please GOD, just take my dog!

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do-over
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   Posted 2/21/2010 5:21 AM (GMT -7)   
sitting on the floor with Mr. Murphy ... wondering how much longer he'll be with us. He had an awful night .... he's quit eating, he's fallen down several times this morning, he's struggling to breathe, now his belly is bloated, looks like he had a bloody nose too ... i'm considering calling our sweet wonderful vet and asking her to meet us for one last visit .... :(

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   Posted 2/21/2010 5:42 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry, I hope whatever happens, it's the easiest path for you and Mr Murphy. *hugs and understanding*
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do-over
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   Posted 2/21/2010 6:21 AM (GMT -7)   
just called the vet. waiting for a call back .... feel like i am going to throw up.

not sure what to do with him ... the ground has been frozen for weeks, and he's 110 pounds .... mom suggested leaving his body 'for disposal' at the vet clinic ... i can't bare this ....

gonna go wake the kids up to spend a little time with him this morning .... his sparkle is all gone from his eyes and he looks so pitiful.

i'm so sorry Mr. Murphy .... so very very sorry ....

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   Posted 2/21/2010 6:54 AM (GMT -7)   
((((((((((((Do-Over & Mr. Murphy)))))))))))))))))) So sorry.
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Marlee2
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   Posted 2/21/2010 7:06 AM (GMT -7)   
That is such a hard decision to make Do-over but you can only watch them suffer for so long. When all hope is gone for a recovery it's the kindest thing you can do.
 
I have no idea what it would cost to have a dog that big cremated, that's what we did with Brandy but she only weighed 10 lbs. It's sad the ground is too frozen to bury him. I hope you come up with a dignified way to dispose of his remains but remember he will no longer be in the empty vessel.
 
I'm sorry your having to go through this. cry
 
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   Posted 2/21/2010 7:12 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Marlee 2,

I am from the CP forum but saw your post.  My heart goes out to you, my 14 yr old Lab/rotty's health was declining and I prayed so hard for her to die so I wouldn't have to make the decision your are at right now.  My prayers were answered and she did on January 2.  My heart still is broken and there is a hole in our home!

We found a place called Fairwinds here in Phoenix, we decided to have her remains cremated.  I gives me comfort having her ashes.  Someday when I am strong enough I will either bury them or sprinkle them.

Do what your heart tells you to do!  You are in my thoughts and prayers!

XXOO
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livenlaugh
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   Posted 2/21/2010 7:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Do over...my thoughts are with you and your family. Remember he will not suffer anymore. Thinking of you in this difficult time.

Lisa

do-over
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   Posted 2/21/2010 7:34 AM (GMT -7)   
thanks so much everyone ... i feel like i have aged a hundred years in the past 24 hours. i laid on the floor in front of the fire with him this morning and told him it was ok to go ... that we love him and can't do anything to fix his tired body ... he put his paw on my arm and laid his head on my lap and sighed. he probably doesn't understand my words ... i know ... if he DID then he would have listened to my million warnings about things like eating a whole birthday cake or chasing deer in the field ...

still waiting to hear back from the vet ... which is weird .. she usually calls within 5 minutes of a page ....
 
not sure if it's ok to post pic links or not ... if not, please feel free to edit my post.  but here's a flicker link to see a pic of Mr. Murphy ... he's such a goofball! 
 
http://www.flickr.com/photos/ordinarygreatness/

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livenlaugh
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   Posted 2/21/2010 8:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for sharing the pics. he is so cute and loves the camera. You are doing the right thing. Doesn't feel right now but he will stop suffering. spend time with him. Thinking of you.
Lisa

Potsie
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   Posted 2/21/2010 8:02 AM (GMT -7)   
do-over, I'm so sorry you're going through this. We're pretty much going through the same thing with our cat. She has breast cancer. She was operated on some months ago, but her tumors are back. We just can't afford another surgery. The last time it cost us over $900. So, when the time comes, we're going to have to have her put to sleep. Again, I'm sorry you're going through this.

do-over
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   Posted 2/21/2010 8:25 AM (GMT -7)   
he is a lot cuter in person than in pics .. i swear he's too big to fit in a photo! LOL. i added a couple more pics. he's sleeping now .. still waiting to hear from the vet. geez!

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   Posted 2/21/2010 8:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Aww Do-over,

You are doing the right thing by calling the vet. We had to put our german shepherd down in November. It was the hardest thing for me. My husband took her in. She was a good dog. And Mr Murphy looks so sweet. I am sure that you had many good years with him. It is so hard to watch them at the end. But just being there is good for him. He feels your peaceful energy. That is so important. I have lost many dogs in my time. I am a dog lover. Happy to say I am getting a pup in March. But that will never replace my Dharma. I stll cry about it.

I wish you peace and sending good vibes to you. Iknow that this is hard, but the time has come and I am sure he is ready to go. Even though when loved as he was, they do try to hang on for you. Keep him comfortable.

Know that my heart goes out to you during this difficult time.

May peace be with you.

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MsBunky
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   Posted 2/21/2010 9:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Do-over, I am so sorry you at the point that you need to make a decision like this. Our pets really are family members - they bring so much joy to our lives, it's hard to ever imagine them not with us.

I think Mr. Murphy's big sigh and paw on your arm is your answer. I'm sure he understood you and is relieved to know you love him enough to not let him suffer. Please know that I am thinking of you and your family during this very difficult time and we're all here if you need to talk.

Gentle hugs,
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edt
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   Posted 2/21/2010 9:25 AM (GMT -7)   

Do over,

I apologize for writing my post to Marlee2...it was for you!

