "Neat".  I loved it, and it always got me pumped up, but I guess not enough to do it.  I'm going to try now!  :)

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   Posted 7/24/2009 9:47 PM (GMT -7)   
I've been uncluttering for two years!  The stuff seems to multiply!  A lot has many memories attached, too, and that makes it very difficult for me to toss out.
 
Donnaeil, if you haven't already, be sure to talk to your kids before you throw out any of the things they used to collect.  My parents didn't.  I had things in their attic and they tossed it all when they moved and never asked me if I wanted it and I was so upset.  The same thing happened to my husband.  He collected horse statues as a child and his parents threw them away.  He was so upset so I started another collection for him.  The old saying, "One man's junk is another man's treasure" is sooo true!
 
Good luck uncluttering.  It does feel good to see some space in the house!  turn
 
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donnaeil
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   Posted 7/24/2009 10:37 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree Marlee. I wish my mother had never thrown away my original Barbie's.

I kind of know what they want to keep so I am making separate boxes for each of them.

Got lots of help from here:

Take baby steps

One room at a time

Give Chutz lots of enthusiasm and ecouragement.

I want my living room and bedroom, including closets to be completed by the Fall. This will keep me working on my projects and proposals when the sun leaves Seattle.

Ditto

Donnaeil

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   Posted 7/24/2009 11:25 PM (GMT -7)   
vestabula said...

Good luck.  The hubby is the one around here that can't throw out a five year old magazine.  I actually have gotten up in the middle of the night and put them in the recycle bin.  His eyeballs should be examined by the National Eyeball Institute because he can tell when the pile is an inch shorter and he goes out and gets them.  Donna

 
Thats hilarious!!!! I literally 'laughed out loud'! Well said, Donna- you have a way with words!
 
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Jhemi
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   Posted 7/24/2009 11:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Please Donnaeil could you convince my husband that we need to do this also? His idea of a home is a desk full of two years worth of paperwork and boxes and boxes of magazines. I think he has the first catalog he ever got. From my chair to his desk is a maze.

He wont let me throw anything away. He's terrified because 39 years ago when we had been married less than a couple of months I threw away something of importance and he found it in the trash. Since then life here has been a nightmare.

I want to unclutter too!! <sob>

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   Posted 7/24/2009 11:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Hmmm, maybe we ought to bring this topic up on a regular basis to help each other keep going on our de-cluttering/cleaning projects. If you are unsure about throwing something out...just post to the thread and we'll help convince you to toss it!...lol Or maybe if you have one of those hubbies like Donna we can come up with ideas to out smart your guy. Mine has been out of high school for over 40 years and he also has stuff from school. There are some folders in the file cabinet, neat and labeled that have lined notebook paper in them and one with colored construction paper. It's that nasty old, tears-easy thin junk we used to get for construction projects at school. But it's safe and sound in his room!...lmbo

I wish my kids cared about some of the family things and even their old things. I will take your advice and ask them before I toss it but I'm thinking my ''extra' daughter will be getting a lot of it. She doesn't have family who will hand things down and she appreciates anything I give her that belonged to our family...who she considers her family now.

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   Posted 7/24/2009 11:31 PM (GMT -7)   

I plead guilty to being a 'hoarder'. i throw nothing out. my life is organised chaos. its just too overwhelming, so i shove everything (except actual clothes) in the wardrobe or under the bed. the very same technique i used as a child. In my bedroom i have a queen sized bed, a huge tv & dvd with entertainment unit and a desk with all my work/school stuff- essay marking etc. i just cant GET to the desk. I have a built in robe packed full of junk and my clothes are hanging off an old camping rack.

cos i had my own home before moving back in with the parents, i have a whole house full of furniture sitting in their shed. I cannot throw stuff out. I always find a 'sentimental' excuse to keep something.

"Hi. My name's Maz and im addicted to hoarding. im not sure when i last saw my actual carpet or a bathroom surface."

