And welcome to our Fibro Family! I do understand what you are talking about
even tho I'm probably much older than you are. A few years back when I was a single mom I had many of the disorders that I have now and a couple more were coming along fast. I had been dating a man and we had become best friends....but after more than a year he still hadn't "popped the question" even though it seemed likely. I worried that he wouldn't want someone who was 'sick' and not "perfect" ...in my eyes. At 40'ish I was worried truly worried about
this. I found out later that didn't even cross him mind.
We've been married now for 16 years. In that time I've been diagnosed with fibro, gone on insulin and had a few other delights come about
this mess of a body. And through it all he's right beside me. I guess what I'm saying is don't prejudge the great guys out there who can see past the surface. If someone you've met is put off by your health issues then you sure don't want them as a mate for life. Ya, it's easy for me to say because I'm married now, but we were together for over 2 years before we married. So, if there was a guy out there for me, I'm sure there will be one for you.
A couple of things to keep in mind are first, don't 'look' for someone. They will come along when you least expect it. Become active in things you love to do and the right person will find you....but you DO have to keep your eyes
open tho...lol You don't need to spill your health issues all over someone right away. No secrets but still don't say.. "Hi, I'm soccerchk and you won't like me because I have fibro." Sell your strong points, be proud of yourself. You are NOT an illness, you are a women with like, needs and a wonderful personality just like anyone else you may meet. You just happen to have drawn the short straw when the fibro deal came along. Now you and I and other here have to live with pain. At least you are here where you can learn how to manage the disorder and to have a wonderful life in spite of it.
You said you know about
all you can where fibro is concerned. Be
open to learning more...maybe learning how to pamper yourself, to lower stress and most important to love and accept yourself as you are right now. I'm guessing that's a mighty wonderful person. I can see you are someone I wanted to get to know, why wouldn't others. ;-)
Children will not remember you for the material things you provided but for the feeling that you cherished them.
Richard L. Evans
(\o/)Co-Moderator Fibromyalgia & Chronic Pain Forums