Sending prayers and gentle hugs. So sorry about your Dad and all your pain.
Know that you we are here for you. We Care!
So sorry for all the sadness and pain going on in your life. My prayers are w/ you and your father. It is very hard watching your father get weaker and knowing your time w/ him is short. I lost my father to cancer.
Forgive me if I'm stepping on toes. I know you need comfort right now, but perhaps it would be better to hold off on this man until you are not so vunerable. There is so much coming at you right now, I'd hate to see you be hurt by someone, especially when your world is upside down. I wish you peace and rest. My thoughts are w/ you.
God bless. Alice.
Tyno, I can't believe they were going to let him die like that! My Mom kept having strokes. She was on a feeding tube the last 1 1/2 years of her life. It was only when her lungs kept filling up that I had them pull all tubes out. This was Mom's request through a living will. It was so hard to do but she was really far gone by that time. Her lungs were having to be suctioned out every two hours around the clock! Her quality of life had ended and she died in a couple of days. BUT, that's not true with your father. So what if he has Alzheimer's or dementia! He is a human being, not something you can toss to the side of the road. If they don't help you, get your face on television. Call your local stations and let them report what is going on. I know you are in Canada but that shouldn't be allowed!
I'll continue with the prayers and please let us know what happens. I hope he starts receiving nutrition soon.
Tyno, I'm so glad you were able to finally get him help. Your father is still fighting and sounds like he is still getting some enjoyment out of life so you do what you can to help him. He still has "life" in him.
The feeding tube wasn't bad. With my Mom, she couldn't eat because she would aspirate it in her lungs and end up with pneumonia. So, that was the hard part. Everything, including water, was given to her through the feeding tube. Your father is a different situation and he might get his appetite back and, if his tongue isn't sore, he might start eating again. It's truly amazing what a will to live will do.
Keep letting us know how he is doing and how you are doing, too. This is so tough but you are handling things very well!
Tyno, I know this is a different thing than what you are dealing w/, but the age factor is what hit me.
4 yrs ago my DH had to have surgery on his big toe (Diabetes Type 1). The dr said he would do the surgery, cut open, clean and close. Then he mentioned how if my DH was 80, he would just cut off the toe. I asked why, he said 'Well your husband is still working and needs to be able to stand up.' I was stunned! I asked 'But don't 80 yr old ppl need to stand up, too?' The attitude that older ppl don't need the same care and attention as someone younger is disgraceful.
I am also the POA for my mother. There are certain things that I would do for me, but my DM has stated her wishes and that is how I take care of her things. Business or medical. I expect, if necessary, my children will handle my affairs as I want them, not their take of my feelings.
You don't need me to tell you this, but you are a good daughter, a good person. I know this is so hard for you, especially since you aren't feeling that well. If it takes writing in newspapers or calling politicians, do it. Older ppl are valuable, too. They shouldn't be swept under a rug. I hope things are more peaceful for you and your father. Long Live The Carrots!!