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   Posted 1/16/2010 12:56 AM (GMT -6)   
A peaceful Saturday...or at least it was supposed to be. Ever be looking forward to peace and quiet on a weekend and as you get towards Friday things just keep snowballing your way and *poof* there goes your quiet

Which begs the question...are you someone who likes things planned in advance, no surprises. Or do you roll with the punches and enjoy the spontaneity of life? I'm wondering of the planning type of person can't imagine how the other types can stand it and the one who's spontaneous can't imagine how planning things can be enjoyable.

What kind of person are you? And what are your thoughts on this topic?

I'm one of those who thinks the world should be on a giant piece of graph paper all laid out in neat rows and columns. It would be so easy to keep track of things. And no, my house sure isn't that way even though I would prefer I'm one who organizes, makes lists and lists of the lists. No matter where we are going I've got the map out and checking where we are along the trip. So you can see what side of the teeter-totter I'm on. I don't do well with last minute things as it disrupts my brain somehow, but I still go with whatever needs to be done at the time. Then I lock the doors and pile under some blankets while I recover... tongue

I have had problems in the past with some people who are NOT planners...but I think it was more the situation and the person, not that everyone has to plan their life. Mainly my daughter is a last minute girl and most often running late...even though she has had plenty of time to be punctual. But she is NEVER late when I'm involved...the wrath of a mother. just kidding! smilewinkgrin

And you??
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   Posted 1/16/2010 1:54 AM (GMT -6)   
I used to be someone who needed to have things planned in advance and now I find it
is easier to go with the flow. I am on time for appointments and never show up late for parties.
My life is more spontaneous because I grab the good days to do what I want.

In my younger years I had a difficult time accepting change. My husband and I have lived
in 5 differant cities, 5 states in the past 15 years for his work. I learned to accept change
and go with the flow. We have been blessed to make good friends wherever we have lived.

There are things that I still plan and organize, but my life isn't as programed as it used to be.
I do have to plan around doctor appointments but other than that I do things on a whim.

My husband is really laid back and I have always been the hyper one. I have been trying
to be more laid back too. My priorities have changed, enjoying life ranks higher than a
perfectly clean home.

Hugs, Robin
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   Posted 1/16/2010 8:22 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm with Robin...used to be hyper about making a plan and sticking to it (what happened to my font?) Now I just take one day at a time and take advantage of the painfree moments. It bothers me when I commit to something and I can't follow through but I'm getting over that too. The hubby's neatly stacked 'work' clutter still bothers me and always will as I feel smothered by it but it is now confined to one room. Life is too short!

(what is with this itty bitty font...did this fibromite press something by mistake?)


No tiny font when I reload and read this.  Never mind...

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   Posted 1/16/2010 8:24 AM (GMT -6)   
I never plan anything. Other than work and a rare dr appt for the grandkkids everything is pretty
spontanious. Last night we pick up my 13 yr old grandaughter to go see Avatar again. Definately want
to see this in IMAX.
Today we're picking up her 5 yr old sister and taking them out to breakfast. Not too sure what we're
doing after that. about the only thing I "plan" is co-ordinating all the kids and grandkids for the
State Fair trip. We take the grandkids so the parents can have a stress free day at the fair.
When gas was cheaper we would drive 100 miles to Rochester just to get a steak dinner. When we
both had weekends off we would go on day trips all over upper NY just to see what was out there. Life
is much more rewarding for me this way because you never know what the day holds.

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   Posted 1/16/2010 10:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Normally, I like things planned. It helps me stay focused. But, every now and then, I don't mind a suprise or two. But, most of the time, I like things planned. I like know what is going to happen when and where. Like this whole thing with my FIL passing away....It has got me stressed to the point of breaking. I know you can't really PLAN when death will happen, but that is one suprise that I HATE.
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr. Seuss

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   Posted 1/16/2010 10:49 AM (GMT -6)   
Have you heard the expression "make a plan and give God a good laugh"??? That's my life!!! In my pretend little world everything is organized, labeled and planned and I use to be able to live like that at one time and if anything or anyone through things off it was very upsetting to me.
Then my family grew up and I got fibro and realized if I didn't roll with the punches I was going to live one miserable life.
I said after the holidays I couldn't wait to get back to a normal uneventful life so I could get things done around here. Believe me this past week has been anything but uneventful and it's not over.
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   Posted 1/16/2010 6:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Since fibromyalgia, it is hard for me to make plans.  So everything is tentative.  I have to go with the flow of things and see how I feel when that time comes.  Though I didn't miss a day of work though, so I am proud of that.  I do like the organization in my life, but I think fibro has taught me to roll with the punches. 
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   Posted 1/16/2010 10:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I was always very well organized, a multi-tasker, had a plan for everything and like Marlee, if something or someone got in the way it really threw me off...and then fibro...and over the years, I have learned that I really can't plan anything. Seems like the minute I do make a plan, fibro raises its ugly head and says "oh no! don't you dare!" So now, I take it one day at a time. If someone wants me to commit, I tell them sorry, I really can't. The only time I commit to anything is taking my grandkids. When my grandbabies are here, my endorphins kick in and I really feel good, until the leave....then it is one helluva flare!!
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   Posted 1/16/2010 10:32 PM (GMT -6)   
I am a planner, always on time, write out the entire calender the day I get the new year. My daughter (the 14 year old w/ heavy metal toxicity who they thought had FM) is not a planner, she's artsy, musical, fly by the seat of her pants. So when she started to get really sick & couldn't go to school for days at a time, it drove me crazy because of the schools policy on days missed. And also because I would have the day planned already. I would always be adding it in my head-You can't be sick today, you only have 2 more sick days, and what if you need it for if you get the flu, you need to go to school when you feel rotten & save your sick days for when you feels more rotten. They say planners tend to have more gallbladder problems - bingo! I'm trying to be more relaxed-

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   Posted 1/16/2010 11:20 PM (GMT -6)   
I am not crazy about surprises. I like to know in advance what to expect. I write down all appts., for me, my DH, my mother, my children. I am always early, I can't stand the idea of being late. I make notes about everything, I'm so afraid I will forget something very important.
My DH suffers from CRS - can't remember stuff - I'm being good! devil  When asked a ?, the first thing he does is look to me as if I am an encyclopedia. So besides trying to remember my own stuff, I have to remember his stuff, too.
Like Lettuce, when I buy my new calendar, I fill in all the b/d, anniversaries and all known appts, such as dr appts, right away. I like a routine, a schedule, it helps me to keep focused. There is still a part of me that holds on to old habits, even when the body and mind decide they have a different agenda. If I make plans, I try my hardest to follow thru, it goes against my grain to drop the ball. I know when ppl get sick, that changes all plans, I have to deal w/ it and everything else, too. But I don't like when other ppl decide their flights of fancy mean I should adjust my schedule.
I have spent so many yrs trying to stay organized, FMS has spent yrs unraveling my plans. I don't know if this helps me or not, re: the gallbladder - mine left yrs ago. lol.
God bless.  Alice.
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