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   Posted 4/7/2010 12:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Do you prefer talking on the phone or online and why? Obviously we all like online conversation or we wouldn't be here. But in general do you prefer chatting on the phone with someone or online communication.

Even before the internet and email I didn't like phone calls and I still don't. Just a quirk of mine but every time the phone rings someone either wants/needs something of me or someone has an emergency and I have to bail them out. Rarely does someone call just to visit and that one person who does is a cousin who calls about once a year from 2 states away. She happens to have fibromyalgia too but neither of us know the other had it until last year. My daughter calls but with her I can lay the phone down, make a cup of coffee, change the oil filter in my truck, and bake a batch of chocolate chip cookies and then return to the phone and she never knew I was She calls and goes on about the same things over and over and always complains. Yep, for the most part I hate it when the phone rings. There are days when it rings and I yell at the darn thing! No kidding! tongue

Online I do fine but I do dislike the problems that it can cause since you can't see the other persons' face or body language. That can cause misunderstandings but in the long run I'll type my talk rather than listen to it.

How about you? Do you prefer the phone or online chatting?
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   Posted 4/7/2010 6:38 AM (GMT -6)   
I prefer talking online because it's usually short and you can come back to reply at a later time if you want. I'm not a phone person because of my short attention span, I usually find myself zoning out and missing most of the conversation.
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   Posted 4/7/2010 7:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Because I have lost a good portion of my hearing from Meniere's Disease, talking on the phone has become a real challenge.  I don't like to talk long, but I would rather hear the sound of a friend's/relative's voice than get an e-mail message.  What I cannot stand, however, is cell phone texting as a mean of communication.  Just this morning I was in the grocery store and the man in front of me in line was trying to text while, taking his groceries out of the cart.  The school bus stop is in front of my house and every morning the kids are standing there all texting each other...their little fingers going like crazy.  I guess I'm just an old broad and am out of the techno loop.
I think the Internet has slowly isolated us...the hubby decided he would teach online instead of doing face to face classes and there isn't a day that goes by that he doesn't say he misses the personal interaction.  He really enjoys it when a student calls him to ask a question as he can at least put a voice to the name.
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   Posted 4/7/2010 8:28 AM (GMT -6)   
I much prefer on line. I think it's partially because it gives me a chance to reflect before I just blurt things out. Also, it can be done at everyone's convenience. I always worry I'm interrupting something when I call; with the computer I can leave the message and it can be picked up at the person's leisure. Probably why I don't like chat or IM, either.

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   Posted 4/7/2010 9:36 AM (GMT -6)   
Because we have moved so often, I have friends that live allover the place. We keep in touch
online and will call eachother just to catch up. I live far from family and will call my parents
daily. My daughter and I Skype everyday and it is great to see her and my little grandaughter.
I talk to my siblings frequently. Even though we're far apart we're very close. wink
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   Posted 4/7/2010 11:07 AM (GMT -6)   
I like to talk one the phone with only select people. I like to text message more than actually talk on the phone. It allows me to navigate around my extreme shyness. I also have friends and family scattered all over, so online communication is really convient to keep track of them.
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   Posted 4/7/2010 12:12 PM (GMT -6)   
I usually prefer online communication for the same reason as Judy - it gives me time to reflect. I've always been a better writer than talker. But it is nice to hear someone you care about's voice now and then, too.
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   Posted 4/7/2010 2:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Chutz, your daughter sounds like my mother--just say uh-huh every ten minutes or so and ignore the conversation. I usually prefer online anyway, but my mom doesn't have a computer. Diane
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   Posted 4/7/2010 3:47 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm the odd sister in my family. Surprise! smilewinkgrin  My two sisters could talk to a brick wall and swear they got an answer. They will call and could go on for 2hrs or better. OMG! I am glad to have the phone for any emergencies like calling 911. But generally, I don't care to be on the phone for any period of time.
That said, my DH calls me on his lunch break in the evening and we have a pleasant few minutes to say how we are doing and tell each other we love each other.
My DD and I will text each other at least once a day. She taught me how to text yrs ago and her friends are so impressed w/ my MAD texting skills. lol. My sons and I text once in awhile. My younger sister and I text when things are really hectic, can't always spend the time on the phone. My older sister and brother are not 'texters'. My brother and I are of the same mind re the phone - get on, get off.
I was always a letter writer, now a text or here online is about it. I can't sit or focus that long. I think writing things down gives you a chance to explore your feelings and expand on them a bit. You can't hit the 'backspace' bar on the phone.
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   Posted 4/7/2010 5:24 PM (GMT -6)   
I would rather write than talk too. I think it is because I think slow. and like was mentioned above, that backspace key. lol...

I always use to write a lot of letters. I really enjoyed writing. And reading too.

For some reason I always dread when the phone rings. Thank God for caller ID. I don't like talking on the phone that much. I never have. I don't remember having any bad experience with the phone. When I was a kid I liked it. But I don't like it now and haven't since early adulthood.

I think writing does give you more time to reflect and think about what it is that you want to say. You can take your time and try to remember everything that you want to say. And you can leave and nobody knows it. haha...

Have a great evening eveybody.

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   Posted 4/7/2010 7:40 PM (GMT -6)   
I like the phone way better as it's an instant connection with the person. The language and way it's used tell you a lot about
a person. My sons usually call me as it's a bond more than the written word can ever be. One son's girlfriend is a phone person
and the other's is a text person. Personally, I think texting is a pain in the behind. Everything is abbreviated and very few
kids these days can even spell. I see this at work all the time and wonder how they will ever make it in the world....can you
imagine these dispensing your meds??? Scary thought.

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   Posted 4/7/2010 8:40 PM (GMT -6)   
I perfer on the phone, I have a wonderful friend and we talk throughout the day...we do chat on the computer but we have so much to talk about it is easier on the phone.

I also found out, on the computer I can't focus as well due to children around me and reading over my children, drives me crazy....lucky I love them.
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