Saturday Koffee Klatch..forgor Friday I guess

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Chutz
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   Posted 6/18/2010 9:37 PM (GMT -7)   
I realized tonight that I totally forgot to do the Koffee Klatch for Friday. Spacey Fibro brain here, more lately it seems.

I will post a topic for tonight and then it's time for the Koffee Klatch to take a summer vacation, or winter for those of you down under. I've noticed lately, except for a couple of days, that the responses on the Koffee Klatch have been very minimal. Toward the end of summer we'll revisit the idea and see if everyone wants it to return or maybe try something else or nothing at all. It's all up to the members since this is our forum.

But for today...how are you at saying "Good Bye" even if it's only for a short time? If you have kids going off to college is it hard to let them go? If you parents are leaving for a 2 week trip are you sad to see them go? What about leaving your pet at a boarding kennel or friends house...does it tear your heart out? What's your style?

For me I can't leave the dog behind...just not in me. She's like one of the family and since we travel with a trailer in tow we don't ask anyone else to house her. Plus our dogs are always well trained and we don't ask to take her in anyone else's home. But most often people are coming over to give her loves. As far as saying goodbye to people....it depends on the person. With my kids I'm good about that now days. But the grandkids are another story. When they are crying in their car seats and pleading..."I want to stay with you, Grandma"...I have to hold it in until I get to the house and then the tears pour. Now these are kids I see more than once a week! I will admit to one thing when it comes to my husband...once in a while I still get tears when he goes to work. I know it's silly but I can't help it. I did that for the first several years we were married (been married 16+ years now) but most times I'm OK with it. But I do get up and pack his lunch and see him off each morning. No way I could sleep while he gets up and goes to work. Nope, can't do it.!...lol

How are you at saying Good Bye?
Chutz smilewinkgrin
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sotiredoffibro
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   Posted 6/18/2010 10:59 PM (GMT -7)   
As far as my animals I never go on trips anymore to have to say goodbye to them, as far as my children it gets easier each time. Like you said it does break my heart to say goodbye to my grandson when he is crying because he wants to stay here. but one of the hardest goodbyes I ever had to do was saying goodbye to my best friend when she was dieing from cancer. Even though I know I will see her again someday.
Shirley

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   Posted 6/19/2010 4:36 AM (GMT -7)   
My DH and I both have this habit of standing at the door when either of us leave and wave and throw a kiss as they pull out.  We do this even if it's just going to be a little while that we're going to be gone.  You never know when something could happen and never see each other again.  I guess some people would say this is silly but it means a lot to us.
 
Chutz, I would miss our Koffee Klatch if we didn't have it but when school starts again I don't have as much time to post on it.  I would understand.
 
God Bless!
Shannon
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myjoy
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   Posted 6/19/2010 6:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Since we moved out of WI, and into MI - I find it very hard to say goodbye to my kids, who still live back in WI, when we visit them. We never wanted to move, but had to because of my husband's job situation. When we travel and stay in hotels, we have to leave our beagle in a kennel - we have no choice. I always tear up when I leave him there. The reunion is always very happy and exciting, though! Fortunately, our kids have dogs too, so when we stay there, Zeb comes along too.
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myjoy
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   Posted 6/19/2010 6:19 AM (GMT -7)   
ps.......I will miss Koffee Klatch, but totally understand the break. I hope to see it come back later, though. It's a nice break from talking about pain.
DX fibromyalgia 2007, osteoarthritis, obsessive-compulsive disorder OCD, depression, anxiety, sleep apnea, hysterectomy.

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Acheybody
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   Posted 6/19/2010 9:40 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm not very good at saying goodbye. My family was always the type to drag it out - "ok, bye .... see ya ....love ya....be careful!" so that's how I still am. I worry about everyone too much, I guess. Or so I'm constantly told!

I'll miss the Koffee Klatch too, but I sure understand that it's hard to do all the time. Maybe when Fall comes, it wouldn't have to be every day? Chutz, you've done an amazing job coming up with topics, just since I've been here, and who knows how long before!
  Achey 
 
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crazykitty
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   Posted 6/19/2010 10:01 AM (GMT -7)   
First off...Thank You Chutzie for all the time and effort you put into Koffee Klatch, I do
enjoy the daily topics. You have a knack at telling a story. I do understand your need
for a break. Thanks again my friend.

Saying goodbye is always difficult when I am saying it to those I don't see on a regular
basis. We will be visiting our family in Wisconsin in a couple of weeks. Saying goodbye
is always hard and sometimes tearful. It is hard when you live so far from loved ones.
I always say I love you with a big hug and kiss.

Hugs, Robin
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Irish Babe
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   Posted 6/19/2010 10:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Chutz, I will miss the Koffee Klatch. I think it was a truly inspired idea you had, I am amazed how you came up w/ so many varied topics on a daily basis. I know you put so much into your posts, even when you aren't feeling your best. We all appreciate your efforts! I hope you decide to bring it back in the fall, but in the mean time, I do hope the break gives you some down time to relax.
 
