Anyone been sent home from work because of fibro???

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CINDY30
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   Posted 9/17/2009 5:17 PM (GMT -7)   
To make a long story short, I am an elementary art teacher (of "at risk" kids) with fibro and I disclosed my medical condition to my principal and assistant principal last year. We met with the school system's disability person and made some accommodations. This year, I just can't seem to get it together. I have a hard time finding a balance when I know what is demanded of me just to manage my teaching duties. Today, I felt especially miserable. My entire upper body was aching to the point that holding my keys wore me out. I feel like my whole body is dragging and I just want to sleep. I am highly emotional about everything. My bosses eventually pulled me aside, noticing that I was about to lose it and told me to take the rest of the day off. They then began to talk about how they've been noticing that I am having a hard time ( I had a panic attack during a meeting three weeks ago) and feel that I may need to take some time off to get myself better. My principal, who I do have a hard time fully trusting says she is going to make some phone calls to see if there is a way for me to take some type of leave and still get paid as I am a single parent of two girls. I'm just not sure what to do. I got a phone call from my principal this afternoon telling me to go ahead and take tomorrow off and recommending that I try to see my Dr. and let him know what is going on. Am I headed for disability? I am 31 years old and I live paycheck to paycheck. I cannot afford to make less money and I need my medical benefits for me and the kids, but my job is the source of the majority of my stress. Have any of you been through a similar situation? I am open to any advice.

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   Posted 9/17/2009 9:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Cindy,
I wish I had an answer for you.

Maybe there is an answer or an idea or just support in the following post.

I have gone home because of fibro before, too. The day off was helpful and I felt better. I just started working full time again after taking the summer off. My job is demanding, but I can pace myself and stop and rest when I need to. I don't know if it is possible for you to do the same. Can you work rest times (even if it is just 5 minutes) into your day? Maybe you could have free drawing time where you put on quiet music and the kids draw whatever they want. Maybe I am being too optimistic? When I taught, I sat on a stool except when I had to write on the white board. Maybe you could do that. Also, I have discovered that stressing about feeling bad made me feel worse. Kind of think to yourself, "yes, I feel awful, but I will not feel awful forever."
Sue

CINDY30
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   Posted 9/17/2009 10:33 PM (GMT -7)   
I've tried all of that. The biggest problem is that I teach children who have zero respect for most of the teachers of a particular race in my school. While I have many students who I adore, my days are full of disciplining children, providing relief for classroom teachers, and tuning out the constant sound of poor english being yelled from child to child....not teaching art. I have resorted to free draw and videos on many occasions, but that's not really doing my job, nor does it give me any basis for grading the kids. Sitting on a stool doesn't work because if I don't constantly cycle around the classroom, a fight will break out or crayons are being thrown across the room...just imagine the movie Lean on Me, only elementary school!
Cindy

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watashi
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   Posted 9/17/2009 11:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Yeah, I understand. I am on leave from work because the pain has finally been bad enough that I vomit, and oddly my bosses don't seem to care for that very much.... And they sound as trust worthy and compassionate as yours. I am so sorry to hear that you have to do this too. I work in a research lab scarier things then vomit comes our way, but I guess that this is sometimes the name of the game and to make it a little more fun my short term insurance doesn't want to pay. I am about your age also and I find yoga helps a lot and swimming. But I guess to be real honest I am down to having to seek drug treatment for the pain, though it is not always a good answer kind of a slippery slope. excedrine back and body for a long time took me through every day. Never lose sight of those goals and dreams because those who live in darkness wander forever. It gets better it has to. Even though sometimes it seems so far away I find my best motivation is never giving up the hopes dreams and aspirations I live for.

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   Posted 9/18/2009 4:41 AM (GMT -7)   
I definitley understand how you feel. I had to take a leave of absence from work a couple of years ago. I had not been dxed yet and i was so scared that I was going to die. Now i know I won't die from fibro, but i do need to learn to live with it.  I hope you can take some time off to deal with your pain and stress. It seemed to help me alot. You may need to examine your current job situation as well. I had to change jobs. I am still in the same line of work, but I now work in less stressful enviroment. Remember you can do this. Sometimes we are all much stronger than we think. I surprise myself everyday. We are all here for you if you need to talk or vent. Take care of yourself, and everything else will fall in place.
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   Posted 9/18/2009 6:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Is there any possibility of transferring to another type of classroom with less stress? Just a thought I thought I would throw out there.

