Has fibro changed your relationships?

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   Posted 7/11/2010 8:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Living with chronic illness, I feel closer to my family and friends. My view of the
world has changed. Things that I thought were important aren't as valuable to me,
relationships are.
My relationship has somewhat changed with my husband. He is very healthy and
athletic and I can no longer keep up with him. I encourage him to play tennis and golf
and he does play in leagues. He is very attentive to me and we still find time to have
fun together. He is very helpful around the house and never complains. He has
proven his vows...in sickness and in health over and over. I love him for it!
My grown daughter acts like the over protective mother with me. She is always telling
me to be careful and to sit and rest. She lives out of state with her family and calls
me daily. When we visit, she waits on me like royality. I can spend my time playing
with my grandaughter and that is fine with me! I love my daughter and her family.
My Mom and siblings also live far away, but we are extremely close. My Dad's recent
death reminds me often to tell the people I love how much I love them.
My friends are always supportive and will go out of the way to help when needed.
They are always asking what they can do to help.
I feel closer to people than I ever have and value each of my relationships more
than I ever have. I also treasure my fibro family and love you all for all the support,
and compassion you have shown me in the last year. Thank You!
Hugs, Robin
Fibromyalgia, MCTD (Lupus, Scleroderma & RA) Raynaud's, Osteoporosis,
Osteoarthritis, Degenerative Disc Disease, Migraines, and Hypertension
Prescription Meds: Savella, Cyclobenzaprine, Methotrexate, Diltiazem, Boniva,
Folic Acid.  OTC Meds: Multi-vitamin. Vit, D, Vitamin B12 & calciim supplements

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   Posted 7/11/2010 8:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Wow, Robin, what a wonderful story. You have such a lovely support system - and you appreciate them all so much. I'm so glad you have all of them - and all of the people here, too.

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   Posted 7/11/2010 9:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey Robin I am glad also that you have such a wonderful support system. My husband is my main support. He has MS so he tries very hard to understand what I am going through. We support each other.
Gentle Hugs
DX: Fibro, Gerds, COPD, Osteoarthritis, Osteoporosis, High Blood Pressure, and Depression.
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   Posted 7/11/2010 10:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Robin,
When I first got fibro, I had a hard time hanging on to friends because I never felt good enough to do anything with them.  I felt so isolated.  But as the years went by, one of my friends got fibro too.  So we keep in touch more.  She asks me a lot of questions because I have had it longer than her.  Diagnosis anyway. 
But now I do have a couple of friends that I like to go and see.  I don't visit long, but I do go. 
Yes, it does make our friendships seem much more valuable.
I am so glad that you have such a good support system going.  That is good.  I am glad taht your daughter understands and waits on you.  That is so prescious.
I hope that you are having a painfree and energetic day.
Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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   Posted 7/11/2010 11:31 PM (GMT -6)   
To me, the worst thing about it is when you're young. I am talking in 20-30yr range. People cannot see FMS and chronic pain and you suffer silently.
When you constantly stumble into things like closets and fall down steps. And your body bears the bruises and sprains. You hope no one sees you at the very least. But you can't help it cause it is how it is. It is pretty much the worst feeling in the world.

It's kind of like the concept of a parents' child or children shouldn't die before them. Well we shouldn't be falling apart mentally and physically before them. We shouldn't have to drag ourselves to PT 2x a week. We shouldn't be misplacing our keys 2x a week. We shouldn't have to need a pill just so we can have the slightest feeling in our knees, back, shoulders, neck, hands... Or to get more than 3 hours of sleep at night. JMO

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   Posted 7/12/2010 1:59 AM (GMT -6)   
That is great Robin. I too have a supportive husband and daughter, they are a blessing.
Fibromyalgia,arthritis,raynauds syndrome,gastroparesis,IBS,depression,severe costochondritis
God and Family is my life.

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   Posted 7/12/2010 8:07 AM (GMT -6)   
archiestyles...my heart always goes out to the young people with fibro. Don't give up
though. Remember we are stronger than we think. Hope helps me get throught the day.

Relationships are important and the relationship we have with ourself is very important.
We are the one to control our own purpose. We are our own greatest support by the way
we choose to live. It is our choice that determines our own personal fullfillment in spite
of living with chronic illness. Sometimes just letting go of notions that things shouldn't
be a certain way helps. They are what they are and taking one day at a time helps me.

Sending gentle hugs my friend and wishing you all the best!

hugs, Robin
Fibromyalgia, MCTD (Lupus, Scleroderma & RA) Raynaud's, Osteoporosis,
Osteoarthritis, Degenerative Disc Disease, Migraines, and Hypertension
Prescription Meds: Savella, Cyclobenzaprine, Methotrexate, Diltiazem, Boniva,
Folic Acid.  OTC Meds: Multi-vitamin. Vit, D, Vitamin B12 & calciim supplements

sonny boy
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   Posted 7/13/2010 1:38 PM (GMT -6)   
this the way its turned out for me to.keep on loving them tongue           GOD BLESS SONNY

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   Posted 7/13/2010 10:22 PM (GMT -6)   
i know what you mean about not keeping up with people.
i think its made me realize what friends are for life and which were only activity buddies.
and it depends on their temperament too.
i have some wonderful friends now and they are such great support, i honestly dont know what i'd do without them.
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