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   Posted 7/25/2009 12:07 AM (GMT -7)   
(look at moi, Maz, look at moi) I have one word to say to you all :

FLYlady.
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   Posted 7/25/2009 12:24 AM (GMT -7)   
I have tried flylady over and over again. I just can't get into the routines. Not sure if I'm just lazy, or if there is something wrong with my head!! I want a clean home so badly, but I feel overwhelmed when looking at it, and can't seem to find where to start.
I need someone to come in and say "Okay, let's get rid of this and this and this, and let's put this here, and let's give this away"
I just don't make decisions very well.
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ivy6
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   Posted 7/25/2009 12:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Poodles said:

"I just don't make decisions very well."

And I'm sure the fibrofog doesn' t help.

I am not convinced that it is possible to fully follow FLYlady's routines when you have fibromyalgia. She seems to pack so much into each day, saying that it's "only 15 minutes" of activity, but all those 15 minute blocks add up into a very exhausting and overwhelming whole if you try to do them all every day.

There's no way I could do everything she expects. I just try to do a few of her requirements each day, and can see the small differences this makes.

I know what you mean about wishing someone could just come in and sort it out for you. When you have a fuzzy brain it's hard to make decisions about anything...
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   Posted 7/25/2009 2:55 AM (GMT -7)   
ivy6 said...
(look at moi, Maz, look at moi) I have one word to say to you all :

FLYlady.

You have a wonderful sense of "'umour!" lol tongue and where did you hide my Dippity Bix?
 
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   Posted 7/25/2009 3:03 AM (GMT -7)   
My sense of humour? I suppose it's noice and different and unusual... :-)

Dippity Bix? Blame Sharon.
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   Posted 7/25/2009 5:21 AM (GMT -7)   
We did this last August.  We were going to move to Ca. from St. Louis area and already had a place in Ca. that had been our get away place.  We already had everything we needed there.  Soooooooooooo we called up all of the relatives and told them to come over and take whatever they wanted!  We gave everything-furniture, books, dishes etc. away.  We filled a trailer with the things we wanted and hauled that to Ca.  Now I think we still have too much stuff.  I made a vow to only get books through the library from now on.
 
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   Posted 7/25/2009 5:59 AM (GMT -7)   

Okay...what's Dippity Bix???  Is it like Dippity Do...that stiff gunk we used to slather all over our heads before we put in our Spoolies?? 

 

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   Posted 7/25/2009 8:36 AM (GMT -7)   

I just spent the past few days getting rid of 'stuff'. During my yrs of teaching in public school and for my church, I have collected so many books, art supplies, etc. I finally had to tell my super at the church that I wouldn't be able to return this yr. Physically and mentally, I just can't do it anymore. So, now I have all these 'things' and nowhere to go w/ them.

I had planned to go thru everything at the end of the school yr and toss. My plans met a roadblock. So finally I was going to be ruthless and throw stuff out and see if any schools wanted some of the things. I have 2 p/u a wk from garbage for the summer. My can runneth over, lol.

I have several bags of books and supplies in excellent shape, so I will try to get one of the schools interested in these items. It goes against my grain to throw out books. My porch looks so MUCH bigger now. Can't wait to reclaim my living room, that is where the bags are sitting for now.

In the midst of all this fun, my stove/oven decided to die. Naturally, I had just put the dinner in the oven to cook. I had to tear my kitchen apart b/c I had to get a new stove/oven. I have been cleaning and moving things and right now I hurt so bad and have a miserable headache, but I do have my stove/oven in and my garbage can filled to capacity. I hope I'm hitting the right keys, since I had to remove my glasses due to this head blasting pain.

I will wait a few days, at least, till I start my next project. I want to savor the fun, make it last. wink   I hate being under the gun. shakehead

I need a lottery win so I can pay someone to come in and get rid of this stuff and get some order in my life, w/o my body paying the price. Nice dream, huh?

God bless.  Alice.