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   Posted 9/18/2009 7:52 AM (GMT -7)   
My suggestion would be to transfer to a less demanding group of students where you can teach and not babysit.
 
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   Posted 9/18/2009 9:14 AM (GMT -7)   
im on full social sec disability and medicare. if you use a law firm that specializes, you almost always win. fee is limited to a small % of your settlement only if you win. i used binder and binder.
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CINDY30
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   Posted 9/18/2009 10:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for all of the advice. I have sent numerous e-mails to my teacher specialist (who is supposed to be a sort of liaison for us art teachers) about needing a less stressful environment. To no avail, I don't even get responses. I feel so incompetent that actually having a phone conversation about this leads to me sounding like a bumbling idiot. With our current economic situation, it is nearly impossible to get a transfer to a different school and as an art teacher, each school only gets one. I guess I'm just really confused about what to do. I cannot make less money and I cannot work a job that requires nights and weekends. The summers and holidays off are my only escape and recuperation time now. I feel like I can't get straight answers from anyone.
Cindy

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   Posted 9/18/2009 2:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Cindy, I am a high school teacher at a 'behavioural' school for kids who are at risk and have emotional disorders. I know the pain you are feeling- it is SO hard to keep going back day after day when the kids dont seem to appreciate what you do for them and at the same time, you feel sick and are in pain. Are you permanent or part time? I had to go part time because my body simply wasnt coping. It really is difficult when you also feel unappreciated at work. I applaud you for hanging in there and doing your best, as it is no easy feat with these kids
 
I am also an art teacher- but I teach english as well. You are right about a lack of jobs in art. Im australian and down here its darn near impossible to get a decent art job, or a transfer to a more pleasant school. Thats why I teach english- it was my minor and they always have work in that area. I live paycheck to paycheck too, but i dont have to support kids. Can you get a partial benefit and work part time? I am so sorry that im not sure how things like that work in the U.S.
 
Please hang in there and do what is best for you. i know with the economic crisis that any work is good work but dont end up burning yourself out. You sound like you need a new or better teacher Liason as well. I hope this lets you know you are not alone in what you are going through.
All the best and keep us posted,
 
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   Posted 9/18/2009 7:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Cindy, could you teach art at a community center or maybe at a jr college?

Watashi, what kind of research do you do? I also do research, but it is not with scary things - I do research in the social sciences.

Sue

CINDY30
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   Posted 9/18/2009 8:18 PM (GMT -7)   
To answer several of your questions, I am a full time contracted employee. If I were to walk out on my contract I could actually lose my certification. I teach in Savannah, GA and there are a few universities around here but no Jr. colleges so that's out and a job at a community center couldn't compete with my wages and benefits. I'm not qualified to teach college until I complete my Master's degree, which I've had to put on hold due to this darn disease! I know I sound extremely negative but I truly do feel that I've exhausted all options. I don't have any experience with how the whole disability thing works and I'm not sure if a part time position is possible as we have full time art teachers in all schools, but I will look into that. Thanks so much for all of your help!
Cindy

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   Posted 9/18/2009 11:16 PM (GMT -7)   
It's sooo difficult to teach students who don't want to learn. It would be exhausting to a healthy person. The stress is probably making you much worse. I understand you don't have many options. Our district doesn't even offer art in the elementary schools anymore and it was just cut in many middle schools.

It's scary how little respect kids have for adults; even elementary school kids think the world revolves around them and how dare we interrupt their social time with a bit of education. You'd think art would be a class they'd participate in because it's a lot more fun than social studies or math, but nope.

Do you have a union, are you a member? Your union may be able to answer some of your questions, a nice rep may answer your questions even if you aren't a member. You'd think getting answers would be easier, you can't be the first person in this situation in your entire school district. Our district was sued by a person with a disability so now, with the proper documentation, a disabled person can get a full time aide to help them with their classroom duties, including walking around and monitoring the students, passing out and collecting supplies, basically anything that assists you when you teach.

One of my favorite sayings is "If you can't change your situation, change your attitude." This is usually the hardest thing in the world but sometimes it's the only way to stay sane. I wish I could tell you how to do this but I still struggle with it myself.
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