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SmurfyShadow
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   Posted 7/29/2010 2:30 AM (GMT -7)   
What is the hardest thing (besides having a flare up that can make it so you barely can walk) that you have did in your life?
 
 
 
 
My hardest thing was sitting with my patients as they died and having them die in my arms. I hated finding them, deceased. It took a lot out of me, and if it wasn't for my minister I wouldnt of known what to do. I also found it very hard to burry a and k, my K9 unit that died in Iraq.
 
Smurfy Shadow/Desirèe 
DX: Wegener's Disease, Migraines, Diabetese Type II, PCOS, Lactose Intolerant, Benign Heart Murmer, Depression, Asthma, Asperger's Syndrome, Necrotizing Gramultous Inflamation in eye, A.D.D., Acid Reflux, Tumor Behind the Eye, Carpal Tunnel, Fibromyolgia, Clasterphobic, Arthritis, Anxiety
Medications:  Tri Nessa, Percocet, Metformin, Prednisone, Cingulair, Albuterol, Pro-Air, Morphine, Rolaids, Zofran, Compuzeen, Refresh Plus Eye Drops, Percocet, Immuran, Alvesco, Allerga, Gabapentin, Visteral  PRN: Epi-Pen, Albuterol Nebulizer, Benedryl Undergoing Chemotherapy Taking Lorazepam (Ativan) For MRIs and Anxiety, Surpressed Immune Sytem


MinnyMouse
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Date Joined Jun 2010
Total Posts : 197
   Posted 7/29/2010 4:16 AM (GMT -7)   
I guess there are two things in my life that were very difficult for me to handle. One of which I just didn't handle at all and regret. One, the death of my closest cousion, he died of cancer at the age of 42. I could not even call him and didn't before he died and didn't have the strength to attend the funeral. I regret that.

2nd - watching my step daughter when she was so young really screw up her life and the effect it had on the whole family. Her actions seperated her and her dad to the point that there was no further conversation. Watching my husbands pain through the years when was horribile. She then passed away. The pain he feels during that time of year takes my breath away.
Diagnosis:  Fibremyalgia, Chronic Myofacial Pain, Degenerative Disc Disease, Degenerative Joint Disease, Connective Tissue Disease, Lupus, Osteoarthritis, Anemia, Issues caused by being severely double jointed. Vitamine D Difficency.
  
Meds:  Vicadin, Meloxicam,Omepraxole(high dose previced) Vitamin D 50K , Ambian, Savella,Lyrica, Tramadol, Cyclobenzopine, Voltaren Gel, and Pennsaid Drops.
 

"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy paths acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths." Proverbs 3:5,6

 
 
 


sotiredoffibro
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Date Joined May 2010
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   Posted 7/29/2010 7:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Dealing with someone you love dieing is absolutely the hardest thing to go through. My dad died when I was 13, I watched my mom die from cancer when I was 23, when I was 30 I had a stillborn son, within 3 months of that my brother-in-law and his wife had a stillborn daughter, and a couple years after that my best friend and her husband who happens to be my nephew had a son that lived for only 5 minutes. When I was 43 my brother passed away and last year in August I watched my best friend die from cancer. I can honestly say I would rather go through a ton of pain than to have someone else I love die.
Gentle Hugs
Shirley
DX: Fibro, Gerds, COPD, Osteoarthritis, Osteoporosis, High Blood Pressure, and Depression.
When I get where Im going dont cry for me down here. (Brad Paisley & Dolly Parton)


crazykitty
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   Posted 7/29/2010 7:34 AM (GMT -7)   
I worked as an activity person in a nursing home and spent many hours one
on one with patients. My job was to find something to enrich their life as it
was coming to an end. I watched many suffer along with their families, but
witnessed so much love. These people felt like extended family and it was
heartbreaking everytime someone passed but also a blessing, knowing they
were no longer in pain.
 