 


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   Posted 7/25/2009 8:46 AM (GMT -7)   
hi! what an inspiration u r to me. our house has gotten completely run over with "stuff". ive been so sick and fatigued that i just keep letting stuff slide. we seem to keep bringing in more stuff but never getting rid of anything. my husband would just like to blindly throw it all away, but i know there r some things i want to keep and others i need to give away. people could actually use alot of this stuff. im really going to try to do one area at a time, so i dont overdo it physically. thanks again for ur post. and good luck to u!

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   Posted 7/25/2009 8:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Donnaeil, it's all getting to you, you called Sherrine Marlee, hehehe. smilewinkgrin I started back in the spring to declutter my house and didn't get very far with it. I have a toy box which is a deacon's bench sitting in my living room now waiting for my GD to make up her mind whether she wants it or not. We do recycle stuff in our family. It took me 6 mos to declutter the old house before we sold it. We have only lived here a little over 4 yrs and I can't believe how it has multiplied again. Our garage is a disaster cause that is as far as things seem to get. Energy is the problem, I don't have enough to make a big difference in here. I have a room which started out to be my office and personal space at the other end of the house that looks like a tornado went through it, everything seems to end up in there that I don't know what to do with. I look in there sometimes and just shake my head, don't know where to begin. I'm not doing anything now til fall and the weather starts to get cooler cause I want to enjoy the rest of the summer.
 
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   Posted 7/25/2009 10:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Donna, what kind of research do you do?
 
There used to be a show on tlc that helped people declutter.  An idea for the magazines: take out pages that might be useful in the future and put in labeled files; kitchen ideas, computer stuff, etc.  Then throw the rest of the magazine away.  After you get too many magazines, it is impossible to find anything you might ever need . . .
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   Posted 7/25/2009 11:53 AM (GMT -7)   
I do research for my writing. Right now I am working on two books one about exercise for people who are not the jock type and the other about educating children without the use of curriculum.

I research thousands of studies and interview hundreds of people before I narrow my scope down to one book.

I agree that Flylady does to much in one day. I could not muster up the energy to begin her program.

I have to declutter. We lived in an 11 room house and moved to a 5 room apartment. Even though we got rid of a lot of stuff we keep adding on. Our next home will be larger but I am determined to not fill it up.

A woman gave me a bit of advice, for everything you bring in to your home you should get rid of two others. Sigh, I wish I listened. Even better, I wish one of my children had.

Oh, speaking of my offspring, my sons collect computers and gaming equipment. We have software that should have been buried years ago. Every once in a while they stop by and pick one item up. Sigh.

Donnaeil

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   Posted 7/25/2009 9:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Having DD (Dear Daughter, Maryclare) along with hubby and toddler, two dogs and the bakery business in our spacious 800 sq ft home is beyond belief! Although the kids sleep in the basement there is not one spare inch of room in this house. MC is a real neatnik and has been a great help to me. I used to put things in the "goodwill bag" or take them to St. Vincent de Paul but lately I'm just tossing. I have started a great new process. Every day I toss five things that are outdated, broken, useless, shabby, or just plain clutter.

Those dusty candles and "cute" things cluttering up my kitchen walls are history. Worn rugs, chipped dishes, outdated spray cleaners with rusty bottoms... all that stuff that just grows in your home when you're not looking, GONE! MC had to sell or give away most of their belongings when they lost their home so she has a clear idea of what is important in life. Having a healthy child, a roof over your head, people who love you, those are of prime importance. STUFF is not important and only leaves a mess for your kids to clean out when you are gone.

If I find something I 'must' have at the store or a garage sale I have to throw away two things for each thing I bring into the house. Simple as that. Works for clothes in the closet, too. My favorite thing to do is go through the house the night before trash pickup and fill a small shopping bag, take it out to the curb and drop it in with the slimy garbage and stinky diapers. No way Mr. Save-it-All is gonna get it out of there in the morning before work!

It's true... we are overburdened with our blessings. Time to simplify and declutter.
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