I used to do all the holidays at my house. Ppl would ask what time should we come? Never volunteered to make something, just come and wait to be waited on. I worked full time and volunteered at my church, took my children to all their activities and rushed home to bake and cook and clean. I finally brought it down to just Christmas Eve. I still cook, but trimmed that considerably. I used to bake every cookie and cake and pie. I now buy cheesecake (must have), and there is a place a ride away, but so worth it, for the best pumpkin pie. I still make a few treats that my children and niece and nephews like. My mother just asked me yesterday to make the cookies she likes so much. I try to buy gifts online, to avoid standing on lines at the stores. My back gives out and I get really, really sick!
Several yrs ago, my DH's sister wasn't going to be home for Christmas and their brother usually went there for Christmas. I said invite him for Christmas Eve for the dinner. Well, the brother had plans to go out drinking w/ the guys from work, but he would be more than happy to come over- he would let me know what time- after he recovered from his hangover and I could cook him a fresh dinner, he didn't want the leftovers. My DH (almost became the ex-DH) said Yeah, ok. I was livid. I told DH Christmas Eve or forget it. This is not Alice's Restaurant! My BIL hasn't come over for the holidays since. I was having a terrible time w/ work and just made it to the holiday break (teacher). I needed to slow down. I still hadn't been dx w/ FMS.
Sugar, B C, 'Before Children' my DH and I would leave work on Christmas Eve to visit my parents, have dinner, & open presents before my father had to leave for work, then we would go over to my MIL's place after she got home from work, open presents and visit. We would leave to go the church my husband attended as a child for Midnight Mass. Go home, sleep and go back to work, yes on Christmas Day. When our son was born, all that changed, my family came over our house on Christmas Eve, my MIL, BIL and DH's aunt and uncle came to our house to visit and see the baby open his gifts. You will drive yourself crazy trying to drag your little one to visit all the family. It will wear both of you out and the joy and beauty of the season will be lost.
We are having a very quiet Thanksgiving, just the five of us and the dog. lol. I sent out all my Thanksgiving cards to friends on Saturday, so proud of myself! Past few yrs I was lucky if they got out on Tues before Thanksgiving. Now I have to start writing the Christmas cards, oh well.
Life has changed, but as long as my family is together, my Christmas wish has been granted. It really is about being w/ the ones you love, the whole message of Christmas is LOVE. I think most of us remember the loving relatives who shared the holidays, the laughing and the loving, not really what was under the tree or how many cookies we ate. It's the 'who', not the 'what'. IMHO.
God bless. Alice.
You would think that, but with kids, your families always want to see the kids. My family would be really disappointed if I showed up without Alex.