Witnessing my Brother and Dad's suffering and realization of their death was
very difficult. They are in Heaven now and feeling no pain, knowing that helps!
 
It hurts to watch others suffer. Wish I had the power to remove all the hurt
in the world!

Acheybody
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Date Joined Nov 2008
Total Posts : 5929
   Posted 7/29/2010 7:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Wouldn't that be great?

For me, too, death of loved ones is the worst. My parents died a few months apart, two years ago. I pushed myself to the max, trying to help them. There are a lot of things I wish I could have done smarter, but I do have the peace of knowing that I couldn't have tried any harder.

Achey
This too shall pass...   
 
 
.......fibromyalgia, hearing loss, elevated liver enzymes, skin grafting (back), arthritis, scoliosis, lumbar disc damage, sciatica, IBS, migraines, tachycardia, cancer surgeries (face).......I take Nortriptyline & Clonopin daily, and Darvocet as needed
    
 


TheChickenPrincess
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   Posted 7/29/2010 9:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Acheybody said...
but I do have the peace of knowing that I couldn't have tried any harder.


Maybe that's important for all of us to recognize. We all seem to be very sensitive people. Maybe knowing, like Achey does, that we couldn't have tried any harder could help lift that pain and help work through the grief.

Acheybody
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Date Joined Nov 2008
Total Posts : 5929
   Posted 7/29/2010 4:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks, Princess, for saying that. :) I guess another way of saying it would be that the heart was willing even though the brain was deficient!
This too shall pass...   
 
 
.......fibromyalgia, hearing loss, elevated liver enzymes, skin grafting (back), arthritis, scoliosis, lumbar disc damage, sciatica, IBS, migraines, tachycardia, cancer surgeries (face).......I take Nortriptyline & Clonopin daily, and Darvocet as needed
    
 


Nana Monster
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Date Joined Jul 2009
Total Posts : 952
   Posted 7/29/2010 5:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Holding my Grandaughter's hand when she died. She was 7 weeks old.
10 years later I held my Dad's when he passed away. It's something that always stays with you. No matter the age,
the love is there. cry

SmurfyShadow
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Date Joined Dec 2008
Total Posts : 2386
   Posted 7/29/2010 9:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Omg how sad Nana. I'm so sorry for your losses. Something I experience is flashbacks. When someone dies that I am right there with, I flash back into all of the deaths as I worked into a nursing home. It replays one after another in my head, like a movie almost. You are so right, it does stay with you, no matter the age. It is because of love, kindess, respect, friendship, and all. My mother found one of my sisters when she was 2 months old dead. She died from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. gentle hugs for everyone
 
Smurfy Shadow/Desirèe 
DX: Wegener's Disease, Migraines, Diabetese Type II, PCOS, Lactose Intolerant, Benign Heart Murmer, Depression, Asthma, Asperger's Syndrome, Necrotizing Gramultous Inflamation in eye, A.D.D., Acid Reflux, Tumor Behind the Eye, Carpal Tunnel, Fibromyolgia, Clasterphobic, Arthritis, Anxiety
Medications:  Tri Nessa, Percocet, Metformin, Prednisone, Cingulair, Albuterol, Pro-Air, Morphine, Rolaids, Zofran, Compuzeen, Refresh Plus Eye Drops, Percocet, Immuran, Alvesco, Allerga, Gabapentin, Visteral  PRN: Epi-Pen, Albuterol Nebulizer, Benedryl Undergoing Chemotherapy Taking Lorazepam (Ativan) For MRIs and Anxiety, Surpressed Immune Sytem


Nana Monster
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Date Joined Jul 2009
Total Posts : 952
   Posted 7/30/2010 9:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Smurf,
I work in a nursing home, too. I'm in the kitchen. It's hard when so many of the people in here used to be my
customers when I worked in retail years ago. Knowing what they were like in their 40+ and seeing them now
is heart breaking. It reminds you of how limited your time on this earth is.
NM
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