I am having a similar issue. My youngest, according to his older brother, only comes around me when I have money, food, trans, etc. I notice bits of money missing, especially when he is broke and every penny is needed by me to buy food, gas, etc. Then his check comes and I don't see him for a week or so. Then he arrives, cleans out my refrigerator, etc. It seems like I become quite passive when he's here, not setting limits or boundaries. Then I seem to go into a depression, intractable until he is gone a day or two, begin to come out of it, begin to get back up on my feet, and whammo, back he comes. I wouldn't mind so much if he would contribute to the situation, by giving me a break, walking the dogs, helping me to get my Dad to his 200 miles away, doctor appts. tidying up (even after himself), but I get caught in this cycle of guilt with him, feeling sorry cause he didn't have an easy go of it, but I did almost everything I could think of to help him. I am very good at advising others about dealing with adult/child relationships, but when it comes to my own, not so good.
Hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Facet Joint Syndrome, High Blood Pressure, menopause, Migraines, Chest Pain, Anxiety and Depression/BiPolar II
Synthyroid .075mg., estradiol.5 mgs., Amyltriptilene, 100mgs, bedtime, Tylenol 3 PRN (six-eight, daily), Valium 7.5mgs. daily prn. Flexeril, prn (not so helpful), Zoloft,150mgs., Zomig approx. 12 per month, prn., Meds for High Blood Pressure, vary.