In answer to your question - I never say 'Goodbye'! My father heard me say goodbye to someone when I was a child and said something I've always carried w/ me. He said 'goodbye' is too final, just say 'bye' or 'see you later', no one in my family ever says 'goodbye'.
 
I have a hard time parting from family. My DH, children, and I always say 'I love you, see you later, be safe' before any of us leaves the house. My DH has kidded me for several decades that my family's partings were longer than the visits. We can stand at the door for quite awhile saying goodnight. We all have to hug and kiss and one last something must be said. It may be long, but it's the way we are. I just don't like 'things' to be left unsaid. If I love you, you will know it, cause I will tell you!
 
God bless.  Alice.

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   Posted 6/19/2010 11:06 AM (GMT -7)   
I find parting ways is awkward for me with my friends. I always have a hard time leaving when I am visiting them. It always seems so final.

Saying goodbye to the grandkids is hard too. They always hate when we leave. My 5 year old granddaughter is the hardest to leave. I always say that I have to go so that I can come back another time. lol...

Chutz, I totally understand you need a break from the koffee klatch. And I have truly enjoyed it. I will look forward to having it again in autumn. You do a wonderful job.

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AustenFan
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   Posted 6/19/2010 2:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much for doing the Koffee Klatch; I look forward to it everyday. I understand, though, if you need to take a break. I'm sure we probably don't realize how much work goes into it. I look forward to seeing it again in the fall if you are able to start back up. :-)

As far as saying good-bye, I only have trouble with my DH and DD. I make sure to hug/kiss my DH whenever he leaves for the day, and my DD and I always say "I love you" to each other before parting. If we (my DD and I) are going to be away from each other for more than a day, we can hardly pull ourselves away. I can't imagine the good-bye next year when she goes to college, lol.

Other family members, just a quick hug and a good-bye.
"There is no charm equal to tenderness of  heart." - Jane Austen
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 


KellieJo
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   Posted 6/19/2010 3:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for doing this.


My daughter left a couple of days of go for a mission trip, she will be gone for 2 weeks. I'm a worry wart and didn't want to leave her at the church. I give her several hugs and kisses bye. The house is more quiet and different without her here.

I did get a facebook message from her, here it is:

Hi this is Megan. It's been awesome so far in the first two stops. Now in Falcon, Colorado. But most of all miss my mommy. Love you mother!

I about started to bawl.......she calls me mommy when she wants something and mother when she is upset, lol.

Just thought this was a good topic today.

Nana Monster
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   Posted 6/19/2010 5:56 PM (GMT -7)   
I was holding my Dad's hand and told him it was ok to go so he wouldn't hurt anymore. He passed away about 5 minutes later. He
let me know he made it to the other side because outside his window at the nursing home was a robin for me and a cardinal for my
sister. She was out of the room when he passed and I explained it was Dad's way of letting us know he was with us.

The other rough goodbyes came when my 7 week old grandaughter died of heart failure. I was holding her hand and my son was
doing infant CPR ,as she was a heart baby, when she died. My other grandaughter died 9 years later, at the age of 10, of an
infection in her heart. The day before she went to day camp and made a finger painting saying "Autumn is an Angel" and died that
night.

Nana Monster

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   Posted 6/19/2010 6:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Nana,
 
How heartbreaking, I am so sorry for your pain.
 
God bless.  Alice.

Chutz
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   Posted 6/19/2010 8:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh dear Nana...I am so sorry I brought up sad memories for you. I've lost 2 children actually...one at birth and the other at 23. Yes, those goodbyes are the worst. I guess I didn't pick a very good topic for today but maybe it's healthy for everyone to share.

Considering all of the responses about the Koffee Klatch, maybe we'll only take a break for a couple of weeks. I too enjoy it but wasn't sure others did. Thanks for the kind comments. Koffee Klatch won't go far for very long.

Chutz
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sotiredoffibro
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   Posted 6/19/2010 8:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank Chutz, I have only been here for a little while but I knew I was going to miss it. It was always fun for me. Im glad it will only be a couple weeks. Thank you again.

Dear Nana I am so sorry for your losses Saying goodbye forever here on earth is absolutely the hardest thing we can go through, however I honestly believe that someday we will all be together again.

Shirley

Nana Monster
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   Posted 6/20/2010 5:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Chutz,
It's rough when we lose them no matter what their age. We had a short time with Meranda and 10 wonderful years with
Skeeter. When I was a kid we were always led to believe when you left this plane that was it but they are always with us.
Whether it's in our minds, hearts or just in spirit. I know my grandaughters are still pranksters. There are signs each one
uses to let us know when they are here visiting. I think the bonds of the heart will always let us know.
Godspeed,
Nana Monster
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