Okie...he lives in Ralston Oklahoma...is that near you? I think it's near Stillwater and Pawnee...not sure. I live in Central NY...quite a long haul! The University of Oklahoma is doing some kind of genetic study on him as we speak...only ONE visit to the doctor in 107 years???
Donna, ignore those people who say a note isn't personal enough!
You do what is right for you!
Thank you all for your suggestions. I am going to send him a birthday card with a picture of me, my sons and their children...that's it. Not that he even knows any of them exist, which is why the pressure I have been put under about this is ridiculous.
Alice...something similar happened with my mother... I don't want to know the details. I had wonderful paternal grandparents that I cherished...that's good enough for me.