Your Mr. Murphy is precious!  You will remember all the cake eating and deer chasing later and it will make your heart happy....sounds like he enjoyed his life with you and your loving family! 

I received a book from my sister in law after Cinder passed it is called "For Every Dog and Angel" by Christine Davis!  Everyone should get this book, it explains beautifully about our FOREVER DOGS and the forever connection we will have with them.

XXOO
Patti


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   Posted 2/21/2010 10:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Do-over, I'm sooo sorry this is going on.  I'm sitting here crying my eyes out so I can imagine what  you are going through.  It is so difficult because our pets are like our children.  My heart is breaking for what you are going through and I wish I could take that pain away.  I'm praying for you and Mr. Murphy.
 
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   Posted 2/21/2010 1:58 PM (GMT -7)   

Do Over, I'm so sorry and I know how you feel, exactly.  We had to call the vet on Memorial Day because my 18 year old Dalmation could not take another day.  Mr. Murphy has let you know it's okay to let him go.  Peace to him and your family.

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   Posted 2/21/2010 7:36 PM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry to read this. please goodle the 'rainbow bridge poem'.


may you and Mr. Murphy be at peace

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do-over
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   Posted 2/22/2010 1:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Our vet never called back yesterday. I sat with him all day. Have been up since 3:00AM with him ..... his breathing is slow and shallow, he hasn't eaten since Saturday night (well, nothing except the piece of bacon that my daughter snuck in to him last night after supper and the liver flavored vitamins that my sons keep trying to coax him to chew.)

I really need to be at work today. I hate to leave him alone ... He has always hated to ride in the car .... it makes him sick. Plus, he's HUGE .. and I don't think I can get him in and out of the vehicle by myself ... he's so weak. SO now I'm trying to decide .. do I try to load him into the Pilot and beg the vet to put him down on my way to WORK? Or leave him here alone and pray that his suffering ends soon? Oh boy ... those kids at work are gonna have a sad teacher today! Apparently though, I'm well hydrated .. can't seem to run out of tears .... I have GOT to suck it up at work ... I'll have 20 4-year olds in my room, and there is a counselor coming to observe a child with behavioral problems from 10 - 11. It's taken an act of God to get this kid some help ... and I need to be there .... for his sake ...

i'm going to look like an idiot at work either way though .. I didn't get any lesson plans ready for this week ... spent all Saturday running errands and Sunday with my dying dog .... too emotional to even THINK about academic activities for preschoolers!!!!

why does this dog keep breathing? his body is so full of cancer ... he's so sick .... and tired .... and weak .... how long can it go on?

do-over
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   Posted 2/22/2010 4:15 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm taking him with me .. assuming I can get him in the Pilot. One of my sons is here .. the dog weighs 110 pounds and can barely stand, so I'll need help loading him up. My vet never called back, so we are going to the other one ... haven't been there for a while but used to go .... so they know us ...

i sent my boss an email .. SHE doesn't get up til 6:30 ... and when I call and wake her in the mornings she's kinda grumpy sometimes. I'e done the best I can on that front ... this is my last week anyway .. what are they gonna do, fire me?!? (bad attitude, i know .. sorry .. I'm a mess)

kids are up and saying good-bye. we just gave him an (almost empty) peanut butter jar .. one of his favorite things in the world ... he took one lick then looked at us like "No thanks.". How in the world will we survive this day? at least Murph's suffering won't last too much longer .... come on 7:30 ... get here soon.

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   Posted 2/22/2010 5:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry. (((Hugs)))

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getting by
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   Posted 2/22/2010 6:31 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry do-over, but you are doing the rigtht thing. You don't want him to suffer any longer. You will be at peace with this. I know it is hard. I jsut went through this not long ago. It was the hardest day of my life I think. I have lost a lot of animals. I have always had a few dogs around the house. And I chose big ones so it is hard when they go. Mr Murphy will be at peace now. No more suffering for him. It is doggy heaven, which I believe in, and know that he loves you so very much. That is why he is fighting it so hard.

Please take care, keep us updated. We all care about you so much.

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Potsie
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   Posted 2/22/2010 7:59 AM (GMT -7)   
do-over, I'm not there with you physically, but I'm there with you in spirit. I feel for you, believe me. Please update us as soon as you can. You'll be in my prayers.

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   Posted 2/22/2010 8:06 AM (GMT -7)   
I hope by the time you read this Do-over Mr. Murphy is in heaven. Your doing the right thing as far as I am concerned. We give them the best life we can so why let them suffer needlessly at the end. That's the way I thought about Brandy, she never suffered a day in almost 15 yrs and I wasn't going to let her suffer at the end, she went in her daddy's arms just like she wanted.
 
We have her ashes, don't know what we will do with them but didn't want her buried here in case we move.
 
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   Posted 2/22/2010 9:25 AM (GMT -7)   
this post makes me so sad. tears are in my eyes...


hopefully he is in heaven know running like crazy and eating all th epeanut butter he wants.
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Sherrine
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   Posted 2/22/2010 9:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Do- over, I hope that Mr. Murphy is at peace now.  It's a horrible thing to watch your beloved pet die.  I went through that with one of my cats...had an inoperable tumor in his chest that was squeezing against his lungs and he couldn't breathe.  The reason I'm telling you this is that I didn't think I could handle putting him down but, after seeing him like that, I took him and had him put to sleep, too.  I missed him but I was happy for him that he wasn't suffering anymore.
 
You have precious memories of Mr. Murphy and you always will, too.  I've had my pets creamated and have the urns of my first dog and cat in a bookcase.  I don't want to bury them for the same reason Marlee gave.  
 
We are here for you and you are definitely doing the right thing.  You and your whole family know that.  You will be at peace about this situation soon, too.
 
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