When it all hits at once.....

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Luvzminis
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   Posted 2/22/2010 5:14 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm sure jjust about anyone on this thread can relate!  What do you do when it all hits at once? Though I'm in pain and my body has been absolutely nuts,  I'm trying to stay calm so my body stays calm, but am also looking for ways I can help with finances.  I don't have to tell you how hard it is with today's economy.  I'm dealing with early menopausal symptoms, digestive symptoms, fibro symptoms, and a very touchy body in general.  I think some of the fatigue I feel is just due to the stress of it all.
 
When I feel overwhelmed, as in waking up and thinking "another day to push through," I have to remind myself there is just so much I can do in a day.  I try to prioritize, get done what I can, and leave the rest to the Lord.  I also try to find some "down" time to relax.  My husband does SO much for me and for our family, and I sometimes feel so guilty, but I know also that he knows my limits.  I just want to do more to help him and help the finances, so it's kinda depressing.  I'm also dealing with a wayward 21-year-old son who has had ALL kinds of serious problems with the law, drugs, etc.  Very stressful, but again, I try to turn it all over to the Lord and pray my way through. I feel horrible about the direction his life has taken, but we don't know what else we can do.  I think sometimes we beat ourselves up to do more-more-more when we're really just supposed to lay our burdens down, after doing what we can.
 
I would be interested in hearing what others do when it feels like your body has yet another thing wrong, you're emotionally and physically exhausted, and you think "if one more thing goes wrong....!" Well--I think you know what I'm talking about, because likely anyone with fibro for any amount of time has "been there." It's absolutely exhausting, isn't it??
 
Always looking for more of those positive solutions!
Hope everyone has a good week.

harleybluz
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   Posted 2/22/2010 6:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Almost sounds like my life a couple of years ago. Luckily my son is out of the house and living Australia so i don't really "know" what he's up to. Actually, I think he's finally straightened himself out. They usually do. As far as what I do? Well, I try to get as much rest as I can and my husband is like yours, a BIG help. However, I work full time so the rest I seek is taking a nap at lunch and struggling to get through the rest of my day until I get home. Everything seems to happen at once though doesn't it?

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getting by
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   Posted 2/22/2010 6:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I fuess we can't tell our kids how to live. It is up to him to do the right things for himself. And worrying about it doens't change it, it just makes you feel worse. And makes the fibro worse. But praying is the best thing to do. They often come around and grow up. Especially when they start families of their own.

Priortising is the best thing to do. Get the most important things done and let the rest work out for itself. It sounds like you have a very perceptive husband that knows when you are having a difficult time. I am glad that he is there for you. My husband is understanding too and that really helps me. Even when I didn't know what was wrong with me, he kept saying "I think you have chronic fatigue". Well he was close, if not right. Fatigue is the hardest part for me. The stress was just too much for me, and he helped me a lot.

I hope that things smoothe out soon for you. Know that we are always here and understand.

Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen
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Marlee2
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   Posted 2/22/2010 7:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Sat. I was ready to run away from home so I don't have to deal with my family. devil If they only knew the stress they put on us and what stress does to us, for some it probably wouldn't matter. I hope your son gets his act together.
 
I have a God file on my desktop that I have to put the big problems in that I have no control over.
 
We didn't ask for fibro so try not to feel guilty that you can't do your part. I would like to be the person I use to be too but it's not going to happen so I accept my life for what it is and do the best I can.
 
luv and hugs
Marlee
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Sherrine
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   Posted 2/22/2010 9:34 AM (GMT -7)   

You have been given some excellent advice here.  I've done all of the above but there is one more thing I do.  I count my blessings.  I look around at all the things that are "right" in my life and thank God for them.  The things that I tried to straighten out but couldn't, I turn them over to God and let Him handle them.  He does a much better job than I do!

Sherrine


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Marlee2
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   Posted 2/22/2010 1:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Luv, both my sisters choose what they want to deal with and what they don't want to deal with. My oldest sister told me the other night that an old high school friend is driving her crazy with calling her all the time complaining about all the problems in her life and she is going to tell her to stop calling. I said, "maybe your the only one she has to talk to about her health problems and all the other problems in her life", my sister agreed that is true but she still will put an end to it. I have remained close with my best friend that I have had since 8th grade and I couldn't do that to her or anyone that I love, maybe limit the time I talk to them but not sever ties.
 
Many of us with fibro seem to be very sensitive to other's needs, probably what makes this forum such a great place to come to. If I turned my back on a dear friend or loved one the guilt would be overpowering to me.
 
Perhaps, what makes us, us has contributed to our having fibro. Needless to say neither of my sisters has fibro.
 
luv and hugs
Marlee
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Luvzminis
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   Posted 2/22/2010 3:38 PM (GMT -7)   
As always, wonderful advice from some very thoughtful, sympathic people!
 
A little update that made my day:  I have been working on some writing and today I got a check for something I submitted!  It's only $20., but it feels like a million to me.  This, along with the forum encouragement, gives one a little taste of Heaven.  Thanks all, and God bless.

merrygirl
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   Posted 2/22/2010 3:48 PM (GMT -7)   
we all have to learn to say NO. sometimes that is the best thing for me. I also make sure I make time for myself. I am looking into ways to improve my health as money allows.

accupuncture massage, meds and lots of them, aquatherapy etc......

good luck to you.
hugs,
melissa
Chronic Lyme Disease,Fibromyalgia, CFS, PCOS, sleep apnea, hypothyroidism, type 2 diabetes, bulging discs to name a few

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